Need some tips with this stripper....Help (Want to be friends)
prodigy1290
OK, so ive been to this stripclub about 3x in the last 7 weeks, and me and some friends decided to go 2days in a row (fri and sat)I spent a total of maybe 300 on this one blonde girl who is the same age as me (19). On the way out of the club on sat, she gave me her number and told me to text her. I texted her and she gave me a hard time, and wouldn't tell me her real name, until we talked a little more. I really want to be friends with this girl, not necessarily date, but just to be able to hang out. What should i do next time i go there. My idea is this:
Im not going to spend anymore money on her, maybe a little bit if she needs to meet her quota, but i just plan on telling her to hang out with me when shes bored. You guys think i should invite her for some food, after the club closes?...help is appreciated. thanks.
Im not going to spend anymore money on her, maybe a little bit if she needs to meet her quota, but i just plan on telling her to hang out with me when shes bored. You guys think i should invite her for some food, after the club closes?...help is appreciated. thanks.
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you're right. If you get to them before they get spoiled they can be allot of fun. Unfortunately that puppy period doesn't last too long.
I am not saying it can't happen....I became friends with a dancer OTC, but it took a lot of time before some real trust was developed. Her boyfriend had to get over his jealousy and stop viewing me as a rival. So, if you really want to be friends, keep trying. Afterall, as much as dancers can be screwed up, they are, afterall, real people who sometimes do have real friendships. But strippers can be master manipulators, so be very careful my friend.
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That said - strip clubs are for older guys with money. If you're 19, just go to a frat party at your college and select whichever drunk, hard-bodied slut attracts your attention. It's free... it's what the rest of us did. When you're a 40+ year old executive with zero spare time to waste, THAT'S when you go for the sure-thing girls.
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If not, sure, go for it. Your chance of success is almost nil, but it could happen (like you could get hit by lightning or win the lottery), and, more importantly, there is nothing to lose.
If you do plan to hang around there often, you risk her gossiping about you to her coworkers and tipping them off. So I would just drop it in that case, and, in the future not spending money on the ones you want to be friends with (and/or fuck, without paying).
Why are you telling this guy there is nothing to lose? He is going to waste a fuck load of money on someone for something that is very unlikely to happen... and even if he thinks it is happening it is probably a scam or she is a flat out taker.
He could be putting that money, time, and energy into something that makes him more attractive to a girl with her shit together.
Bobbyl's exact problem is he is a bottom feeding troll with nothing of substance to offer. I don't even acknowledge him anymore.
What prodigy1290 needs is to understand his motivation. Why this particular girl? Is there someone in your everyday life with similar attributes who is more attainable?
Huh? Who said he is supposed to waste a fuck load of money at this point? His stated plan was not to spend a dime on her now (a little too late). So what is there to lose? Cover charge? Cost of a drink or two? I agree if that is a "fuck load" for him, then forget about even that.
The point being that you can have fun with strippers. You can fuck them and take them out to lunch. But you must keep it in the proper perspective. You would be a dumb ass to ever think of marrying one. When I am in the club, My girls are the greatest. When I leave, I look fore ward to meeting them again next month. But that is ALL.
Trust is a bit of a factor, but it goes beyond that. Most people with STDs do not know they have them, as they are asymptomatic. In fact most STDs are asymptomatic precisely when they are most transmissible. Also some STDs like Herpes are not tested for by default, so someone can test "clean" but still have HSV. Also note that there is no FDA approved test for HPV in men. So the trust statement is kinda dumb, but hey, what do you expect from a stripper? Anyone who is doing unprotected sex commercially (customer or whore) is gambling irregardless of the imagined level of trust.
My immediate reaction was wow, what a brain dead statement. Not saying it isn't true, but my knee jerk reaction was that's completely brain dead.
Any word-o-philes or others know the word for a proposition that at first look appears to be moronic when in fact it is correct or could be correct?
Anyway, that statement about STDs sounds like something President Bush or Gov. Palin would say.
I was thinking of HIV when I wrote it, and shouldn't have said "most". With HIV the viral loads shoots up very rapidly before the body mounts its immunological response. At that point the infected person is highly infectious to others, and, indeed, it's estimated that 50% of all HIV cases are transmitted during this time (less than one month after acquisition).
The immunological response kills most of the virus, and, in most people causes "flu like" symptoms. But it won't get all of the virus, since the virus is crafty and is good at hiding. However the response does make the patient less infectious, at least for another 9 years or so.
But you are right, the statement with "most" is probably wrong. HSV is a good counter-example: it's most infectious in the presence of outbreaks, and has low transmissiblity otherwise.
1 - Strippers refer to guys on the tip rail as sitting in loser row and will not date as true boyfriend / girlfriend. More you are her walking ATM.
2 - If you or any of your friends got a dance from her or any of her fellow friends. Then the deal is off.
3 - Strippers change attitude and direction on spur of a minute with lots of energy and speed.
4 - Don't ever think of visiting the club while she is working.
5 - Don't ever go into the club at all. Strippers view customers as low life scum.
6 - Some times when a stripper gives out her phone number it is beause she likes you and wants to recruite of OTC activities.
7 - Enjoy it for what it is.
8 - Use protection and wash up after activities.
Hope this helps a little cause, you are heading down a road tthat is very fun, exciting, and dangerous.
*** Dont't talk about her age, her kids, age and especially her weight.
You are so luck, just have fun and prepare for what ever comes our way.
Bobby: I appreciate your warnings about STD's. I am just too old to give a shit. 2 things in life are certain. Death and taxes. 3 1/2 year ago in a routine chest Xray they discovered a nodule on my right lung. The size of a pea. I have been getting chest Xrays every 6 months since then. Any change in size or appearance and they would have cut me open immediately. This months Xray was inconclusive. I had a CTscan last Friday. Monday the Doc called me at work to tell me that I was in perfect health. See you in 6 months.
My point being. At my age, I see friends and family dropping dead all around me. A lot of them much younger than me. And not from STD's. I am not reckless. I do not have unprotected sex with just any one. I am selective. I will continue with my life style until the end.
If I were your age I won't worry about it either. Heck, I didn't worry about much back when I was into that sort of thing. I think there is alot of hysteria and lack of education regarding the subject.
I just found the stripper's statement and her willingness to partake kind of odd.
1- I am a stripper
2- I am dating a guy I met in a club, who spent money on me and now only does so in the usual boyfriend way
3- It is possible for a stripper to be friends with a person they meet in a club
4- Most strippers just want someone they can hang out with that doesn't treat them like a stripper.
we exchanged numbers and texted a lot and when he came back we both agreed it was silly to see each other in the club cause we obviously liked each other and went on a date the next night
Do you offer extras and if so, do they affect your relationship with men?