Tall v. Tiny . . .

Funny, I had a similar experience during a recent visit to a club in Myrtle Beach. When I arrived with a buddy from work and find a table, a dancer kneels beside me and conducts small talk. She finally asks for a dance and I said I will pass. Of the next ten or so girls on stage I tip about 5 and end up taking one to the back for a decent private dance. After I had returned to my seat the original girl who knealt beside my chair appears and asks my why I did not tip her on stage. I said, quite honestly " I did not see you dancing". She calls me a liar and says you looked right at me. Obviously I was talking with my friend and not paying attention and she perceived that as my not wanting to tip her. This argument went on for a while and she began to get vocal. To nip it in the bud I finally said "I guess I didn't tip you because you were not my type." This really set her off,she stared cussing a lot, and she finally left with a parting shot "well you certainly aren't my type either." Funny thing is she was fairly attractive and I probably would have tipped her had I been paying attention. She ruined what, up to that point, had been a fun evening. When my friend returned from his lapdance I told him what happened and that I was ready to leave. I thought telling her she was not my type was the easiest way to end the encounter but obviously not with this girl. Seems like your experience was quite similar.

Hi snowtime,

Yes, seems like you got it with both barrels and a little more. At least I had a SUPER HOTTIE save the day. :)

I appreciate the truth from a woman e.g. you're too short, too old (Royalty told me that I was too old for her. :) ), too fat. So far it seems like only a small minority of strippers want to hear the real reason after they ask for it. I'm tempted to say that I'm broke, but that has backfired.

The best excuse seems to be that X dancer is on her way back. Of course, I've only used that when it was true or plausible. Another excuse is the that I'm waiting for X dancer, but that often brings more questions.

One young dancer appeared very upset by my honest answer i.e. she wasn't my type. As she was getting more upset, I asked her if I was her type? She saw a chance to get even and protect her self-esteem. She shook her head and said No, and confidently walked away. Of course, she could have been part of the super majority that loves to state that *looks are irrelevant*, fortunately she wasn't.

jablake said, "One young dancer appeared very upset by my honest answer i.e. she wasn't my type. As she was getting more upset, I asked her if I was her type? She saw a chance to get even and protect her self-esteem. She shook her head and said No, and confidently walked away."

That was nice of you to give her that opportunity to restore her self-esteem. I'm not sure why, but it does seem self-esteem can be an issue for many dancers, even those who are physically stunning. A few kind words (coupled with sincerity) can preclude an uncomfortable situation.