Should I stop going?

So I started going to the clubs when I was in a down place and had just stoped drinking, I had lost all myself confidence. I decided to start working out, I’ve lost over 30lbs over the last 10 months after working out 6 times a week. I’m down to about 175 with a very athletic build, and have been told I’m very decent looking.
A good portion of the dances now feel like a reverse lap dance where I get felt up the whole time.

I almost always end up getting extras but it feels very unfulfilling. I see a couple of dancers outside of the club, one where I don’t have to pay, I just take her to dinner and then fun time. I think she’s more into it than I am.

I guess I should state im 37, the women my age mostly have kids which I have absolutely no interest in getting to know and those that don’t are usually crazy. i Really have no idea what to think any more, it’s starting to get to the point where it feels like expensive masturbation.