Let's say you're trying a new place out. You get inside, find a seat, order a drink, and after some times passes, you realize ladies are not approaching you for a dance...
Do you do the approaching? Do you wait? Do you leave?
I personally like being approached. If I'm not approached after a certain time, I just leave because either something's wrong with me or something's wrong with them, but something's wrong lol. But maybe that's not the right way to think about it, Idk.
What do you guys do?
^ What fun said. I learned a long time ago if someone catches your eye don't hesitate to approach her (in a SC anyway) if you wait for her to come to you she easily could be snatched up by someone else. I see little downside by asking if they would join you they either oblige or they don't.
Ye who hesitates masturbates!
Once I have seen most of the talent available (or I am getting to the point where I just tired of sitting around), I will make an approach on the dancer(s) I am most interested in. Stop her at the bar or wherever and ask for a dance, or ask if she would like to sit with me. On the one hand strip clubs are nice as it is usually up to the women to make the approach. But it is the other side of the same hand that dancers are much more receptive to an approach from a PL than anywhere else in life. On average, I would say the quality of dances I have gotten is slightly better when I make the approach on the dancer, with a success rate probably around 90%. And the fails are not like a crash and burn, but more like "I have a regular right now", or "I will stop by later" (and not doing so).
well said Icey. one of the few times I agree with you.
Since this is now and always has been a go have a few cold ones, hang out and see what happens, it is exceedingly rare for me to approach; regardless. I never have a goal other than going out for beers, since I do not drink at home. If I have an amazing experience; great. If I have a few beers, get out of the house for a few hours and nothing happens: that's just as great.
I would prefer a dancer approach me, but I'd also prefer not not to feel like I'm fighting off uglies all day. I realize these two things are basically contradictory and there's really no perfect option, so I tend to roll with it either way. I'll hang & have a few drinks, find ways to indicate my interest to dancers I find attractive like tipping on stage or something as simple as eye contact and a smile. If I don't get the results I want, I've got no issue approaching a dancer introducing myself and asking her to stop by when she's free.
It's pretty rare no girls approach me, but it's not that uncommon that the first few girls to approach are not my type and I dismiss them. I find that once this happens, in most cases the other dancers seem to notice and won't approach without some sort of indication you're not just gonna dismiss them too. At that point, I've gotta be at least slightly proactive or I'm just wasting my time.
My time is too precious to wait around for a possibly stressed, possibly busy, possibly tired, possibly shy, possibly oblivious dancer to notice me. If I see someone I like, I'll definitely approach. I'll mostly do it at the stage, but sometimes when they're just sitting.
If I see a dancer (or dancers) that are hot and turn me on, I'll pursue them if need be. If there are no dancers who turn me on, I'll sit back and wait for them to pursue me ... or leave.
Girls who approach you are usually the ones who hasn’t made enough money that day or the ones who don’t have a regular following. In either case, you will get higher mileage but not necessarily the best talent.
I don’t mind, either way, the one point I’ll make is I’ve usually had better results when I’m proactive and see someone that appeals to me. Despite all of the stereotyping we do on this website, women in general aren’t as comfortable approaching men and my experience with them has been that the ladies that I tend to like, prefer being approached.
I'll approach her if she doesn't approach me.
My favorite clubs are ones where you can just smile at a dancer and she comes over.
Yes, you're a paying customer and can approach whoever you want. But the way I see it is SCs are a service industry. The girls should be coming to you. Like a server at a restaurant. It's part of the service.
One guy told me a dancer preferred guys who approached her and gave higher mileage to them.
Sometimes the dancers are afraid to approach in general, afraid to approach specific people, dont approach someone they assume doesnt have money, etc.
Icey your whole motive is based on recruiting crack-hos to work for you. So your methods and logic may not be relevant for many.
Leave a perfect pair of breasts just because the lass hasn't approached?
My local club isn't too big to walk across, sure I'll approach 1st. And the under 21s have to stay in their area, so if you don't connect stage side, you have to walk over to them. They love it when I (wallet) do 🙂
Most of the clubs I have been to are big, so in general, I'm not approaching anyone. If the girl is a solid 8.5/9, then I'm inclined to see what up. If I really know nothing of the place, I'm more inclined to sit down and have someone explain it to me. I'd also rather turn away non-desireables. But lately, I'm starting to think that if I turn too many away, no one will approach.
I tend to assume girls that approach are more interested in working hard to earn my money. I'm not going to approach a 7/10 or even an 8 unless I'm feeling lucky.
For a 9 though? I made a stripper's night once by approaching her. It was a busy club, she was exactly my type physically. I asked for a dance directly. She gave perfectly average milage for the club, but her attitude was fantastic the whole time.
Tipping $100 is leading with money
I tip at the rail. And tellher don't be a stranger. Meaning stop by when you get a chance.
My rough calculation is that dancers who approach me are somewhat more likely to put out than dancers I have to approach. That's obviously an imperfect assumption, since some that approach have no intention of doing shit and some that sit back and wait will be all over you in VIP, but approaching a dancer just takes a bit more of a leap of faith. If I see somebody interesting my first move is just to attempt a level of eye contact that would likely be considered creepy outside the SC setting. If that brings her over, great. But, all I really need is a smile or even just her staring back and I'm headed her way
A dancer really should address this question.
In my experience, if a dancer doesn’t approach you, it is probably because she thinks you don’t have money to spend on dances or on her. In a strip club, the answers to most questions involve money.
There are a lot of things that you do that can give the impression you are or aren’t going to spend money or aren’t interested in getting dances: how and how much you are tipping, not just the dancers, but also the wait staff, whether or not you have gotten dances on previous trips, your appearance, what you are wearing, your demeanor, what you are drinking, where in the club you are sitting, if you are a regular and have a favorite, and what other dancers say about you. Once you buy a dance or two, the dancers know you will spend money and will approach.
If not approached, I will approach. If you tip at the stage and ask the dancer to stop by, that usually works. I did this once after no one approached and the dancer told me Alexis said ” you didn’t get dances. “
Keep trying, and, ask if you don’t get asked.
I tell the waitress to send over someone that will suck my dick for under $300. If it is a guy I say , "Holy Shit! I get to meet Minnow!" Then I leave.
I will approach a girl to ask her to stop when she is ready. It's up to her to return. I don't ask a second time.