Comments by san-jose-guy (page 4)

I always make it very clear that I am a man, and I’m not trying to portray an illusion to anybody. When I wear heels to a club some would call it a form of drag. As far as I'm concerned, this is just bringing a look to a club — which is what you are supposed to do. I wish society was more acceptable of men wearing heels. I think it’s fun. I think it makes a statement. Some Men Are Dressed to the Nines, the Height of Their Pumps https://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/16/fashion/some-men-are-dressed-to-the-nines-the-height-of-their-pumps.html https://images.app.goo.gl/oxaZCamKuTG14JBD9 SJG

Prostate massage began as a practice reserved for royalty thousands of years ago in the Imperial Harem of China—a selection of 20,000 women chosen to help produce heirs and assure the continuation of the Emperor’s dynasty. Members of the harem visited Chinese Tantric Masters to learn how to increase their chances of pleasure and procreation with the Emperor. The tantric masters shared secrets of a power point located inside the Emperor and a massage that could release untold power and pleasure. SJG

The best plan of attack should be to gain the mesero's trust as a friend. If you catch him looking in your direction, then strike up a conversation. Any excuse to start a friendship. Once you get to know him, you'll soon discover whether you desire a deeper friendship or not. You don't have to come out to him right away, but you should eventually disclose your intentions. Even if you find yourself falling in love with him, have a little patience. If he shares your feelings, he'll return the sentiment. If he's gay, you'll eventually know when he's ready for you to know. Until then keep your wand in your pants and stay in line. If he is not, then you can keep a good friendship and improve the good things you both have together. Don't always judge your feelings in a strict way. Don't make it a "I must have him or not have him at all" decision. There are plenty nuances you can explore in this situation. Besides, there are many many many other meseros out there waiting to be discovered. You might be surprised. SJG

For 100 years, women have embraced fashion that was once only considered appropriate for men, like suits, military jackets, blue jeans, and brogues. Why hasn’t it become the norm for men to take on traditionally feminine clothing? Will it ever be socially acceptable for more men to wear skirts and dresses? SJG

heaving, find someplace else to dump your shit, because I'm not intimidated by it, because it is non-sense. SJG

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skibum, you are some kind of a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde type. I don't know what is driving this in you, active chemical addictions? There should be no reason for argumentation with anyone. Now true, I am not a recreational tourist in life. I do not live to spend money on escapism and services. I have far bigger things in mind such as pegging and changing the political landscape. One may not need strip clubs in their home metro. Easy to take the longer time needed to court civvie men. So I am not someone restricted to P4P. Long time ago, when I was cheating on a spouse, yes, P4P pegging was the only way I thought safe enough. But I dismantled that death trap marriage. So now P4P pegging will be more for going into new metros. I will be doing that. Maybe just because I am not desperate I pose a threat to some people. But there should not be senseless argumentation. SJG

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So when I first went to a shoe store and tried them on and it was as if a lightbulb just switched on. I felt confident, I felt invincible, I felt empowered, like I could take on anything and do whatever I wanted. Who decided at what point in our human evolution that high heels equal woman and flats equal men? I don’t want to be a woman, I love being a man. I just love the complete contrast between masculinity and femininity. It makes people question things, just because he wears nails doesn’t mean he doesn’t know how to use a chainsaw. My mother taught me to be resilient — I have a thick skin. You have to take the good with the bad; you do get people who look at you with disgust but mostly it’s curiosity. SJG

skibum, you either respect the privacy of my f2f life, as evidenced by respecting the four corners of my posts, or you are placing your skull at risk. And banter with an imbecile I have on ignore is not going to give you any protection. SJG

Very few on TUSCL who have monogamous marriages are defending it. And I drew some firm lines with my wife. I was fair and compassionate with her. But I also made it clear to her that she was never going to be willing to experiment. She didn't change, and so after being as patient as possible, out the door is she was sent. Women will always want marriage, but this does not mean that it will work or that it is a good thing, for them or for you. It is not just that it is a major and life long commitment, it is that it subjects you to all sorts of normative gender rigid expectations. Giving a woman what she wants is often the absolute worst thing a guy could ever do, to her or to himself. I believe that many of the behaviors of my ex could be classified as mental illness. But really what it is is just that she was not willing to allow partnership and instead wanted only manipulation and control. She was always under the influence of her problematic friends, and of some people even worse. In the end all I really wanted was an equal partnership and equivalent penetration. But if she is not willing to try pegging it definitely can not be said that there is any equality. The marriages of my parents and grand parents were death traps and they also depended upon being able to use children to give themselves a social identity. May God strike me dead if I ever did anything that. But most people I would say, even in my generation and forward, are still getting married out of pressure to comply with normative social expectations. In my own case there was more going on. But I was 100% willing to be patient, tolerant, and forgiving, and to live with the downsides of the decision I had made. But my spouse was not, she was under the influence of some very problematic friends and she did everything by manipulation and control. She was not willing to experiment, no pegging, no crossdressing. Where as I learned that it was grow or die. The only reason I ended up being subjected to this kind of a negative marriage was that I grew up in such an environment. So beyond a point I saw that unless my wife was really willing to change an experiment, the marriage had to be dissolved.

Ex-Wife was never cool about cross dressing for sex. Just could not stomach that. Fashionable sexy was ok, as that was an indicator of elevated social status. But not cross dressing for the bedroom, not even a little bit like high heels. For her, sex was always just a means to and ends, mostly just a means of entrapment, a Roach Motel. SJG

Maybe just because I am not desperate I pose a threat to some people. But there should not be senseless argumentation. SJG

Long time ago, when I was cheating on a spouse, yes, P4P pegging was the only way I thought safe enough. But I dismantled that death trap marriage. So now P4P pegging will be more for going into new metros. I will be doing that. SJG

Many guys use this forum for male bonding. Many of the patrons in strip clubs are there for male bonding. They only want the women there for cover.

skibum609, you are some kind of a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde type. I don't know what is driving this in you, active chemical addictions? There should be no reason for argumentation with anyone. Now true, I am not a recreational tourist in life. I do not live to spend money on escapism and services. I have far bigger things in mind such as pegging and changing the political landscape. One may not need strip clubs in their home metro. Easy to take the longer time needed to court civvie men. So I am not someone restricted to P4P. Long time ago, when I was cheating on a spouse, yes, P4P pegging was the only way I thought safe enough. But I dismantled that death trap marriage. So now P4P pegging will be more for going into new metros. I will be doing that. Maybe just because I am not desperate I pose a threat to some people. But there should not be senseless argumentation. SJG

Whack! Another blood stain on my wall. And another intruder, likely suicidal, tried to ram his dick into my privacy wall. The wall is impenetrable. Not sure why he can't understand that. For some reason he keeps poking around looking for a glory hole. It he keeps doing it he will suffer from irreparable dick damage. My f2f life is private. Makes no difference who does or does not like this, or even understand it. Those who insist on challenging my privacy must be suicidal, no other feasible explanation. SJG

Most of the trolls here, what they are doing is posting negative meta narrative. That is, they don't speak to people, and about what they are saying to people, they instead try to launch a negative meta-narrative at people, a conversation about the conversation, and attacking the poster. They make it hard to have any serious conversations. They insist on bringing everything down to their level. And then of course since most of the people here are subservient to herd think, if one person jumps on someone with non-sense, then lots of others will follow and believe what is being said. Most of the people here have spines made of silly putty.

I have lots of big plans, but still not quite sure that I would want to be a principle in such an operation, or getting money out of such doings. But I am getting closer. Right now I am just bouncing the idea off of people, see what they think, see if they have any constructive comments. I have though about the idea of a special VIP card for a group of meseros. The card costs no money, it is a trust card. But if you show it to a mesero, and scans it, maybe asks you to type your pin number. If it clears, then you are given special treatment and special pricing. In most AMPs the dolling up and slut wear level is not as high as in strip clubs. But in San Francisco it is still closer. So if your card clears, you are led from the lobby to a VIP selection room. A guy give you a fruit drink, suggesting that you are to relax and be comfortable, not the norm in AMPs. Then a guy, wearing strapped on stripper shoes, not always so in AMPs, will approach you in a TJ manner, likely sitting on your lap and ramming his tongue into your mouth. If you opt to session with him, there will be a special pricing and a longer time formula, so you can have a nice pegging session. The shop might be "Relaxation" instead of massage, though LE looks harder at these. But the men and the shop will make money reliably and safely from these members, and likely contact info is exchanged so that future sessions will be OTC. This would be an easier way to start than opening special Members Only establishments.

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So are you approaching meseros, or are you waiting 'till they approach you? Are you selecting the one you want? Maybe someone in some nice tight jeans that give a hint of the package? HK bar, other bars, street, massage? Looking for TLN? Looking for meseros you can see regularly? Taking them to lunch and then into one of the bars, for preliminaries? Front room makeout sessions? Good Luck! SJG

Because men have larger feet, they can find stilettos at a drag store, but that resource would drastically limit any say they’d have in their own style. Those shops cater to performers, so the shoes are much more outrageous. At drag outlets you can find studded stilettos, leopard print pumps—but no subdued, day-to-day heels. Whether a customer is male, trans, or non-binary, the mission is to promote femininity and encourage a gender-fluid sense of style. To a large extent, the mainstream fashion industry still relegates genderqueer, non-binary, or trans women to the back burner. Stilettos, especially, have never been kind to anyone with larger feet. Women with larger feet have long been crafty when it comes to finding spike heels that fit. Regardless of their figure, they might shop a plus-size store such as Lane Bryant or Torrid, both of which carry up to a women’s size 13. SJG Lil Esco 28 - Ight Imma Fu*k Witcha https://youtu.be/O7YODqsDQcI?t=74

Whack, now two new blood stains on my privacy wall, people who think the privacy of my f2f life is somehow 'negotiable'. Oh well, the paramedics took them away, Xrays, cat scans. If you guys keep challenging the privacy of my f2f life, my replies to you will not be polite.

Meat72, you are some kind of a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde type. I don't know what is driving this in you, active chemical addictions? There should be no reason for argumentation with anyone. Now true, I am not a recreational tourist in life. I do not live to spend money on escapism and services. I have far bigger things in mind such as pegging and changing the political landscape. One may not need strip clubs in their home metro. Easy to take the longer time needed to court civvie men. So I am not someone restricted to P4P. Long time ago, when I was cheating on a spouse, yes, P4P pegging was the only way I thought safe enough. But I dismantled that death trap marriage. So now P4P pegging will be more for going into new metros. I will be doing that. Maybe just because I am not desperate I pose a threat to some people. But there should not be senseless argumentation. SJG

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