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13 years ago
Damn. Strippers fell in love with you? Are you rich or just really good looking?
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13 years ago
It's a tough read.
On the one hand, I can kinda relate. I went to Detroit as well and dropped more than I could afford one weekend. First sex I ever had outside of marriage and it was amazing. Like anything amazing, you don't want it to be over, so yeah, I wanted an e-mail or phone number or something...but didn't have the balls to pursue it. Then I met another stripper in a club nearby. same urge, to maybe go back, maybe become a "regular", maybe get "something more". And again, dropped more than I could afford.
On the other hand, I don't have that much sympathy (for myself or him) because it's all about money. That's all it is. The most pathetic guys in the club aren't the married guys looking for an escape from their life...that's just natural. And it's not the horny 21 year old geeks that blow in their pants as soon as the girls touch them. The most pathetic guys are the "regulars"...who think the stripper(s) are their friends. They show up at the club with hardly any money, thnking they'll get free attention because they're "special". But they aren't. As soon as a guy in a suit walks in and starts making it rain...you're an afterthought or worse, an annoyance.
That's their job. They make you think you're special. And even us veterans can get fooled from time to time (by the good ones). But when I'm out of dough...the night is over. When I walk in with a briefcase full of cash...I'm their new favorite. Same with extras. You want a little extra hand or mouth action in the private area when you're dropping $20 a dance...stay there for 10 dances. Drop $200 like it ain't nothin. She says, "I don't do that."...test her. What if I stay for 10 songs? What if I tip an extra $50? $100? $150? $200? $250? Everybody's got a price. They chose a profession where they get naked for money and let scumbags touch their private parts. Even the elite girls have a price..it's just higher.
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14 years ago
The only problems I have with the old guys are:
1) It's creepy when I'm getting a lap dance and I look to my left and 2 feet away is a guy old enough to be my grandpa.
2) They seriously hog all the action. I mean, these guys will come in throwing money around like crazy.
3) They are always the "regulars", which is kinda pathetic when you see a young hottie and you're really into her, then you see her pandering to some geezer because he's a "regular".
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14 years ago
I'll just start by saying I agree with the OP on this one. Guys really do need to realize that they are simply a dollar sign to the vast, vast majority of strippers they encounter. It is VERY pathetic to hear guys talk as though a stripper "likes" them or what not.
BUT...let me just tell you that even though not EVERY stripper is mentally screwed up or from a bad home...I'm sure the strippers in here would admit that it's a fairly common backstory. In a SIMILAR way, strippers need to realize that many of the men that frequent their clubs have some psychological issues. Sure, there is the bachelor party crowd, the young a-hole crowd, and the traveling salesmen kind...but many of the guys I see in a club are guys that either are trapped in a marriage that isn't satisfying them sexually or they are guys that are so desperate for female acceptance that they would hand over their salary every week just to feel "one girl" wants them.
I'm a Sex and Love addict. The sex addict part of me is drawn to you beauty and seduction. That's what gets me in the door and makes me so "in a haze" that I'll stay there for 6-8 hours getting drunk...completely drawn to just about every dancer on the stage...and almost unable to turn down dances or extras...even though I "should". The Love addict part of me, is the part that is constantly trying to convince me that the experience is more than just a "financial transaction". It's the part of me that wants that phone number or e-mail address...so the experience is more than just "prostitution". And it's the part of me that fantasizes about what a great "love" I could have with this young beauty if I could just afford to provide her every need.
Again, I'm not disagreeing with the OP, in fact I am COMPLETELY agreeing with her but trying to let her know that what they are experiencing is probably a very hurt and fragile individual...as "pathetic" as that is.
And just to point this out, you can't have your cake and eat it too. You can't tell guys they are hot (lie to them), have your regulars, and get your "gifts" (jewelry, etc...)...but then turn around and tell the guy he's pathetic. If you want to stop the confusion and "pathetics"...just walk on stage with a sign that says exactly what you'll do for what price. No "seduction", no "eye contact". And before every private dance or lap dance, tell the guy that you are just doing it for the money and that you find him and the other guys that frequent strip clubs to be "pathetic losers" who you would NEVER have a relationship with in real life. It's HONEST...but how successful do you think you'd be with that type of sales pitch???