Thoughts?

Can you? This board seems divided as to who can LDK and who can't.

I like to fuck. Being able to fuck requires stamina and orgasm control. Nothing fucking worse than a minute man was the mantra in the 70s. Since I can fuck for a long time, I have zero chance of ever LDK. Zero. Coincidentally zero is the exact amount of interest I have in doing so. What I don't want is to have my pleasant back roads cruise with a splifter ruined by 5 ounces of cum in my shorts.

I’ll take a good frontal/reverse grind until completion over a boring mechanical hj all day. Y’all just haven’t met the right girls!

Most OTP HJs are meant to give friction burns.
Amazing how few extras girls know how to give a good HJ.
Nowadays I want a GFE sort of dance. Dirty talk, breathing in my ear, things like that, rather than extras.
Just be naughty and convincing.

Extras are amazing. But no kids and no STDS are amazing as well!

^ LOL. What? You're extremely unlikely to have kids or STDs from anything covered. Even a BBBJ.

A good frontal grind/straddle is just safe covered sex. (With the right girl who knows what she’s doing!) (And you don’t have kids or get an STD a from her!)

Condom could break! @PuddyTat

There could be a malfunction!

^ That's never happened to me. Strippers are more conscious about diseases and pregnancy from customers than we are. They know what they are.

I can only address this as a hypothetical, I've never LDKed. If you can be satisfied without penetrative sex, then yes, take a pass. Less health risks. No pregnancy risk. She is less likely to have negative feelings about it, and thus may be OK with a lower fee.

True @ilbbaicnl

As a (not) proud member of the LDK team, I would still say it's ridiculous to suggest that someone ought forego all penetration/extras just because LDKs are achievable. In my experience, the LDK itself isn't even that great of a sensation compared to a proper load, it's more of a side-effect of an amazing LD than a goal to be pursued.

While the lack of STD risk is nice, sure, it's also definitely the stoogiest way you could possibly argue for being an LDK purist.

I once had a girl give me a foot job til o came. It surprised me but i liked it. Indian girl with really cute feet

@MajoraCream:
Obviously still do both!

Definitely not suggesting any one forgo penetration/extras! @MajoraCream

You can always count on @Icey for some interesting insight!

There is little to no chance I'll ever be able to LDK. It's not some macho thing, it just doesn't work for me. I don't enjoy a dancer grinding her crotch on my crotch while we're both wearing clothes. That's not my idea of good lap dance. I do enjoy a nice lap dance, it just doesn't have anything to do with a girl grinding or bouncing on me with my pants on.

I also enjoy having sex. The two are not really interchangeable. Obviously a lap dance is more similar to sex than something like eating a nice steak or a good chicken wing, which are other things that I enjoy doing but wouldn't really say that just because I can get one of them I don't ever want the other.

I pop an Asian Ginseng/Maca Root Men's Health supplement to increase sensitivity and pleasure. A lot more difficult to LDK without it. Makes me feel like a horny teen dry humping for the first time again 😂

@pawg_patrol now that is a money and time saver

LDK also depends heavily on what youre wearing and what method the dancer uses. Still, its harder to cum from rubbing compared to jerking or penetrating.

LDK can be a replacement for a handjob. It doesnt replace bbbj or daty

I definitely wouldnt pay similar amounts for an LDK as full service or bbbj. $100-$150 total, including any tips etc, would be reasonable for an LDK.

ive never LDKed, but suspect I could if a dancer was grinding nonstop for 30+ minutes and i was wearing joggers or basketball shorts.

Maybe the huge variance in LDKers vs non LDKers is down to things like duration of lapdance time, how the dancer grinds, what clothes youre wearing. Im not sure if anyone is really immune to LDKing

I've been doing commando sweatpants/gym shorts for years and the only clubs that have hassled me about it are Tattletale in ATL and PaperMoon in Springfield, VA.
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It's definitely an essential part of the LDK formula

I haven't been to a strip club w/o shorts/soft pants/commando in 40 years. I assume I might be able to finish in a lap dance if she was 100% naked and grinding on me while I was 100% naked; maybe.

If it takes 20+ minutes of lapdances to achieve the LDK, you may very well be paying close to or more than full service prices

I have only gotten close to LDK once, and while I hope to experience that more regularly, it would definitely never replace anything! A BJ doesn't replace fucking, etc. It's not just about finishing unless you're in a pinch, I suppose

I wish nothing but good health and Godspeed to all of you who can enjoy premature ejaculations in economy class with your pants still on. For better or for worse, I need a more fulsome experience.

I don't think I could come from extended grinding during a lap dance. It is fun when a dance is exciting enough that I wonder though 🤔.
Just not interested in going there. Different strokes for different folks
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To me its not about the friction. I could just go along with it. I just dont want to cum in my pants. It would just be a physical reaction not actually getting off

If she has a bubble butt, putting the wiener in the bun gets the job done!

If you have more of a shower than a grower, it makes it easier to stimulate it through clothes.
For many it wouldnt be economical to pursue an LDK unless youre at a $10 per lapdance club, where songs are 2+ minutes

@rickymacrodong:

Dawg, the girls in these good clubs in Dallas and Houston can make me LDK in 3 songs ($60). I know we’re all different, but I’m thankful for the women in my life who know what they’re doing!

Shout out to all of the girls that know what they’re doing. They’ll take care of you!

I’m surprised. I thought LDK was more common as a member of that club. I can usually LDK even in jeans so long as the girl gives a sufficient grind.

Jeans LDK sounds torturous haha. Maybe possible with enthusiastic OTP!

I of course don't know from personal experience how it is...but...I've never understood the desire to nut inside your pants. I get a little discharge and feel uncomfortable with it in my underwear, I couldn't imagine busting a whole nut. Maybe for guys who only dribble out a little its okay...

Have you ever noticed a customer LDK @apieceofsausage?

Yes, although never anyone who came a substantial amount. The worst is when it happens early into a longer VIP and the dudes gets post-nut clarity about all the money he just spent 🤣

I've only noticed LDKs a few times though, 'cause I usually make my money from shorter rooms/stage. Rather than try to sell 30+ minutes in a room I'd rather just try to make them an OTC client.

To each their own. I’ve never came in my pants on purpose. I only have so many orgasms left and I want to have them in vaginas. Couple times, dancers have gotten me tuned up then ambushed me by sticking their hands down my pants. What’re you going to do?

I only LDK once from a dancer decades ago. it was a mess!

If I did LDK in pants, I'd have a wet spot the size of a softball. No thanks.

On of my favs had a regular who she said would always LDK with her. He wore a condom. She appreciated that as soak through grossed her out. (Although she loved swallowing when she was dating someone.) He'd LDK with multiple dancers every time he went to the club.

LDK with condom on might be worse than LDK with jeans on. A good pair of moisture wicking shorts will prevent soak through.

Ilbbaicl, sounds like we go to the same club!

IMO, a lap dance is a waste if I don’t LDK. That’s kind of how I gauge if it was good or not.

Think of the muscle control they must have to make this work hands off:

qumilife.com

I LDK sometimes, depends on mood. If the extra is available, I prefer that. But it isn't always and if we have chemistry, it works out.

Talking about cumming in your pants is wild

I do it all the time. If you can do it, it's the best value you're gonna get in a strip club. Low risk. Maybe 2 or 3 songs get it off at $20 a pop vs 3,4,5 hundred VIP hit na Fuck all that.

Was in my regular club recently and saw a girl I know quite well (very cute) talking to a guy I recognized as a regular. When she was done with him, she came over to me. I asked her if the guy was one of our regulars. Her response: “No. I don’t like him. He jizzes in his pants.”

“her regulars” not “our”. Where’s that edit button?

@doctorevil: A few of my girls ask “did you cum?” They want me to cum.

Muddy knows best!

On the other hand, I remember a while ago, a dancer was trying to get me to take her to VIP by promising “I’ll make you come in your pants.” I declined.

What about when they whip it out and use their hand as well. Is it appropriate to bust on her stomach

I’m so glad I’m not a male and don’t have to worry about none of that. I prefer a face to face grind though and a couple times have thought about how I could see how a guy could get off to what was happening. I’m sure it’s great for the dancers as well I have had a lot tell me they have to change their outfit after our dance and I believe it because I used to be the queen of dry humping and not letting guys go any further in my college days. I wish I could go back and apologize to them all.