What are some drawbacks do you think to strip clubbing?
I thought about it. I personally think it's mostly good. I mean if this community can't defend it, who will? But if you had to jump on the other side and say what the minuses are, what would you say.
I have two. I think 1. Whatever else you were trying to do in life, yeah that's not getting done. and 2. Saving money? LOL
It is an expensive hobby. I have sacrificed almost everything to enjoy it. I enjoy the interaction with beautiful ladies!
Money is the only drawback.
Why so negative?
Literally no negative. We have it too good. Us and those FKK fuckers in Germany. We have it too good.
Well if ya wanna have a civey relationship… it’s tough to compare them to strippers. Also ya gotta find a girl who accepts ya going to da club ( or hid it from her)
The opportunity cost of time and money are the biggest drawbacks. And then getting Charlie Browned by the Lucy’s who swear they’ll really let you kick the ball this time. But having said that, Im a grown up and am free to spend my time and money on other things. So I’m not sure there are really any drawbacks backs that aren’t my own fault
It is an expensive hobby. Still, IMO the FUN outweighs the out-of-pocket expense. Life is one time to live, so live it up and have no regrets👍🏻
Time wasted for sure. If the spots by you suck there is drive time to go somewhere good. You have spend time going through dancers you dont like to get one you do like. If the one you like is busy you have to wait. If the stage shows are long you have to wait. If the places you like are only good at certain times you have to adjust your schedule to make it work.
The sheer degree to which clubbing experiences can vary drives me bonkers. If I want to have a nice dinner, for example, I can go to a favorite restaurant, and 9 out of 10 times the experience will at least be acceptable. Three of those meals might be fantastic, three might be very good, three might be average, and one might even be disappointing, but for the most part, I can usually count on a quality experience.
Strip clubs, on the other hand...ugh. If I've got a favorite dancer that I'm going to visit, then sure, it's likely to be a good, consistent experience. But if I'm just going into a club these days to see who I might meet for the first time, I'm lucky if I actually get much of anything out of the experience even once out of ten tries.
Granted, some of that is just because my best experiences have been pretty amazing, so the bar is rather high. But I also don't meet nearly as many girls that I can truly connect with compared to the past, and if I don't really enjoy a dancer's company, I'm likely to be bored stiff (no pun intended) no matter how good the dances are...
Surprised no one has brought up the topic of potential for STDs if one enjoys extras! Potential to have your family or significant other discover your alternative recreation and activities. For me the time is a big issue as any club worth attending in my experience is 1.5-3 hours drive away from central Florida.
If you are enjoying strip clubs in secret, like I am, you sacrifice real intimacy with your wife or SO. As I’ve gotten older, and my club experiences have become more familiar (read boring), I’ve become more aware of this fact. I have a lot of favorites, and enjoy their company, but after many years of clubbing on my own, under the radar, it’s just not as exciting. My personal situation makes it hard to seek out and cultivate new club experiences, so I return to my faves again and again. Someone might come along to ignite a new exciting spark, but it feels more like I’m heading towards a slow down of club activities, and eventual (wait for it….) retirement!
Finances are the obvious and major one for me. I'm nowhere near a member of the $350K club, but there've been nights I felt like I spent like a member and afterward started kicking myself when I remember that things like rent are coming due.
And this might sound a bit odd, but there's also a bit of social isolation that comes with it too. I'm a major introvert, so making friends and having a social life can be more than a bit of a challenge. If and when the subject of strip clubs comes up, I can sort of the more mainstream folks mentally and emotionally taking a few steps back and away. Then after a good night at the clubs (by myself, naturally), even with some regulars (which I really haven't had for years), it hits me: these aren't real friendships. It's all plastic, all smoke and mirrors, all just fantasy and a substitute for what might be a real friendship, which I'm pretty much not trying to have anymore because of this addictive substitute.
We all know finances and your SO finding out are drawbacks. There is also the danger of being discovered by your professional network and having your reputation negatively impacted. You also MUST balance it out with real world relationships. Women in strip clubs are fantasies, sexually objectified for seduction and desire. If that is your sole intimate interaction with women, you will not be able to connect with actual female partners outside the club.
For whatever reason, I’ve noticed the people on this board who seem to be a club frequenter of the “TUSCL gold seal”(like Rhode Island, Seattle, Phoenix, etc) clubs tend to be angrier at the slightest inconvenience.
Random posts like “we need to hold these girls ACCOUNTABLE” and whatnot.And it’s not just only gossiping about whether a dancer provides xyz mileage , but also unnecessary and dangerous information like what kind of car the dancer drives. The random tuscler from some flyover area seem to have a more relaxed tone in their reviews and board discussion posts. I mean shout out to the vast majority of club frequenters in those areas (probably like 95% of customers if I were to guess) who just simply appreciate what they have. But for others, the club environment is either causing an issue or magnifying some existing issue in them.
^I agree to a certain extent - no reason to get angry (usually), but… Before I found this site I would just “vote with my feet” and leave a club, dancer, etc. behind and never return if I strongly disliked an experience I had. Now I can tell other guys about it so they can avoid it.
No senior discounts.
Gammanu hit the nail on the head
Wow. I know Mud asked the question but we’re really overthinking this. There are plenty of drawbacks like with any vice - gambling, drinking, overeating, drugs, extramarital affairs. Just strip clubs combine all of these.
On the plus side, if I never had strip clubbed, I'd have never discovered the G-spot, which sure does 2 things: 1) provides u with way better dance and 2) requires her to change panties after doing dances with you.
Ha ha - Shadowcat has the best answer
Similar take to PhantomGeek, it’s not real. Some guys argue against that and even some dancers have directly to me, but for the most part dancers are not the type of people you should or even could form legitimate friendships with. It’s just about fun and an experience. Going to clubs too much makes real legitimate female interaction harder and may create severe delusions. I’ve seen it in the club several times, where a group of obese unattractive guys are ripping into how ugly some dancers are (which the dancers never are) They’ve clearly spent too much time there, because the dancers would never even glance in their direction outside the club.
I was going to start a separate discussion related to the lame SC scene in the Cincy area but it fits here. I’ve been spending a lot of time in Cincy and it’s so bad I spend most of my time hanging in regular bars and clubs where I interact with civvie women. I realize how much I have to dial back the heavy- handed schtick I use when I’m sniffing out pussy at the SC. I probably started out thinking that my SC interactions might improve my game with civvies, but it now seems the opposite is true
In addition to much of the above ... the lies.
In the rest of my life, I'm honest almost to a fault. In this life, I'm a lying mother-fucker - and uncomfortable with that. I lie to family and friends. I lie to dancers. I lie about the money. I lie about the time. I'd say that liar isn't me, but ...
^^Sgrayeff is spot on about the lying, although I have far less occasion to lie to dancers than I do to the people who are important in my life. When I dwell on it, my psychopathy and my efforts to compartmentalize shock me
Yeah… strip clubs are not a real environment. At 75 it’s difficult to approach the kind of girl I like in the real day to day world. At least sc’s give me a chance to experience these encounters that I like.
@skibum609, isn't the G-spot the back of a woman's throat, or is classic porn lying to us, too?
Back to hanging out in strip clubs, a server in one club way back when told me that I'm a nice guy, that I shouldn't be hanging out there so much -- and I had never met her before! Sort of makes you wonder just how much backroom chatter goes on in the clubs.
^ Classic lie. A lot of backroom chatter goes on in clubs. Everything we think do and say is subject to gossipy analytics in the dressing room. It is why it is important to be nice to everyone beginning the moment you walk in. I do the same thing in my real life job. I always get asked why I never have to come back for the 2:00 p.m. after lunch call of the list and I tell people its because I am nice. They then scoff at me, say bullshit and walk off. When my case gets called before theirs, despite the fact they were sitting there for an hour and I was late, I just smile. I fuck up a lot, but by being nice the ramifications are always minor.
I discovered the G spot in sophomore year of HS. Aubrey (named after the Bread song). She was a crazy one, but we had some fun 😂
As for backroom chatter in clubs... most dancers I've encountered don't even really talk to each other. Too busy taking Snapchat selfies back there! And if they do it kinda gets divided among racial lines. Like the white girls don't converse with the black dancers. Or the Cubans can only speak Spanish.
You can say to a dancer "hey it's so and so's birthday today" or "that chick is from Minnesota" and most of the time they'll have no clue.
Even though I have spent a ton of money on strip clubbing, (and the ladies) it’s still cheaper than being married to my ex.
How do you know when it is time to give it up?
@ChiefsSuck I think the deluded losers were always delulu. But I also think you can be a good guy in the club and build your confidence in talking to all women. And there is a way to engage with the girls as human beings and they’ll become very cool with you. Yes you should still be paying them for their time and it helps if you have anything in common with them otherwise you might be stuck discussing club dynamics and how they see it from their perspective.
The money is an automatic minus to us all.
My particular life situation puts me in a position to have to ram a years worth of mongering into a condensed three or four day run in another city (Las Vegas). So I maintain a side account and squirrel up the amount I want to blow. It's kind of like going on a three day bender (of your drug of choice).....you're exhausted and numb by the end of it.
Why Vegas you ask? It provides the perfect cover for my life. It has lots of plausible activity to fill up the time I'm at the club. "I'm going to go to south Florida for three days....." will be met with an immediate....why?
I've noticed personally the more time I spend in Strip Clubs, the more disappointed I am by most of the Real World. Like yes, it's Fantasy World, it's Disneyland for dudes. The women are (mostly) attractive, (mostly) dress for the male gaze, (mostly) are friendly. You can put your hand on their thigh or back without fear. In the real world women mostly dress more conservatively (except the beach, god I miss Summer) and are far more guarded.
Another downside is unless you're dealing with favorites and known providers, the interview process can be tiring. Especially in mid-low mileage clubs where extras girls need to show discretion. And then there are price negotitations; You can get a lot of milage for $500, but it's more of a process if you want to spend less than that per trip and be able to afford more fun.
@jaybud999, I wouldn't wonder so much about a trip to Florida. I'd be curious and envious, but I wouldn't wonder. Now if you said you were going to spend a few days in North Dakota, then I'd wonder.
@phantomgeek, but you aren't JayBud's spouse. Everyone has different tastes in vacation spots/recreational activities.
True, @blahblahblahs, not arguing that point. It's just that I'm from North Dakota, which would make me wonder why anyone would willingly go there, and I have to think that most sane, rational people might wonder the same thing, well, at least after they found out that, yes, it does exist.
^ We've driven through North Dakota going to and from skiing in Montana. If I could live there, I would, as it is starkly beautiful and has few people.
The biggest drawback of strip clubs for me is that looks are not enough. Likability is important to me too. I can see a stripper is pretty but there have been numerous times I had a bad experience when the pretty stripper I picked out had an unlikable personality. Those types probably do not have many regulars but can still make a living by just getting by on their looks.
Burn out is quick. Tired of the reality of the smoke and mirrors show. Failure to create any genuine connections exemplifies wasting time.