I’m not sure why I get this all the time. When I get a chicks IG or number they frequently tell me they have given me there real name. I have 3 theories: they’re escorts, they think I’m worth telling that info for some OTC reason or they think I’m the kinda guy who’s turned on by that. 99.9 percent sure it’s the later.
I suspect they do it to attempt to make you feel trusted and special, so that you tip them more.
Unless you're putting a home in their name or booking a flight ticket for a trip with you, there isn't much a reason to know their real name. As long as you know to look for Velveeta on the schedule, or have Velveeta as a contact in your phone to identify her when she texts to pay her rent, it doesn't realky matter if her name is Velveeta or Vanessa.
"there isn't much a reason to know their real name"
Fake names separate their work/real lives. When you know her real name, it gets you a step closer to the authentic person and her real life, and also establishes some baseline for trust, which enhances intimacy.
Let’s keep it brutally real: If I was looking for intimacy I wouldn’t be paying for female attention. “Intimacy” isn’t the nature of our relationship. For intimacy she’d have to like me and dancers wouldn’t date 99 percent of customers. And most of us wouldn’t actually genuinely date a stripper.
Many guys, particularly the ones who were never caught up in emotions and got taken, will fall hook, line, and sinker for interaction with a dancer which is any step removed from the typical "wanna dance / want another one dynamic". By a dancer engaging in normal conversation and/or sharing personal information, an unsuspecting PL will suddenly think he has a shot with her and/or feel some type of obligation to tip her more than he would a typical all-business provider.
It's all part of the salesperson / closing the deal persona.
"Let’s keep it brutally real: If I was looking for intimacy I wouldn’t be paying for female attention."
Fair enough. Personally, a 10/10 who acts like a bitch, isn't flirty or sexy, or otherwise is just a mannequin, won't even get me hard (neither will an ugly bitch who isn't attractive). Physical stimulation alone just doesn't do anything for me. So, I need some intimacy. I don't mean "intimacy" as in "I want a relationship." I mean it as in, there's an attraction, some sexuality there. I'm not there to stick my dick in a hole. If I wanted zero intimacy I could get a fleshlight. So, the sexual experience is important to me and that is largely psychological.
I take the flirty/sexy thing like it’s a pornstar. Pornstars shoot stuff that turn there buyers on. Strippers do stuff that I like. I don’t see it as flirty if your saying things I think are hot. Just doing what I like isn’t intimacy. I don’t know a word between intimacy and flesh light. The closest thing I can call it is a performance.
It doesn’t cross any lines to establish a friendly relationship with people you do business with. I take an offer of a real name as a gesture of friendship, nothing more. It doesn’t really affect how I deal with them any differently than if they didn’t share. And some may be fake, “real” names, but several have shown me their driver’s licenses in the course of one conversation or another and they checked out
“Don't tell me your fuckin' name. I don't wanna know it! Jesus Christ, I ain't gonna tell you mine”…….Mr.Pink, Reservoir Dogs.
And that’s my mantra in the club unless they catch a glimpse of the name on my credit card and start calling me by my first name. Which I hate and politely tell them to stop. I want to be your customer, no more and no less. I have a woman who yells my name vociferously every single day so the name thing just doesn’t resonate with me anyways.
I've had girls share their emails with me that have their real names. It doesn't mean we're in a `relationship' but I respect the fact that they are trusting me with some of their information & behave accordingly. I would not share that with others unless they told me it was ok. Let's remember we are dealing with people here, who are often dealing with many of us who don't really respect them (as evidenced by some of the comments on this thread). When they meet someone who is considerate, they appreciate it, as do I when it's the other way around. It costs nothing to be nice & respectful.
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Unless you're putting a home in their name or booking a flight ticket for a trip with you, there isn't much a reason to know their real name. As long as you know to look for Velveeta on the schedule, or have Velveeta as a contact in your phone to identify her when she texts to pay her rent, it doesn't realky matter if her name is Velveeta or Vanessa.
Fake names separate their work/real lives. When you know her real name, it gets you a step closer to the authentic person and her real life, and also establishes some baseline for trust, which enhances intimacy.
It's all part of the salesperson / closing the deal persona.
Fair enough. Personally, a 10/10 who acts like a bitch, isn't flirty or sexy, or otherwise is just a mannequin, won't even get me hard (neither will an ugly bitch who isn't attractive). Physical stimulation alone just doesn't do anything for me. So, I need some intimacy. I don't mean "intimacy" as in "I want a relationship." I mean it as in, there's an attraction, some sexuality there. I'm not there to stick my dick in a hole. If I wanted zero intimacy I could get a fleshlight. So, the sexual experience is important to me and that is largely psychological.
And that’s my mantra in the club unless they catch a glimpse of the name on my credit card and start calling me by my first name. Which I hate and politely tell them to stop. I want to be your customer, no more and no less. I have a woman who yells my name vociferously every single day so the name thing just doesn’t resonate with me anyways.