“Men with dissimilar tastes for women are more likely to become friends”

I don't think that study was well designed. "Speed friending" doesn't give real friendships, only a superficial first impression. I have friends with similar tastes and friends with different tastes.

Strip clubbing is a different environment, but I've had great dances (though not extras) with girls then passed them along to my friend. Then again, even if hormones are running hot, I know I'm a customer and a girl is only interested in either of us as far as we fill her wallet.

I remember telling Cashman1234 that he and I have no problem hanging out together in the same club because we'd each go after very different dancers. So, not stepping on each other's toes.

I think that there might be slivers of truth in that premise. Guys can be very competitive when they both want the same thing. And when a woman is at the center of that competition, it can end badly.

Fighting over the same girl is a good way to ruin a friendship.

I've yet to talk to anyone, aside from the strippers, in clubs. I tend to be shy w/women, yet, sometimes there is "something" that sparks-up, I can chat for hours. Pheromones? IDK. Probably so, however, my sense of smell is so bad when I've de-skunked my dogs, it smells like a little swampy water.

Re: https://www.psypost.org/psychology-study…
(I like the trident icon in the URL)
I'm in STEM, carrier architecture engineering. When we had paper resumes to review in the 1990s, in a stack of 30, if I saw 1 women it was the exception, and it piqued my interest as it was rare and she probably had her shit together better than the men as most were from the cast of "One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest". When it comes to managing projects, the best I've worked with are women, glass ceiling be damned.

Sabers at dawn. En garde!⚔️

Absolutely the stupidest article I have read in a long time. No man would get in a fight over a stripper with a friend. Maybe over a wife, not a stripper. Men who enjoy common interests and shared experiences become friends. I think the article was originally about women, but the author decided there's no difference any more with the young.

I disagree. I guess if I were to make a friend at the strip club or bar, it would be less likely to be the guy who's trying to bang the girl as me though. The corollary would be that I'd be more likely to befriend a guy with dissimilar tastes, but while technically true it's sorta disingenuous as it not only fails to capture the true cause and effect but effectively implies another one. I've never once got a guys number that I met in a strip club though, never made plans to hang out elsewhere or back at the club. Some guys do though, which I think was the subject of another thread you started a while back.

So I'm not making a lot of friends at the strip club or at the bar. I don't make a lot of new friends period, I don't think many adults do. The bulk of the new friends I'm making these days are through work, friends of friends, or meeting them doing other activities that would more significantly influence our likelihood of becoming friends. So overall, just given the sheer volume of friends I make where I even know their preferences in women its hard to see that making a difference.

Further, when I was at the age of this study the effect was probably the inverse. I played sports in school, so just based on proximity and opportunity most of the males and females in my circle were athletes too. Being horny kids, we were attracted to whatever was nearby. For the most part, that was other kids with athletic bodies. So, most of my friends were into the same chicks as I was.

To answer the last part, it absolutely doesn't impact who I go to the strip club with. You could make arguments about little influences, but they could go both ways. Sure, I don't want to fight over or share the same stripper with a friend so maybe I'd not want to go with guys with similar tastes. But, a lot of the better clubs tend to have a type they hire. So for us to agree to go to the same club, we'd have to have similar tastes. I could go back and forth, but really it has nothing to do with it. I go to strip clubs with the friends I have who have a shared interest in strip clubs, the consideration of which body type we like doesn't come in to play. I don't have enough friends interested in strip clubs to be that fussy, even if I wanted to.

With a whopping sample size of 38 ...

I get that - it makes sense.

My brother and I have very similar preferences - we both were HS and college runners who always talked about, lusted after, pursued and dated lean, fit women runners and athletes we knew when we were younger. Could be part of the reason we always fought.

I'll pretty much do anything. This would explain why I don't like men in general. (except you guys of course)

You're not wrong, spice. My best friends have been chubby chasers.

Not an issue for me, since I avoid high drama people. A low drama women shuts it down fast when a man thinks he can "convince" her to be interested, or that two guys are going to work it out between themselves who she'll be with. I doubt it's possible to even have a good NSA hookup with a high-drama chick, no matter how physically attractive she is.

From the article: "For women, the most important characteristics were friendliness, intelligence, and interesting personality." Personality, true. Intelligence, to some degree. Friendliness? That's only an important characteristic for a woman who's looking for a guy she can put in her pocket and pull him out when she needs to kill some time. Women don't give up VJ to guys based on friendliness. Never have, never will. Married or just fucking around, "friendly" isn't in the equation. Be kind. Don't be friendly. It's actually a bit antithetical to their biology, IMO. Women want security and protection, and biologically desire a man who can fuck some shit up if danger is afoot. That's not what a friendly guy is about.

As long as abide by the old adge of "bros before hoes," the type of girl your boy likes isn't an issue. Whoever the girl, remember, she ain't yours anyway, it's just your turn.

@nicespice

What is this “friends” you speak of?