Hi all,
I have been to clubs about 5 times over the last 15 years, but really enjoyed it every time I went. Now that I'm making a bit more money I'd like to go a few more times per year, but there are still some very basic etiquette questions that I'd like answers to in order to maximize my enjoyment when I go. I'm probably overthinking a lot of these points, but that's how my brain works.
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If you're seated by the stage, is it expected that you tip every dancer that goes up? If so, how much per dancer? Last time I went I would throw down about 10 singles per dancer, but that ate up my stash pretty quickly.
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Is it better to "make it rain" on dancers, or put dollars in their straps? I'm always hesitant to touch the dancer without consent, so I usually just throw the dollars at or around her, but not sure if this is weird. I see other dudes come up and just put dollars in her straps.
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How long is it acceptable to talk with a dancer before giving her money or getting a dance from her? I'm hyper aware that that's what she's talking to me for, so I usually try for 15 minutes or less, but I'd like to talk to them for longer if that's acceptable.
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Is it rude to talk to a dancer for an extended period of time and not get a dance from her? Could I instead tip her like $10 and say thanks for the convo but not really interested in a dance right now?
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How much should you tip for say a $30 dance? $250 private?
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I've noticed that after I get a dance, that dancer usually won't make the rounds to me again. Is that common? Can I tell her after the dance to come talk to me again if she get bored?
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To the above point, what do you do / how do you act on the way out of a private dance? I usually just tip, say thanks, and walk away, but do the girls enjoy a little more interaction/conversation post dance?
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How do you measure whether it's a good time to bring up extras, and how do you bring it up so that you don't get kicked out?
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If the reviews of the club generally say "no extras" is it even worth bringing up, or does it depend on the girl?
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Do you always tip the check-in guy/girl, manager, doorman, bathroom attendant, etc?
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Anything I should know or be aware of regarding going to a club alone? Unfortunately none of my friends are about this life, so I'm stuck going on my own. It's a bit nerve racking, but it's been fun that couple of times I've done it.
I know some of these are subjective questions, but any insight would be greatly appreciated. Any additional tips/tricks from those of you with some experience would also be welcome! Thanks!
Yea, pretty much expected to tip the performer if you're stage-side. How much? ehh, not such a clear answer. I've tipped $2 for a 3-song set and felt like it was enough because there were a lot of guys there tipping and keeping her occupied. I've tipped closer to $10 and felt cheap cause I was the only one there & she was hot & enthusiastic.
Depends on your preferences and the area/club norms, and often the girl herself. If you can't wait a few minutes and watch others first, hold out your tip and see how she reacts. If she dances in front of you but doesn't come close enough to slip a tip in her g-string, she probably doesn't want to be touched. If she approaches and sticks out her hip or thigh where her garter is, makes a little bowl with her tits, pulls her g-string out a bit to make room for you to slide a tip in, or some other similar move, she's probably expecting some physical contact.
Again, depends on the scenario. If you're gonna buy a single lap dance at $25, don't sit and talk to the girl for an hour first. Especially if the club is busy and her opportunity cost is high. But if you're likely to drop a couple hundred on dances or a room, and she's willing to sit with you, take as long as you like. Again, especially true if the club is basically empty and shes not losing money sitting with you. IMO, as long as your conscious of the concept that's she's working and not your girlfriend, then you're usually fine.
IMO - it's rude to keep her engaged after you've decided you're not gonna get a dance. At the same time, if she slow rolls her pitch and fails to make a sale after an extended period, that's on her and just part of the job no sales work has 100% success rate. You don't owe her a thing. If you feel better giving her a consolation prize, that's fine. Keep in mind that some girls specifically target those rejection tips and you'll see yourself being approached by bottom tier girls hoping to get a few bucks from you if you make a habit of it.
Tips are fucking optional. I tip based on how well the dance or room went. If she did the bare minimum, I'm not tipping shit. If she did average, I usually "round up" to the nearest $20. So, if I owe her $50 I'd give her 60. That stops working with higher numbers, but usually if we're doing more than a few dances its because she's doing a good job and I'll tip heavier.
Yes, that's common. It's not common for customers to get dances from the same girl twice. Not unheard of, but not common. You can ask her to return, if you say something like "if you get bored" she's gonna take that to mean you just want to sit and talk for free and not come back. If you want more dances later, tell her that.
Running theme - depends on the situation. Most girls are ready to move on once you've paid them. But, in a situation where return business is on the table, the rules change. If you're interested in seeing her again, invite her back to sit with you. Offer her a drink or something. Talk about coming back, what's her schedule, etc. She almost certainly doesn't "want" to sit and have pillow talk and cuddle after. But she'll probably spend some more time with you if it'll get her return business. Some girls won't care about return business, they work sporadically, don't like regulars, whatever. But some will.
If you can't tell if its okay to at least ask after a couple dances or reading some reviews on here, then don't ever bring it up. Ideally you know what you're getting into before you get to the club and you can just ask if that's what you want. I've never had an issue bringing it up. I've had plenty of girls say no, they don't do that. A few get a little offended. Just don't be a dick about it and take no for an answer if that's what it is.
After you've done it enough, you'll be able to answer this question on your own. In the meantime, don't try to get extras in a clean club. You'll just get labeled as a creep. But, in my experience it's pretty common for there to be at least some girls who are willing to see customers OTC in the cleanest of clubs. But discretion is key.
Usually, no, no yes. I'll tip the parking guy, the door girl, and bathroom guy regularly. The manager/security rarely to occasionally.
I go alone regularly. Look around the club, most guys go alone.