Visiting a club can be a wonderful or a horrible experience. There may be a few in-betweens that are neither great nor terrible, but generally I either have an experience that I would love to repeat or an experience that I would not wish on my worst enemy. The biggest influencer has to do with whether or not the dancer or dancers that I spend money on try to provide a good time to me or try to squeeze me for more than what I have already committed to spend. Recently I had an experience that I would not want anyone else to have to go through. A club that I had been frequenting has $30, semi-private lap dances. And that is what signs in the club even advertise. My third visit there within a week, I found a new, cute Latino dancer and she promised great dances in the VIP. Before we headed back I had communicated that I had been there several times and normally purchased 4-8 dances and then tipped based upon my “enjoyment”.
Once we got back there and the song started, she removed herself from sitting beside me and started swaying and talking about a weird scale for the price of different dances. She said a normal dance (read her air dancing with no contact either way) was just thirty but that a nude dance was $50 and a nude dance with contact was $75. I was flabbergasted. $30 for a 3-4 minute song is $450-$600 an hour. To do what all the other dancers had always done for $30 plus tip, she was trying to make $750-$1500 an hour! I was not going to put up with that nonsense and cut it off after 1 song. I told her that I would have gladly spent good money and purchased several more songs if she would have made the lap dance enjoyable and simply charged what every other dancer had charged. She said we could do another and that it would be better, but I was done.
No one should ever try to take advantage of a fellow human being that way. So when that does happen (because sadly it will), we as patrons need to make sure we communicate our displeasure in a controlled and mature way so that the entertainers know that they made less money by being a ROB than they would have been if they had been polite and fair. To do this, we just have to tell them outright (preferably in a way where we are expressing some remorse that they hurt themselves financially by being a ROB). Even in calling them out, saying something along the lines of, “I really wish you had danced well like your many coworkers that I have enjoyed dances from so that I could have felt like I could spend a lot more money on you than I did.” This makes the dancer realize (though she might to too much of a b**** to admit it) that the person she is hurting the most are not the customers she takes advantage of but rather herself.
Another thing we must do is not let money continue to be made once we realize she is a ROB. If patrons do not stand firm against being taken advantage of, ROBs will continue to do so. So let’s work together to make life difficult for ROBs so that they either leave the industry or experience a metamorphosis into entertainers that provide good treatment and fair value to the people that pay their bills.
We all need a reminder from time to time, John232425. Some of the cutest babes that promise the world, but fail to deliver should not be rewarded. I've walked out of many VIP's when I figured she was only out to take all my money.