Stories of boyfriends and husbands of working girls

Safe to assume most of them have an S.O. (and in some cases be married)

At the end of the day they are just doing a job and not that consequential whether they have an S.O. or not as long as they are providing a good-experience - obviously it's preferable if they don't have an S.O. that way they have more flexibility in what they do bu it's not something one has any control over thus not something to sped that much time pondering over.

I've gone out of my way to have no "good" stories about stripper husbands or boyfriends.

Perhaps I'm wrong, but thinking that a woman enjoys working in a high-volume TJ brothel sounds like something a guy tells himself as he's walking into a high-volume TJ brothel. It's also possibly a front put on by smart TJ girls, because they likely make more money looking like they love their job, rather than looking like a cashier at WalMart.

It’s not a stereotype if it’s true

Like Papi says, gotta respect their privacy. I never ask if they have anybody, don't challenge, but also don't believe, it when the volunteer they don't have anybody.

In the modern world, people are trying to pair bond and also do the Maslow Self-Actualization thing. So hard af. It can only be healthy if the two people just deal with how they feel, and don't try to tell the other one how they are supposed to feel or act, based on rules from the 1950s. Typically, when a stripper's pair bond works, the stripper's SO swallows back on his jealousy, because he knows it wouldn't be fair to ask her to endure being brokass just because he's jealous.

Scrub said "well, make an ASS out of you and me, but why DO THEY ALL WANT TO SUCK MY DICK FOR $100?"

I assume that they don't, you weird little man.

Most have boyfriends. Its not something they'll talk to customers about just like they won't talk about customers at home. Her personal life is irrelevant to her job. If he's insecure and makes a big deal out of it they won't last.

The most fucked up thing I've seen though is high volume girls boyfriends picking them up after work . The looks on both their faces. You could feel the discomfort.

Right now I have a girl who lives with her sugar daddy and I love it. I get her attention fuck when I want to and she very low maintenance coz he's paying everything for her lulz

Most of these girls have SOs, including the ones who engage in alternative activities to make ends meet. IME the measuring stick for whether a girl might be up for more is not whether she is attached, but what her overall financial burdens are and how much help she's getting from him. For example, what makes a stripper Mom with a broke ass loser BF such a great find is that she's likely supporting not only the kids but his ass too.

"trust me - they all have a price buddy" - what's yours?

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"Scrub said "well, make an ASS out of you and me, but why DO THEY ALL WANT TO SUCK MY DICK FOR $100?"

I assume that they don't, you weird little man."

There is a big difference between them wanting to suck your dick and them being willing to suck your dick for $100.

Old story:
Girl works as a puta.
Girl meets local boy and thinks its love.
Girl keeps working to keep him happy with the money.
Girl gets knocked up (most likely from BB the boyfriend) thinking the baby will cement their relationship.
Boyfriend takes off; puta cannot work because she is pregnant and poor because the boyfriend took/spent all the money.
Baby is born.
Puta goes back to work while other family members raise the child.

In 2020 alone, I have personally known (but never taken arriba) two putas that went through this. (They were friends of ATFs.)
And through five years of mongering, I have known many putas who are single mothers.
If you are a regular, you do too.
Just a sad fact of puta life.
My ATF1 is single with no kids.
She had a boyfriend who beat her so bad once she ended up in the ER.
Her friends are encouraging her to “work it out with him.”
Seriously?! I told her to GTFO of that relationship.
They don’t live together.
Sweet girl and great to be with, but if they get back together, I will cut her loose.
I have told her this.
Too nice a person to be treated like that, but she was abused as a child and thinks that this is love.

And this story is not limited to putas or Mexicans.

Zero interest in any dancer's private life. Don't care who they screw, live with, marry etc. I believe everything every dancer tells me in the club and nothing once I leave.

"Zero interest in any dancer's private life. Don't care who they screw, live with, marry etc. I believe everything every dancer tells me in the club and nothing once I leave." this should be a pinned post somehow.

Interesting insights. I still contend that the "happy" demeanor I have seen in some of the girls (not all, mind you...only a few) has been quite genuine leading me to believe that they are happy about the money they are making. Admit it...money does something to your brain triggering a good amount of dopamine. I do treat the girls extremely decently....so I feel that adds to a little to their relaxed approach. INo matter how much one argues that they are only "acting" for our money, one can detect genuine feelings...I am no FBI profiler....just speaking as a normal human being. Those beautiful smiles from some of the most beautiful girls that I have ever been with are what make life worth living and give you motivation to go through another year...here's to a great 2022 for everyone.

my barber is happy when i get a haircut and pay her. My mechanic is happy when he fixes my car and i pay him. I do not think they are really interested in my personal life. They feign an interest to make it a better experience for me and to fill the silence.

I do not expect either to "want" to do it or do it for free. I do not confuse them providing their services with a desire for us being friends or significant others.

I think the same goes with SW's.

A hooker isn't a friend or a girlfriend. She's there coz you're paying. Her personal life is really none of your business.

===> "Zero interest in any dancer's private life. Don't care who they screw, live with, marry etc. I believe everything every dancer tells me in the club and nothing once I leave." this should be a pinned post somehow."

Lately this site has acquired an unusually high % of mission oriented clubbers. You go, get your LDs and then dutifully clear out for the next round of mission oriented club hounds. No desire to have a drink with her because you of course don't drink anyway and definitely no need to learn anything about her because it could ruin your "fantasy." Basically they are a dancer's wet dream of a customer. 😉

To each his own, but for me (and a good number of club hounds) the socializing is all part of the interaction. With those back and forth interactions inevitably comes details about each others' circumstances. For me that's all good intel as it helps shape my approach to offering other potential activities.

"...the socializing is all part of the interaction. With those back and forth interactions inevitably comes details about each others' circumstances"

You are speaking of friends. i have several friends that are dancers. There is a difference between my friends and some dancer not my friend. understanding that difference has helped me navigate this hobby for over forty years.

i believe nothing a dancer tells me when i leave the club. Unless i have reason to believe her. Should i believe the hot 23-year-old when she tells me she dreams of an old, fat, bald, guy being inside her?

perhaps i misunderstood the OP but i did not think he was discussing friends that are dancers.

===> "You are speaking of friends. i have several friends that are dancers. There is a difference between my friends and some dancer not my friend. understanding that difference has helped me navigate this hobby for over forty years."

No I am speaking of any dancer who I sit with for any period of time over multiple nights. No dancer will ever truly be your friend. You won't be receiving invitations to her kids' birthday parties or family barbecues or [insert another of her real life events here]. It is a transitory relationship that ends when one of you tires of the other or she leaves the business.

But there are varying degrees of familiarity that one can develop with a girl. Plenty of them like to talk when they've had a few and I make it easy for them to do so. What has helped *me* navigate this hobby over a couple of decades and, indeed, milk so much out of it is the ability to just play it cool and make the interaction as normal as possible. For some I think I also feed into their Daddy issues. Just because the transaction is ultimately commercial does not mean that it can't be friendly and perhaps even comfortable.

"No dancer will ever truly be your friend. You won't be receiving invitations to her kids' birthday parties or family barbecues or [insert another of her real life events here]." - yes, i do, from those i am friends with. often.

I exchanged Christmas presents with a beautiful Colombian dancer this afternoon when she came to my house. We chatted for a bit over coffee about various things. Some of them personal. She was here as my friend and not as a dancer.

I will entertain a former dancer and her husband on Christmas. He knows how i met her and became friends with her.

I was once invited to a birthday party for a dancers dog. I declined.

I suspect nicespice's dance sales pitch would never have clued me in to how disgusting she thinks my old man drool is. We must accept that many profound truths will remain hidden when we are talking to strippers in strip clubs.

One dancer, with a respectable set of headlights, did clarify that I would need to keep my mouth to myself if we were going to do VIP.

@shadowcat did you ask if you could just drop your dog off at the party?

Now I'm thinking I should capture squirrels and charge strippers for releasing them at their dog's birthday party.

Had a USA ATF stripper that I saw OTC monthly for a few years. Our meets OTC and ITC always started with my inquiry about her family and her life. Not terribly in depth, but it made her more comfortable and our sessions total GFE.

I typically chat up TJ putas with small talk. Not a lot of bullets in my gun these days, so it helps me to chose wisely. Also, being a frequent flyer, I have ATFs that I repeat with, one I have been repeating with for over five years (yes she is that good). I have an interest in other cultures and lifestyles, so I have been to her home, comforted her when she has suffered a tragedy (which has gotten me a few free TLNs when she didn't want to be alone those nights), and gained a lot of insight into the Mexican mind.

I understand those who show up, take their shot, and leave with zero compassion or emotional investment. Some decades ago I would have had a similar MO, but the more I travel, the more I find enjoyment in seeing the sights, meeting the people, and occasionally getting laid by a beautiful woman one third my age.

I personally just find that strippers fit fairly seamlessly into the general blob of humanity, I don't have special rules for relating to strippers. Just the ones for relating to people with whom I have some sort of $ dealings.

Seems like most people are in two categories:
1. Financially secure, smug about it, have a pathetic need to look down on people who aren't.
2. Not financially secure, but spaced out about steps they could take to be more financially secure.

Being financially secure, but not feeling entitled about it, I find it hard to relate well to either category, so I try not to get that involved with members of either group.

I just now noticed this is in the TJ forum, so maybe it was meant to be specific to ZN sex workers?

If you're a Mexican chick, and you look more or less like Selena, guys with darker complexions will be totally after you. You can tell them you live with your family, and your family won't accept it that you're dating somebody with a darker complexion, so it's gotta stay on the down low. Makes for an easy explanation why you are not available during your shifts in the ZN.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tjWrUD68…

Allot of these girls collect stray men like they collect stray pets. They have real empathy for anyone or anything struggling through life.

@ceoaticeysangelsllc

You wrote and I quote:

“Right now I have a girl who lives with her sugar daddy and I love it. I get her attention fuck when I want to and she very low maintenance coz he's paying everything for her lulz”

Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.

I have a couple of questions regarding inconsistencies in your comment.

Q1: How do you “have” a girl, when she is living with someone else?

Q2: How can you f**k her when YOU want, when she is living with someone else?

Q3: What's it like to be the other man, and get sloppy seconds?

Someone said that girl that have sex for money (OTC/ITC strippers, Sugar Babies, Escorts, street walkers etc)are hookers, and I think he also said:

“A hooker isn't a friend or a girlfriend. She's there coz you're paying... (one way or another)

Q4: What do you call the girl YOU said YOU now have?

I had a Follies dancer tell me she could not go to VIP with me until her husband left. She pointed him out to me at the bar. After 15 minutes he left and we went to VIP.

I had another with an almost similar thing. She said her BF was at the bar and wanted to got to VIP but only when he wasn't looking. After a minute she he was turned and talking to someone. We scampered to VIP.

Lots of thoughts. If he does not want to see how she makes her money or it might get him upset, WTF is he doing there? Are they BF/pimps ready to pounce on the girl's money? On that note I have seen several dancers go give her VIP money to some guy across the room and he then leaves.

What if these guys saw her go back to VIP (to fuck or suck)? I thought the girls just did not want him to be uncomfortable actually seeing her go back, but the back to the first thought- WTF are they doing there anyway? But in the back of my mind I start thinking are these guys going to get pissed off and bust in on their woman in VIP?

Forgot the best one - a girl just wanted to sit and not grind on me until after her FATHER left!

It's fairly common for dancers to lie to their SOs about how far they go in VIP.

I noticed a older woman watching a dancer on stage that I knew very well. The dancer eventually came over to talk to me. Turns out the older woman was her mother that had come to see her work. I asked what her mother thought about it and she said her mother thought that it was a form of art. Good thing her mother couldn't see her in VIP.

In the same club another dancer, Miranda. Her husband was always there when she was. He had to drive her because she lost her license due to DUI. I was told that a customer asked if she would do FS with her in VIP. She told the customer to ask her husband if it was alright and he husband agreed too it. The same dancer had a regular customer that came in from out of state. Some time that customer brought his wife with him. She invited the couple over to her house for dinner. The same dancer gave me her telephone number and her husbands number and told me that if I ever needed help to call her and if I couldn't reach her to call him. A couple of other dancers told me that if I needed help to call her husband and not her. :)

Does 1-STRIP-HUBBY work for everything, can I cancel my triple A roadside assistance?

If its p4p then any good will is just a good business strategy. Although customers hate admitting it

Years ago when the topic of OTC came up, the dancer remarked, "I'm only a slut in the club". But they all have their price!

Asking a husband in the club if I can fuck his wife in VIP has more potential for drama and complexity than I want to filter into my day...

And, though I have no direct familiarity with the dancer obviously, I'd probably assume the the "husband" was really just a pimp.

Years ago at the Cadillac Lounge, I asked a dancer about VIP and she said, "Hold on, I need to check in with my accountant.", which was a guy on the other side of the room. I thought, "Well, that's almost clever."

I ended up not doing VIP with her. Not because of the "accountant", but that didn't help.

Ish - It was common knowledge that they were married. He was retired army and they met when she was in the army and they were stationed at Ft Lewis WA.

Eventually management did bar him from the club.

Yeah, but that still sounds like an accident waiting to happen. The club did the right thing.

3 worst experiences.

I was too drunk at a club I was a regular at and uber was on a surge and I didn't want to pay. So this very high volume girl said her man can take me home for $40. So there I am in the backseat next to a child seat. And she's telling him how work was slow and boring and club drama. But this girl is very high volume.... and you could tell he knows by the look on his face. And when she kissed him. He asked if I was a customer of hers and I said no. I wasn't. But It was really awkward and uncomfortable being there.


This girl kept making eye contact and I thought she was a customer. But she just came early. We started talking and ended up eating gummies and watching porn on my phone. And her boyfriend started yelling at us and was crying. She was like I'm working and he said no you're not you were looking at him before work and are chilling with him. You want him. I'm just sitting there getting ready to hit him if he starts shit with me. Then she ran into the dressing room and he sits down crying and telling me how she's a thot. Begging me to not fuck her. And I'm thinking how I want to fuck her. So I explained to him how he needs to nurture her inner hoe and let her be her.

Third one was a boyfriend pimp who attacked me in the club for making his hoe catch feelings. I ended up using her and dumping her just to spite him. Felt bad about it though.

—>“I suspect nicespice's dance sales pitch would never have clued me in to how disgusting she thinks my old man drool is. We must accept that many profound truths will remain hidden when we are talking to strippers in strip clubs.”

Just wanted to point out high volume saliva drool isn’t especially gross just because it’s from old men. It’s just a germ spreading hazard that young cute guys tend to have as well.

@nicespice sexual arousal suppresses the disgust reflex. So apparently they're not that cute to you. It must be faux humility when you claim you think your butt's too small, clearly you feel entitled to be very picky.

One day I will write an article on a dancer I met in Huntington, WV. She told me all about her husband. I love to buy drinks and get stories. lol

My wife is one of the sexiest girls I’ve seen work at the top what is it top clubs in Vegas. She’s told me stories about sex once sex with her during a private dance and for free because the guy made her feel like a little girl she said and she likes to be taken by a man who make her feel under age because she says that she believes all men want a beautiful perky 12 year old cheerleader type And would prefer a beautiful 12 year old cheerleader to an 18 year old or anyone older when I met her she could pass for 13. And I mean like Disney princess 13 or JC Pennys panty bikini girl 13. Do you know her you guys would want to fuck that that’s why I married her . But then she stoped telling me about her experiences. I am married her because she’s so sexy to me so she doesn’t give me any more sex I would welcome any guys who could make her be sexual again I have no problem with Seducing her and being her boyfriend even getting her pregnant as long as I could hear about it or watch. It’s a lot better than getting nothing anymore

This is kind of a bizarre story and it's my first post here, so some of you may not believe it, but it's true.

Was OTC with a chica in Mexico, and as we are walking down the street, we run into her ex-boyfriend and baby daddy. The chica broke up with the ex because he cheated on her and she was still pissed at him. The ex still had feelings for this chica and wanted her back.

So, running into this guy while I'm with his baby mama was pretty awkward to begin with. It got even more awkward when she walked up to him and punched him in the face in broad daylight. The two started cursing at each other in Spanish and I was worried the fight was about to escalate.

I calmed her down and we hopped into a taxi and went to a hotel. Hopefully that's the last time I run into a boyfriend or ex boyfriend while I'm with his girl. Definitely awkward.

Had a similar experience with a HK puta.

She had an ex boyfriend who would hang out by the club drunk usually and he would call to her. Big guy. Lots of tattoos. I ignored him and let her deal.

Ive been a side nigga before but their men were too intimidated to confront me. Other than one trying to kiss my ass telling me not to fuck her coz she's a crazy hoe. Which she was.

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Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.

:D

My thing is buying a young lady a drink. One dancer gave me her home story for 3 drinks. Maybe someday I will write an article. Until then…….

Cheers!!!

Once a dancer finds out I practice family law I get to hear all the stories and cross the storyteller off the list forever. I hate my job at hundreds per hour, let alone free.

@Putatester .... girls like that will likely never end the cycle of abuse. Don't get caught up in feelings over it. Move on to another girl if you begin to care about it.