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Getting too turned on boundaries?

Do some dancers have boundaries about not getting too turned on during a dance?
Some of the dances ive gotten it seems like they very carefully avoid grinding their pussy on the crotch or leg for too long of a time period. They’ll grind it, but switch positions often. Pussy touching is allowed, but only very minimally. Boob/nipple touching is allowed, but also with limits in some cases.

One dancer allowed playing with her nipples, but halfway through one dance said no more nipple play because i was “activating her nipple”.
What does that mean? This was a dancer with milk, so that choice of words could be interpreted in at least two ways. Either milk coming out, getting too turned on, or both. I felt a bit scammed since prior dances there wasn’t any sort of issue or mention of “activated nipples”, and she squirted milk with no problems previously.
It was basically a new rule, created out of thin air, halfway through the middle of a dance I already paid for. Had I known about this new “policy” I wouldn’t have even got the dance.

To have that as a boundary seems crazy to me. It’s basically putting limits on the lapdance which shouldn’t really be there. Obviously, it makes sense to not want customers causing physical harm. But to say “you can touch my pussy/ass/boobs, just as long as I don’t get too turned on” seems excessive. This wasn’t outright said, but it seems to be the implication.

Have you ran into a situation where a dancer had restrictions like this? A 15 minute or 30 minute dance where she wants to limit the amount and duration of touching, after the dance has started? Basically setting up new rules mid dance?

If you paid up front, you basically got scammed. I think it could also be a power trip, similar to how some dancers believe in the concept of finessing, like intentionally trying to do as little work as possible whilst getting the most money for it in order to brag about it to their friends. Kind of an embarrassing situation to be in, it’s kind of like a long term ROB type thing. You’d think the rules in each dance remain the same, but they can actually change in a split second, so you basically need to verify before each dance and hope they don’t turn into a ROB.

These sorts of things make it extremely difficult for me to get more than 2-3 dances with the same dancer. I think if you’re a “regular” customer whether ITC or OTC, the dancer may start to get too comfortable and start putting in less and less effort.
When I tested this out with one dancer, the first dance she was absolutely crazy, the fourth and final dance, weeks later, she spent the first 5 minutes just laying her boobs on me and talking. It sucks you basically can’t be too much of a regular or you’ll get taken advantage of. Had I continued to be a regular in that instance, I may eventually have been asked for money just to look at her. It seems like that’s where things would have been headed.


I think some people operate differently. If you spend more money on them they actually lose respect for you. You basically have to use reverse psychology, as someone with this kind of condition will likely be rejecting OTC offers of $600 but accepting OTC offers of $200. The more money you spend, the less they think of you. The less you spend, the more they think of you. It’s really sad stuff if you think about it. The more you see them, the more respect is lost, the less you see them, the more they respect you.