Stage Tipping Etiquette

33 comments

• Champphilly

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  2 years ago

  $2 stage tipping is decent enough even during inflation. If you are regular to the dancer, then min a $5 tip appreciated.
• samiel

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  2 years ago

  General etiquette is to tip a dollar or two to every dancer if you're sitting directly at the stage, but that can get expensive and honestly it really depends on a lot of factors. If you're just there to watch and stage tip and you're not getting dances, then what I mentioned is probably fine. If you're there to get dances, I would selectively tip the dancers you really like and tell them you're interested in a dance. $5 is usually decent or more if you really like the dancer. I've generally not heard a dancer complain about a customer sitting at the stage unless the customer just doesn't tip at all. As long as you show you're there to either get dances or stage tip some girls, it's all good.
• Dave_Anderson

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  2 years ago

  In LA or OC it was always a dollar a song and was expected at the tip rail. The dancers could be extremly rude if a customer didn't tip at the stage rail. The DJ would insult or make fun of the customer at the stage not tipping. In San Diego its always been expected that every customer in the club would tip at least a dollar per set even if you are in the back of the room 30 feet from the stage. I haven't been going to clubs for a year and a half so I have no idea if a dollar a song is considered too low now but its really never gone up or down in my lifetime based on the economy so I would assume its not dependent on external factors. Its kind of more of a respect thing to the dancers. Once I put a couple dollar coins on the stage and a dancer literally threw them at me and called me a bunch of names. I tried to explain it was the same as dollar bills and she got even more irrational and pissed off. So I never did that again. 🙃
• boomer79

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  2 years ago

  I never sit at the stage and get a lot of dances. Honestly tipping is usually saying hi to someone I know or approaching someone whose attention I would like. If someone has been with someone else it’s a polite time to mention you’re interested if they get some free time. Then I’ll tip 5-10 but this isn’t for every set obviously. As long as you tip something at the stage when you’re up there I seldom here complaints. I’m usually there to get dances or maybe VIP and I’ve never gotten a comment about my tipping or lack of.
• From978

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  2 years ago

  My default is one dollar every time she does something I like. You'll be surprised by how fast that works.
• shadowcat

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  2 years ago

  Every club is different. Since Covid my favorite Atlanta club has been Vivide. They have 2 broken down mini stages that only occasionally get used. Some guys will tip a buck or 2 and others will make it rain. Dancers are more interested in giving $10 dances or VIP for $200. On the other hand, at Cheetah there is more emphasis on stage dancing. It takes $10 of tips get her her top off and another $10 for the bottoms. It used to be $5 and $5. Table dances are mostly air and cost $20. VIP is $200 and up and appears to be pretty low mileage.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  2 years ago

  $3 to $5 is fine. I tip more if I like a dancer's look or routine more than others. I tip significantly more if I'm asking her to meet me after her set for dances, etc.
• skibum609

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  2 years ago

  This is so confusing that at desires tonight I will avoid tipping and just watch the Celtics.
• Icee Loco (asshole)

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  2 years ago

  $5 per song so $10 per stage set if I'm sitting at the stage
• skibum609

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  2 years ago

  ^fucking chump. Dances are $10.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  2 years ago

  "Etiquette" is going to vary a bit based on the type of club and the region, perhaps. Ultimately, though, most dancers will be reasonably satisfied if you tip something that isn't pocket change. But if you're hoping to attract the dancer's attention for off-stage activities, then it's best to not look like a cheapskate. A while ago, I had a dancer note that there were guys in the club who tipped more at the stage than me, but I bought VIP and lap dances more consistently than those guys. So, she didn't care a lot about my stage tipping amounts. It's really not something you need to worry about a lot.
• rickmacrodong

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  2 years ago

  There is no such thing as obligatory tipping unless you are sitting right by the stage then you should tip or let someone else sit there for the up close view. The concept of stage tipping being an etiquette was made up by club owners and dancers to try to get more money. At many clubs you’re paying an entrance fee. Plus paying for lapdances which are likely significantly overpriced with a significant amount of the cost kept by the club instead of the dancer. I have heard apparently some clubs are so busy with so many customers that you have to be a big tipper in order to get the attention of a dancer you want. That could be an exception. But if you can get dances just by calling a dancer over, no need to stage tip unless you want to give her free money. And you could also just tip after the dance.
• rickmacrodong

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  2 years ago

  Icee could you comment on my thread regarding dancer and escort SO’s
• psycho_trick

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  2 years ago

  Agreed that most just appreciate the gesture, and are looking for dances more than dollars. For etiquette's sake I ante-up just to sit at the stage (like sitting down for a hand of poker). I keep five more ones in sight between my fingers until the full pussy makes its appearance. WKFs don't count. I'm at the club for one-on-one time/dances. Other dancers usually won't shark you from the stage, so I'm usually only there long enough to meet/greet her, state my intentions, and invite her to visit me off-stage. Nine of ten times those MIR are pimps/shills using the dancer's own ones to coerce others to overtip. It's a weak ROB tactic. Don't fall for it, or leave the stage. Unless the stage is packed, observe the 2-seats-between-minimum rule. Don't bottom-feed off another PL's interaction with the dancer.
• Mate27

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  2 years ago

  Etiquette? What’s ate a cat? I didn’t eat no cat!
• twentyfive

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  2 years ago

  When I get to the club I make it rain, “Pennies from Heaven”
• Icee Loco (asshole)

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  2 years ago

  There are clubs where girls make most of their money on stage. Bte. I'm not playing your troll game
• RiskA

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  2 years ago

  My experience in CA nude clubs is $2-3 tip per 2 song set, assuming they get nude. $1 and I back away if they don’t get nude by Song #2 (and no lap dance with them, it most likely will go nowhere). Maybe $5 for a CF regular or an untried goddess who commits to joining me right after. In this situation, it’s not “inflation” at play since the customer is in control. Until the overpayers make it the “new normal,” to the detriment of their fellow PLs. Don’t be that guy.
• motorhead

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  2 years ago

  I don’t think I want to visit a club where dancers depend on tips for their income
• rickmacrodong

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  2 years ago

  RiskA i thought California doesnt have private dances It sounds like it’s optional, up to the dancer if they show their pussy or not?
• san_jose_guy

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  2 years ago

  Do you want to just sit at the stage and enjoy, or do you want to make something happen with that girl? SJG
• gifted_562

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  2 years ago

  SJG I just wanted to know if the appropriate stage tip had gone up due to inflation. A lot of good points have been in this discussion. Sometime I tip at the stage because I like the dancer. If I want to make something happen I will talk to a girl off stage to see if we have decent chemistry.
• ilbbaicnl

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  2 years ago

  You'll get lots of positive attention from strippers if they get (what to them personally is) a lot of money from you. When a stripper gets nothing or just small courtesy tips from you, you basically just don't exist for her. Except to vent about a little when she's having a low $ night.
• Icee Loco (asshole)

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  2 years ago

  They're at work. Of course they'll pay attention to who pays the most
• RiskA

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  2 years ago

  “You get what you pay for” is such an amateur/simp excuse, IMO. Other than at stage tip clubs for young hipsters, dancers know the real money comes from VIP room clients & regulars. I’d save my generosity for after progress in that discussion. Stage tips are just an expression of interest, a “come talk to me” invite. The OP’s question is legit, asking what level of stage tip is normal so you don’t offend or stand out. If you think pussy is worth whatever they’re asking or whatever it takes, you probably shouldn’t go to strip clubs but hey it’s your money not mine.
• rickmacrodong

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  2 years ago

  RiskA Regarding your last point what do you mean. Are you saying go to escorts instead or something?
• ilbbaicnl

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  2 years ago

  I've never been at a club that hit it's occupancy limit. So the dancers I've known are fine with you being there as long as some dancer(s) are getting some money from you. Can be just stage tips or just dances. Otherwise, dancers consider you to be a freeloader. Most strippers are not exhibitionists, they wouldn't naked in front of a crowd for free. Since I've been fairly lucky $-wise in life, and have some empathy, I generally tip all dancers at least $2 when they're on stage.
• NJBalla

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  2 years ago

  A dollar, if I like her 2, if I’m new and I see a competive customer who talks to her for long then 5 dollars
• Icee Loco (asshole)

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  2 years ago

  When girls are ignoring cheap guys they usually make fun of them all night.
• san_jose_guy

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  2 years ago

  Gifted, Generosity will help with the chemistry. SJG
• shanny72

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  2 years ago

  I'm not going to the stage to tip less than $10. Usually $20. More if I already have vip experience with her already and I want to not do subtly let her know I'm ready for another visit. Plenty of times the stage is just an after thought and I don't visit. If I'm going to sit at the rail, she's going to get at least $20 before I return to the bar
• gammanu95

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  2 years ago

  I would like to sit at the stage, especially since most recession mongers sit at the bar, but I honestly find less than 50% of dancers attractive and not worth even stage tip dollars. I am not into thick or big bottomed girls, too much of either and I am genuinely repulsed. This applies to over 30% of dancers. So, I only tip at the stage when it's a fave or someone I'd like to get to know. When that happens, $3-$5 per song. Another reason to hate "make-it-rain" morons. I've only got into a "bidding war" on a dancer once. Of course, there was one time at DD in Clearwater when a dancer was on stage for 20 minutes. She had bet the DJ how long she could dance for in a single set. She came down to give me a lap dance when I was cockblocked by a Cuban. I gave her all that money on stage, and the Cuban stared her down when she tried to approach me later.
• Icee Loco (asshole)

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  2 years ago

  Gammanu. You couldn't have said no to the Cuban and approached the girl you wanted? You weren't cockblocked. It was your choice. It's your money you choose who to spend it on.