The Other Nut to Bust

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GACA
Un-retired: Met my ATF. Married her. Divorcing her.
I've been steady clubbing for almost two years. I average once or twice a week, can easily guess I've blown $25k in that short amount of time, so as far as hours put in I'm probably 7 years more than a casual goer.

So many times here I've heard that the reason men go to strip clubs is to live out their fantasy.
The strippers are hot girls who wouldn’t normally talk to a PL in the real world, but there, in the club he can pay for her time and affection.

The dream of fucking hot strippers vanished after the first few interactions, and after finding out how relatively common doing so was. Got to the point where I turned into the guy who figured at the right price you could fuck any girl (non-strippers included). Also I noticed that the last few times felt like I just was going through motions myself. Had to work really really hard to bust a small nut.

Reality hit me, I'm not into just busting a nut for the sake of busting a nut.

Turns out I like drama. I'm a damn emotional junkie. And the amount of nut I bust is directly tied to the level of emotional investment I have in the female I'm busting it on. Simply put the more I get to know a girl and get dysfunctionally emotionally attached, omg is that a nut that's gonna get me high AF.

"Get a girlfriend " one might suggest. .

Fuck no, pussy grows stale and nagging. I can't function in obligation, which most relationships turn into. I like the "NSA but keep me coming back because I can't survive without you" feeling.

The smart girls at the club are catching on and giving me a boat load. Jealousy if I dance with another, Caddy infighting as to who is gonna get my attention, one will blow me off to make less money and then tell me that it's all my fault she didn't make goal. And then theirs been a few shouting matches (club won't kick me out I pay to well, plus the bartender knows that I'm harmless and just a emotional junkie)

The new thing for me is telling these girls to play hard to get. Gone are the days where I walk in and actually pay for a $20 dance for myself. No I pay for another customer to get one while i watch, and the stripper eye fucks me while do her thing for the other guy. FYI -- pretty interesting how many guys turn down a free dance because the stripper won't look them in the eye. And I can understand that whole cuckold porn thing now, it does get me pretty riled up watching a bitch get dirty with someone else. Also getting stripped teased is a lost art.

And we always say guys go to the strip club for different reasons I realized mine based mostly on emotion not the necessarily the physical aspect.

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wallanon
8 years ago
At least you know what you like.
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shailynn
8 years ago
OMG, you sound like my best friend, he loves crazy bitches and he ended up marrying one. She will kill him someday with a knife or a car. Don't be like my friend!
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gawker
8 years ago
"Don't fall in love with a stripper" was an article I wrote in November 2013 which touched on several of the same points you raised. I got such a charge after watching her fuck her BF I had her repeat for me with an extremely well hung stud. Read it and let me know what you think.
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gawker
8 years ago
"Don't fall in love with a stripper" was an article I wrote in November 2013 which touched on several of the same points you raised. I got such a charge after watching her fuck her BF I had her repeat for me with an extremely well hung stud. Read it and let me know what you think.
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Papi_Chulo
8 years ago
Junkie might be the the right word - sounds like SCs are some kind of emotional escape like drugs are for others - SCs may be some sorta emotional crutch for you at this current time - at least you are self-aware of the situation and you'll work your way thru it in due time - we are all a work in progress thru the different stages of life.
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vincemichaels
8 years ago
Never forget Lorena Bobbit, GACA
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Dominic77
8 years ago
This makes sense. Sex (what goes on) is mostly between the ears anyway.

Horse for courses. Me, I'm just looking for beautiful women, who are a giggly, jiggly, bubbly distraction. So I prefer anti-drama.
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san_jose_guy
8 years ago
"The strippers are hot girls who wouldn’t normally talk to a PL in the real world, but there, in the club he can pay for her time and affection."

I know that this is what lots of guys think, but I don't go along with it.

People say that the fantasy put out by strip clubs is that you can fuck a hot looking girl. But usually this is not fantasy. If you want it, one way or another, it can often be reality.

The fantasy is that these hot looking and sexual available babes are women that you could potentially possess in a conventional relationship. That fantasy is almost always not a reality. Conventional relationships are always challenged nowadays, and with their hotties it would not go any easier. So strippers will for an interval of time act like they are your girlfriend. No problem. What they are giving you can be very good.

But my contention is that strip clubs are very important for the sexual aesthetics which they teach. But beyond that, strip clubs are not a solution to anything. Such solutions we will have to find other ways to create.

SJG
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Subraman
8 years ago
A lot of this resonates with me ... starting with that old saw, "it's a fantasy". It's not a fantasy, I can actually fuck a scorchingly-hot 20-year-old. No fantasy about it.

And I also like to have some emotional investment in my strippers, it definitely makes the sex better. It doesn't manifest itself with me the way it does with you ... I am definitely looking to adore the stripper I'm with, and a little drama here and there keeps things spicy. Not interested in seeing her dance on someone else, or get truly emotionally invested, but I don't want to be emotionally neutral towards her. The big advantage of strip clubs over everything else in the sex industry, is how affordable it is to spend time with her, and build up a bit of investment, so that the splooge is spectacular
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Jascoi
8 years ago
I know I cannot possess a girl. first of all I'm too old. second I'm too financially stressed at this point. so I just grab a girl because there are things about her that I like. first of all visual. The face of the first thing I'm attracted to. and then body. a desirable body can sway my short term decision. but this is all just for a short period of time. no more than an hour at the most. personality becomes a very desired trait at this point. I have enjoyed a few women that physically and facially are not great turn on's... but because of their personality and fun I have enjoyed them. Lord help me when the perfect storm of a girl/woman comes together. Face body personality. and I'm head over heels.
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san_jose_guy
8 years ago
So the girl is not pretending that sex is available, as she does not need to pretend. Usually the sex is available. But she is pretending that she could be your GF. While not totally impossible, usually relationships are challenged, at least normative relationships. She is just play acting if she acts like it could be real.

Most of the time it is the women who do most of the accommodating in order to make conventional relationships work. With a sex worker, she probably is already quite jaded.

SJG

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san_jose_guy
8 years ago
Reflecting on this further. The fantasy is not sex, as that usually can be real. The fantasy is that you could possess the girl. That probably is not true. It is not that she would be averse to it, it is simply that all conventional relationships are challenged today, and they tend only to last at huge costs and by making huge concessions to maintaining normative identities.

SJG
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MrBater2010
8 years ago
For me it is the thought, that I am the only one for her for those few short minutes of a song or 2. And the thought that if I wouldn't get beat, I would bend her over a fuck her right there for everyone to watch then get dress and walk out like nothing happened.

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Jascoi
8 years ago
ditto.
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