Seeking.com in 2022

17 comments

• Warrior15

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  2 years ago

  All depends on the city. I have used it to find dates in Orlando, Miami, Tampa and Nashville. Each has different levels of inventory and different levels of expectations. I think college towns are probably pretty good. Orlando is off the hook good. Many of the girls are UCF students. They must talk about the site at school or something. TONS of hot girls there. I've heard of other people use it in Vegas, but the cost is rather high. It takes some effort. I think that why some people fail at it. It's not like you just select what girl you want off the website and get a date. You have to interact with them first. It's a cross between an escort service and a dating site. You have to engage conversation with several girls before you actually get a date.
• Muddy

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  2 years ago

  Yeah you got to separate a lot of chaff but the wheat can be pretty good. If your not hideously ugly, which is possible, hell even likely yes then FaceTime will be your friend. Eliminates 90% of scammers right there. Most girls are just in school they have a part time job or not yet and they want some extra spending money. And they’ll hook up real quick. It’s 50/50 on whether they want to go out or not. I feel like some just want to get on with it already and get it and go. Some want to do the wine and dine thing. Big markets I think you gotta have it. Any trip to LA or NY it’s probably worth it sometimes you’ll log in hundreds and hundreds active at once. Miami, Phoenix, Chicago, Boston, Houston aka the bigger markets typically have been good too. Also theyll be more competition with more selection. In NY where I’m at, good luck meeting up with a blonde stunner there at any affordable $$$ the high rollers are on top of that demo already. Places like Cincinnati, St Louis, Kansas City can be pretty dead but who knows, at least you’ll be a bigger fish in a small pond so I feel the success rate goes up and the money can go down a bit. There might just be not many options. In all honesty with the standards some guys have on here you’ll be able to find something that works for you. When I’m traveling I like to do both to give some options hopefully something that would take me out of the strip clubs. Miami and LA where good to me on that site.
• LecherousMonk

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  2 years ago

  IME it's basically the new backpage. Your tendency will be to underestimate how quickly you can move on to the business side of things in the conversation. Of course, it takes a while to get a feel for where that inflection point is and what to say along the way.
• shailynn

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  2 years ago

  “Can we go to your place because my parents don’t like me to have friends over past 9pm.”
• 8TM

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  2 years ago

  Thanks, that’s some good advice. What you guys said about cities is pretty much what I thought, but I didn’t think about the college factor. I’m willing to put in some effort to not look like a slob. I’m pretty bad at the messaging game, but in this environment I might be more motivated to get good at it. You can keep your pictures hidden until you DM someone, right? Is that a good idea, or does it just make the quality girls pass you over?
• Muddy

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  2 years ago

  That's what I've been doing recently. I just hide my profile so only people I message can see it. But the downside is nobody can find you to message you, you'll have to do all the work. Also I would check these articles out Sinclair [view link] Subraman [view link] And I did one too [view link] That's off the top of my head there might be some others out there too
• Warrior15

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  2 years ago

  I have one photo on my public profile. And that has my face hidden. Then I have a few Private photos I can share with girls if they want. The good part is Guys care a lot more how the girls look than the girls care about how the guy looks. I've had several girls agree to meet me and they never even looked at my profile. They just read the messages. As long as you are a big fat, smelly slob, you will be fine. Confidence is more important than looks.
• Warrior15

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  2 years ago

  ^ As long as you "aren't" a big fat smelly slob.
• yahtzee74

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  2 years ago

  > I’m pretty bad at the messaging game, You don't have to wow them with your messages. All you have to do is be nice and respectful with your messages, honest about your intentions (short term arrangement while visiting) - and willing to pay.
• Takedacannoli

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  2 years ago

  I would say the quality of the avg girl on there has definitely gone down though with the advent of onlyfans. Girls who are not attractive enough to make money on OF have all seemed to end up on SA.
• blahblahblah23

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  2 years ago

  I'm surprised girls even still do that considering how shite it is lmao.
• LecherousMonk

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  2 years ago

  @Takedaconnoli, OF is saturated; it's extremely difficult to make a profit on that platform now. My theory is that recent increase in quantity and quality of dancers at my local high-end club is the result of girls realizing it's easier to make money in person now that the pandemic is winding down (fingers crossed).
• Tiburon

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  2 years ago

  What happened to Plenty of Fish or Tinder or some other free dating website? Aren't there promiscuous women there
• LecherousMonk

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  2 years ago

  @Tiburon, unfortunately for us you have to be in the top 20% of men looks-wise to have any chance at women above the bottom 20% on that platform.
• DeclineToState

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  2 years ago

  There's a subreddit named sugarlifestyle that deals with current happenings on Seeking (SA) and other sites and the pros and many cons (the massive amount of time people burn getting good results, failed meet and greets, asshole sugar daddies trying to get it for free, ROBs, the abundance of new sugar babies triggered by TikTok tales re ability to rinse dumb sugar daddies). Consider giving it a read - I've never been on SA and don't sugar, but I find that subreddit entertaining.
• DeclineToState

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  2 years ago

  ^The subreddit is sugarlifestyleforum
• day_trader

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  2 years ago

  If your traveling to any decent size city you should find enough options, you only need one to say yes, but I would have at least a few options before making your trip, things do and can come up. I would just be straight up with them and negotiate something that works for the both of you. When onsite I like to play around with it, try different approaches, find out what works and what doesn't, etc. Yeah some will try and scam on their. Just don't send them any money before meeting.