As I've explored strip clubs, I've come to know myself well enough to realize I prefer the company of beautiful girls who are sexy to just sexy girls. I enjoy the chat, the fake intimacy, etc. So...I decided why not use my money to deliver more than the "no sex in the champagne" outcome. I registered on two sites: establishedmen.com and sugardaddiesclub.com. I paid the fee for established men and did not for sugar daddies. Here's what happened:
Establishedmen.com: I got immediate action, most of which went nowhere. I am attached, so that relegated some of the girls to the penalty box. Of the ones it did not, I found the pay to play subtle but clear. My favorite was someone called greeneyes, who immediately wanted to meet. I thought, "Why not." I offered lunch to make sure nothing crazy would go on, but she asked me to pick her up since she had totaled her car. Interesting, I thought, that I would travel somewhere I didn't know and pick up a total stranger that already had tipped her hat that she wanted me to buy her a new car. When I suggested that she meet me, and that several of my dancer friends thought I should be cautious (which they did), she went nuts. She was none-too-kind about the strippers in particular. After two hate texts in a row, I had to block her on my cell. So...a girl registered on a site dedicated to sugar daddy action took offense at strippers. Pot, please meet the black kettle.
The next event was to receive intimate contact from not one, but two, girls from England. Both had lovely pictures, if they were in fact the girls in the pictures. Both were more subtle, taking my refusal for a full picture well at first, only to begin the subtle "If you loved me...." guilt after a couple of days. The one girl, who was particularly good at her craft, lured me with self-assurance that flipped to dependency and desperation, back and forth. Eventually it became an ask for a commitment to show her I was serious. I played it cool by asking her to define herself. Eventually she begged me to not make her explicitly state it, but eventually she wrote "this is all about assistance. If things were better for me I would not have registered on that site." That was to the point! So, now things are three for three with $$ for companionship.
Again, these events happened without so much as a phone call, let alone a real meet-up.
Sugardaddiesclub.com: Again, no money went to this site. Dear reader, keep that in mind. Within a few days I had several hits, one of whom seemed cute. When I did google research on her name (she wrote me from what appeared to be her personal email), her story and picture checked out. Seriously. She happened to be in town on a weekend I was unattached, so we went out on a date. She was very cute, and I spent the obligatory money on her (less than a private room for 1/2 an hour at a club, though). Things went well until she announced that her friends in her room (really, friends in her room) were hungry, and would I buy them dinner. After that, things cooled. I took her back to the hotel and my meal earned me a kiss on the cheek. Sugar baby tasted not so much like sugar as she did salt. I blocked her number too, but guess what. More emails, trying to entice me again. But, at least she asked that we define it as a mistress or a sugar baby, so I said mistress. And....no more emails.
Moral of the Story: Strip clubs are safe, and the rate of exchange is clear. You can test out any of the girls, you get what you pay for most of the time, and there are no drama filled emails or texts (unless you exchange phone numbers--but even then with 4 strippers in my contacts, I've never gotten any pressure from any of them). The girls keep things clear, but there's no sex. But....apparently sex as a sugar daddy is very costly and not even close to guaranteed. If you want to be a sugar daddy, pick a stripper and work her. If she's cool with it, at least your on firm footing. Forget the money and time for the websites, stick to what's real: strippers.
