Hobby or harm reduction?
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Keep it in my pants when I do OTC. If I were a stripper it would stand for I like big bucks and I can not lie.
Can persistent sexual desire be considered an addiction? I say "persistent", since some women say they don't feel particularly horny when they're not in love. Many consider addiction to be something people fall into due to lack of self-discipline. But, seems more complicated to me, addicts seem to enjoy (at first) what they're addicted to more than average. So you can say that sex is something that a higher percentage of people greatly enjoy.
I think, for me at least, going to strip clubs is harm reduction on the whole. I stopped going for several months, but started to slip into a deep depression. It's a better option than getting married just for sex. Or streetwalkers who likely are addicts (lacking in harm reduction) and/or are pimped. I think I´d be happier if I just lost interest in sex.
I would miss the relationships/conversations I"ve had with a lot of my favs. It's the only situation where I have a fairly open conversation with people under 40. These days it's the only situation where I have a fairly open conversation with a non-white person. And strippers tend to have interesting lifestyles, "outlaw" to some extent.
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I felt different in my fifties. The dancers looked much better than anyone I could date. A lot of older women can't admit to themselves their looks are gone and still want guys to treat them like they are a hot twenty-year-old. Spending time with a demanding sexually unattractive old woman was what made me depressed and having a cute young girl at the strip club being friendly to me and doing lap dances with me increased my happiness.
Does the harm reduction theory apply to only the customer?
No not at the moment, but it comes and goes.
The diagnostic service manual that the psych industry uses used to have a sex related item “hyper sexuality” but it got pulled in the current version. Now they’re looking at putting it back on for the next one, but it will be more about the typical addiction language: compulsive behavior, negative consequences, trying to quit, etc. it’s probably a thing, but it’s not clearly defined by research and controversial.
It sounds like you feel lonely more so than guilty. Using strippers for sex won't fix your feelings of loneliness.
I don't know universal solutions for male loneliness but a low committal option would be working out. Since it sounds you're craving platonic relationships with women you could always try internet dating; just be careful to not commit yourself to anything more than platonic lest you be taken advantage of.
Yes, I do have guilt/regret feelings. They typically want their shot at romance, like women in general. Stripping makes it an even longer long shot.
We're functional addicts. The worse consequence typically is contributing to the breakup with an SO, but there's usually other issues with the SO. Only heard of one guy who emptied out his 401K.
If you observe the negative consequences in your life because of X, decide you have a problem with X, try to quit X, and can't keep from coming back to X, then you have a problem with X. You could then be said to be displaying addictive behavior wrt X.
On the other hand, if you feel your life is in balance, and you indulge in X, then you have a hobby, nothing more.
I don't think that strip clubs are aggravating on the whole, but I do get aggravated occasionally at a SC and then write about it here.