ATF/CF retirement
booty_lover92
Somewhere in the Carolinas
I’m pretty new to clubbing, about a years and a half. I have noticed a lot of the girls that I used to see regularly show up less and less. The bad thing is it’s a usually a girl that I have a strong liking for and consider a CF or ATF. how often should you expect girls to rotate in and out and is a usually young strippers that stop?
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It's okay to like and even care for particular dancers. Some guys here have known dancers for 10 years or more. But even then it's not a great idea to catch feelings or "fall in love" with a dancer. I'm not sure where your "strong liking" falls on that spectrum.
If a dancer evaporates into thin air, you should not expect or try to predict when/if she's coming back. That way, you can be pleasantly surprised if she does.
When I think of all the faves I had over the years that just quit or disappeared it's disappointing considering that I haven't met a dancer I'd consider a favorite for what seems to be a few years.
But hey, there's always the possibility that another fave is just around the corner.
I used to develop a strong attachment to my regulars, but I've come to realize this is a temporary and pretty shallow relationship. I don't believe, though, that it is entirely a business transaction. They like it that I picked them out of all the girls in the strip club to pay attention to. Women like being noticed and like men taking care of them. Some of them come from an unstable environment where the men in their life from their father down to their boyfriends are undependable. Their male customer regular relationships may last longer than many of their non-customer male relationships last.
Sometimes there is a second act where they come back, and you can resume the regular relationship. I don't try to see them after they leave the profession. I'm too old to be a boyfriend and don't care about being a sugar daddy. I had dinner with my six-year regular after she left, and she was a different person. Not a bad person, just a different one. The friendly stripper you liked so much disappears after she leaves the profession. I don't care about being one of her fifty Facebook friends or having a rare dinner with an ex-regular. When they leave, I think of it as an opportunity to meet someone new.
1. They were studying for a straight job, and they got the straight job.
2. The fall in love with an SO who is not OK with them stripping. They often come back. Some will sneak into the club from time to time, when they can do it behind the SO's back.
3. They move to a different club. So you can go there and see them, if it's not in a far away location. They often come back.
4. They get assaulted and/or drugged by a PL. This fortunately is the least common reason but it happens. Sometimes 4 is what leads to 3.
If you'd like to keep up with a stripper you've become fond of & a regular patron of, ask her for a way to do so. I'm not a social media guy, so I always ask for a phone number, but if you're comfortable with using social media do that. Before you go exchanging contact info though, search around some of the other threads on the site about burner numbers and stuff, as there are some potential privacy concerns that may arise depending on your situation and some pretty cheap & easy solutions.
Someone else mentioned, getting too invested or attached is probably a bad idea. Both for your well-being, but also hers. You need to think about your boundaries as well being mindful and respectful of hers. She's probably not interested in you and it's low risk she'll become a stalker. But you could piss her or maybe her friends, family, significant other off and you'll want to try to avoid that drama. She's got the same concerns, only instead of being low risk of being stalked she's actually quite high risk. Expect her to take steps to keep you at a safe distance and don't try to fight her on it. Keep the distance, its best for both of you. Don't be the jackass demanding her real name and/or real number or address or any of that shit. And if you reach out and she doesn't respond, let it go and move on. Don't hound the poor girl dozens of times. You don't want to be that thirsty or that creepy.
It's quite normal to be in the middle though. Exchange numbers, exchange texts about scheduling or location changes, maybe make arrangements to meet each other ITC or OTC. It's also quite normal for that to end abruptly, take along break, or go on that way until you get bored of each other. I've also had a number of girls give me a warning before they move on, either literally moving to another area or moving to another line of work. And as others mentioned, it's not unheard of for them to come back or to reach out to certain customers periodically while remaining mostly retired.