I'm curious about the more advanced psychology and tactics that go on in strip clubs. I'm genuinely asking from a "how does the game work?" perspective.
A few things I've noticed personally:
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DJ pressure / public callouts Sometimes the DJ seems to notice when the room is quiet, nobody is tipping, or guys are just sitting there. Then they'll clown people over the mic or point out the lack of spending. It seems like it plays on men's egos and creates social pressure to spend.
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Rapport-building / empathy I've heard dancers say things like, "I was talking to another guy and he was saying dancers feel entitled to his money, and I was like that's so real." It comes across as, "I'm not like the others," which lowers your guard and makes you feel like you're talking to someone genuine.
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Breaking the touch barrier I had one dancer chat with me for a minute and then ask if I could massage a knot in her side. I knew exactly what was happening, but I thought it was clever. It immediately makes physical contact feel normal and creates a sense of familiarity. I've also noticed things like lightly brushing against a guy's crotch while suggesting a dance, which can definitely grab your attention.
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Scarcity / urgency Things like, "I'm getting off soon," "I only have time for one more dance," or "I'm about to go on stage." Whether it's true or not, it creates a feeling that you have to decide now instead of later.
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Making it feel personal Remembering your name, remembering something you talked about last visit, complimenting something specific about you, or saying you're more fun or respectful than most customers. Even if they do this with a lot of people, it makes the interaction feel unique.
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Reciprocity Giving a little extra attention first; chatting for a few minutes, sitting with you, giving you a hug, or making you laugh before asking for a dance. It can create that subtle feeling that you should give something back.
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Foot-in-the-door Starting with something small like, "Come keep me company for a minute," then suggesting one dance, then another, then the VIP room. It's easier to say yes to a bigger purchase after you've already committed to a smaller one.
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Keeping you emotionally invested Ending conversations with "Come find me later," "Don't leave without saying bye," or checking back in throughout the night. It keeps you thinking about them instead of browsing the room.
These are just patterns I've noticed. I'm not saying every dancer does these or that they're always intentional. I'm more interested in the psychology of the environment.
What tactics have you seen that consistently work? Which ones are overrated? Are there any subtle ones that most customers don't even notice?
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Dancers saying its their birthday.
I don't mind the various ways the girls try to get me to like them or get me to think they like me since it shows they think I am important enough to put out the effort on. I do dislike the shaming tactics some use when they say things like if I want to drink or look at my phone I should be in a regular bar instead. That type of thing does not work on me. I have spent tens of thousands of dollars on strippers and if I am sitting there all night and then going home it is because I just did not see anyone I like that night.
You practically wrote an article with this “question”.
The only tactics needed: Play with the dick. Keep all attention focused towards the dick. And, last but not least, don’t forget the dick.
@ww maybe I should post as article 🤔
They take their clothes off.
Try to get you thinking you might have a chance of dating them.
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With the exception of #1, which I've never experienced, I have no problem with any of these so-called "tactics". If the dancer's attractive and personable, I appreciate that kind of interaction. It may well induce me to spend my money on her rather than one of her co-workers, but it's not going to make me spend more money than I otherwise planned to do
I've heard this one multiple times.....I haven't had sex in x number of months.
@magicrat A dancer in a no extras club told me she'd broken up with her boyfriend and hadn't had sex in a few weeks. She seemed to be getting pretty aroused during the grind and I assumed she was just a good actress, but then she squirted big time and started crying. I was glad I had Ubered there and had a change of clothes at the hotel.
Advanced versions of #5 - Asking me to call her by her real name. Giving me her phone number and asking for mine. Making me feel special by coming over and sitting on my lap and kissing me then saying “I told that creepy guy over there that you were my boyfriend so play along”. But the most effective with me is the line “I’m so horny right now - I want you to fuck me”. Works (almost) every time.
@Iknowbetter If she actually did tell some guy you were her boyfriend, she's playing a very dangerous game. The guy might get pissed off, cause a confrontation or worse.
Grinding enought during the lap dance to keep you excited, but not too much that you LDK. Once that happens you probably aren't going to buy any more dances that night.
@Boss Hogg My fav told me one of the regulars at her club would LDK multiple times during every club visit. She said he actually wore condoms, to prevent dancer jiz butt due to soak through.
You have a pretty extensive list. Not too many other unique ways I've come across. But what usually gets me is if a dancer sits in my lap and cuddles up on me, chatting with her head on mine. Or somewhat similar if I'm at the bar, she comes between my legs and presses her body up against mine. Both scenarios are either initially or after some dances have already been had with them that night.
Not sure if you mentioned, but sometimes I've had dancers who'd negotiate x amount of dances at a discounted price. Rare, but happens especially if you initiate the negotiation.
I regularly went to a club where the owner would instruct the dancers to create the fantasy that she's here in the club waiting just for you and she's so happy now you are here.
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