Psychology of a Dancer
realent2005
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Reasons girls become a dancer:
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1.Lack of options. Many girls don't necessarily come from money and so at 18-21 they want to make fast money to buy clothes, cars, hit up clubs and get their own places. Many girls only have a high school degree and/or GED so there are not many job options available.
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2.Piss off their parents. These are the girls who come from money and/or a good family who would prefer they go to college. They want to do want they want to do and have no patience, so they dance.
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3.Attention. Many girls love the attention that their beauty brings. Being on stage, naked and in the awe of men and women throwing money at them is the only way they get satisfaction. This is what makes them happy.
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4.Sexual Molestation: This is a sad but true fact, many girls have been sexually molested at one time or another at a young age and this leads them to want to be used and taken advantage of sexually. Once again this is what makes them feel validated and happy. They want men or women to want them sexually.
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5.Sex=Money. This leads back to # 4, girls that have been very sexually promiscuous, feel that at least by dancing they will get paid for their sexuality. These are the girls I find who have between 2-5 kids, by 2-5 different guys. They are tired of guys fucking them for free
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This game chews people up and spits them out. These are the reasons girls stop dancing/selling their bodies
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1.Tired of the BS. Tired of drama with other dancers and club management. Girls get tired of the constant fighting, stealing drug use by other dancers and how it affects their life whether directly or indirectly. In addition, club management which turns a blind eye to these things, but promotes them behind the scenes.
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2.Relationships. Many of these girls just want to be loved, so they meet the right guy or girl, sometimes in the club and that person wants them to stop dancing. The other scenario is they meet someone outside the club and do not tell them they are a dancer and as the relationship grows they do not want to reveal this as the person may break up with them, so they quit
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3.Get older/Gain Weight. Nobody wants to tip the 35 or 40 old stripper who is not hot. Girls have a child or two and it does irreparable damage to their bodies.
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4.Get Saved/Find Religion. Many girls want the structure that religion provides, so they get saved, find god and turn their back on dancing for a better life
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5.Get a real job/Go back to school: They dislike the inconsistency of the money that dancing provides, the wear and tear it does to your body and decide to get a real job. They also realize they can't dance forever and decide to go to college or get some training for their future
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6.Go deeper into Adult Entertainment. Many girls quickly realize they can make more money and work less by being a full time escort and/or doing adult movies.
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How often this happens? Actually I really wonder, what most (full-time) dancer finally end up being? Do they get married even if they are single mom? What they feed on once they are too old to entertain? Hopefully stories will not be too sad.
Probably the most common reason for quitting - their regulars just got bored of them when either learned they won't put out, or, if they did put out, their regulars got bored anyway and wanted to fuck new girls or, if they were really good, their regulars all went broke, and now the money isn't what it once was.
A reason quitting that wasn't included - they got so deeply caught up in drugs they couldn't perform their job.
I'd forget about trying to psycho-analyze them as a means for getting them to do OTC. Maybe it inflates your ego to think you are next the Freud or have great manipulative skills, but the reality is that girls either do OTC or they don't. If they do it will be with anyone who can walk through the door and put up the money, they could care less about anything else.
Similarly to supplementing income, you will find many dancers who dance to pay for college. In college towns, such as Columbus, Ohio with Ohio State, many clubs will see an uptick in dancers when classes start and a drop right around when classes end. But a lot more dancers will say they are in college than truly are. The most common fake students all seem to be nursing students.
Another not mentioned are escorts who start dancing to gain clientelle. Most last about 3 months before they are fired for propositioning too many customers. Over the years I have seen many who do this, and most I would never consider doing any OTC action with.
One of the most common reason I have found that dancers who have danced at least two years leave is because they no longer have the looks to make good money. The common is that try it and don't like it.
1. Self-employed and my business is absolutely suffering in this economy as it is advertising based in a way... No businesses, no advertising.
2. My doggie who is super old for a dog had emergency surgery and I chose to save her and deplete what $ I had saved.
3. I, Apparently, am doing well but I will quit when the savings account gets refilled...
1. Self-employed and my business is absolutely suffering in this economy as it is advertising based in a way... No businesses, no advertising.
2. My doggie who is super old for a dog had emergency surgery and I chose to save her and deplete what $ I had saved.
3. I, Apparently, am doing well from what my employers and fellow dancers have said, but I will quit when the savings account gets refilled...
1. Self-employed and my business is absolutely suffering in this economy as it is advertising based in a way... No businesses, no advertising.
2. My doggie who is super old for a dog had emergency surgery and I chose to save her and deplete what $ I had saved.
3. I, Apparently, am doing well from what my employers and fellow dancers have said, but I will quit when the savings account gets refilled...
I would agree with others that stated that single parenthood is a big reason why many of the girls that I know dance. Not only is the money better than whatever else they could do, but the schedule works better too as they are often working while their children are sleeping. I also see a fair number of other people, like picksy, who have something else going on during the day and use this as an after hours income boost.
In a nutshell, I find the reasons above to be overly simplistic and far from universally accurate. This reads more like someone's stereotypical theories about what drives a girl to strip rather than an article based upon a lot "in the field" research.