Do you think there is anything wrong with talking about your hook up “activities” with one of your current favorites if the conversation steers that direction? Would this cause jealousy or other issues? I feel kind of weird talking about my “activities” with other girls with my current favorites.
Obviously, this strip world is a different world where a lot of the “normal” social norms don’t exist. Thoughts?
In a non-extras club, I wouldn't. You want your girl to trust that you aren't telling the other girls about her breaking the rules, so you don't tell her if one of the others does. Although that does make it difficult to arrange a threesome.
If it flows in conversation, it's fine letting dancers know about OTC arrangements. You don't need to go into details, but sharing it conveys that it's normal, safe, and something possible with them.
It's come up in conversation sometime for me and certain dancers I would talk with on a regular basis. I always kept it real but not overly explicit. One girl talked to me about orgies and asked if I'd ever participated. I told her the truth that I was invited by two females to an underground "club" and I mostly drank and observed but was pulled into some private action in small room with a door with me and my two guests for some fun. My dancer friend was intrigued and told me the next time I went to take her as my guest.
"Talking about other girls with your girl...Do you think there is anything wrong with talking about your hook up “activities” with one of your current favorites if the conversation steers that direction?"
1000% yes. Just when we thought you didn't need training wheels anymore lol.
If done without disclosing the name of the girl, or even the club name (and certainly not "here, in this club"), it's fine, and even helps set the bar for your expectation. Either (a) she feels comfortable pushing things to the next level with you or (b) leads to her being disgusted by your depravity, and you save money.
You don't want to jeapordize the extras girl's ability to continue to work at the club by disclosing her potentially unallowed activities. You also don't want to create drama by a non-extras girl being annoyed by the slutty girl making more money than her due to doing things she won't do.
"Although that does make it difficult to arrange a threesome."
If they work in the same club, uncheap the situation and do a double dance. Unless they don't like each other that'll solve it. All it takes is one girl or the other to take your dick out and it's on. If it needs to be arranged OTC it just comes down to getting both of them to agree to meet with another girl, and then if there's still an issue ask them for their "no fly" list.
Nothing to gain. Lots to lose.
Girls bring up their OTC activities to me, and it takes the conversation in a more rated R direction which I like. Opens up the potential of doing that with her, and I know what kind of girl she is. I see it as a positive.
On the flipside, I know girls are more emotional. Idk, I guess for me it depends on the girl I’m talking with at that point in time.
If you tell her about the times you tried to get lucky but didn't. A bit braggadocios to make a point of only talking about your sex life when you hook up. But that's not a stripper specific thing. The boat has sails as far as not getting personal with someone you grope on.
Think about the goal expect to accomplish by talking about your "activities" with one of your current favorites - what is it?
Keep that goal in mind to guide the conversation and you'll be O.K.
There is no goal. We are just conversing.
It can cause jealousy on both sides. How many dancers discuss what they did with other guys? I would think its rare. Some of these PL’s are even possessive over dancers giving dancers to other guys. As you can see from many posts on here, there are a lot of guys who specifically try to seek out dancers who they try to convince to only do extras with them and nobody else.
It can definitely be used as a negotiating tactic too. Meaning a dancer can claim some other guy paid her $1000 for otc to try to get you to pay the same. Or a PL can claim someone else provided otc or extras for $200.
I feel no jealousy. I know the game. I enjoy it, and I prefer it to the civvy way of doing things. Obviously they’re hooking up with other guys, who gives a fuck if I still get to enjoy my time with them. But I’m a man, and I know women are more emotional, and may not like me talking about other girls. I’m thinking I just keep the other girls name out of it, and keep it relatively vague. Shows I hook up, but won’t cause too much jealousy.
I never divulge names. I want the dancer to trust that I will keep our activities private.
However, I will describe in general terms the range of experiences that I've had in strip clubs. Some of the newer dancers appreciate the "learning and coaching" opportunity. However, others are offended, or pretend to be offended. I make a mental note if a dancer is really, truly offended but the reports of extras in the club and avoid her when I'm in the club looking for extras. Not surprisingly, some of the neophyte dancers who act offended, are also pretty quick learners and start providing services that are comparable to other dancers in the club.
I have a CF that I am very open with what I do with others. She also gives me info on other dancers some times. Typically I see it as her referring her friends. Pretty fun to be in the circle and know about which dancers are hated and why lol
I wouldn't worry about jealousy. I'd be more concerned now that dancer knows you can't keep your mouth shut about extracurricular activities. Also has an idea of how much unprotected stuff you do with other dancers. And for those reasons might be more reluctant to engage in such activities with you in the future.
I actually literally described a scenario where I got a hj ITC with one of my favorites yesterday who has never given me a HJ, and a few songs in, she asked me if she could give me a HJ. So maybe it’s a good thing to let them know what kind of guy you are.
PAWG--- good point about assessing your level of risk for unprotected fun. This is also one of the rationales for a common opening question by strippers: Do you come (or cum) here often? If a customer is suggesting uncovered fun, then the frequent flyer customers may pose a bit more risk than the infrequent customer.
Strippers do NOT like to hear about what you’ve done with other girls in the club, but will ask you what you like to do sexually, and don’t seem to mind hearing about what you’ve done with your wife or girlfriend.
Apparently some do like to hear what you’ve done with other girls ITC
I don't want to hear the stripper BS, if she talks about herself fine. If she starts gossipping I shut it down.
The title of this thread is "Talking about other girls with your girl". If that's not what you meant then OP just say that. Talking about what you've done with other girls in general is not the same thing as talking about what a specific dancer has done with you. The only time a dancer knows what I've done with particular girl is when that particular girl has told her or we we're all there doing the same thing at the same time. If that's not how you do things then cool, but keeping a thread alive with posts to try and justify what you wrote is a lot more work than just clarifying the question you were attempting to ask.
I personally love hearing gossip
Yes, def jealousy rears its ugly head, but it’s also an opportunity to take advantage the situation, ie extras that would normally not be on the menu, or significant discount on the activities.
I would not get overboard explicit, since most girls would like to maintain appearances. But some disclosure drives the emotion and and emotion drives a woman’s hormones. 😉