Selective Dancers
DougS
Florida
I don't know how they could make any money, but I know there are some dancers that will only dance for guys to whom they are attracted. Any of you out there ever run into a dancer like that?
I personally, have only known of one dancer rumored to be that selective. She used to dance at HH in Kokomo, and was my second ATF and second OTC friend. I'd heard several times that she would only dance for a guy if she thought he was a hottie. It was a nice ego-boost to hear that rumor and realize that I'd "passed the test" to make it on her list. Maybe it was just a rumor, but I never saw her dancing for the really old, unkept, disheveled or scummy looking ilk.
I personally, have only known of one dancer rumored to be that selective. She used to dance at HH in Kokomo, and was my second ATF and second OTC friend. I'd heard several times that she would only dance for a guy if she thought he was a hottie. It was a nice ego-boost to hear that rumor and realize that I'd "passed the test" to make it on her list. Maybe it was just a rumor, but I never saw her dancing for the really old, unkept, disheveled or scummy looking ilk.
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More than a few times, but then I'm buying a huge number of dances and spend many hours at strip clubs. And, the dancer doesn't have to be hot, either. Usually, it is not an outright ban on a dance. What will happen is the dance will have NO contact or almost NO contact. The discrimination could be for any reason including height!
I'm overly focused on the dollar although some people strangely conclude that money doesn't interest me just because it doesn't always make my number one spot. I remember about 2 years ago a friend had a property for sale and quoted me a price. I assumed if his price was met that was all that concerned him-----my assumption was dead wrong. I found a buyer who was eager to buy and well qualified. A very high class individual who I'd known for years. My friend more than double his price because he felt that he should receive a large premium for doing business with people he disliked. In fact, he told me he'd rather NOT sell or sell for less than his asking to the right kind of person. It is funny I hear people yap it is all about the green and then when confronted by someone who truly doesn't share that value system they usually become all bent out of shape. If money is their god, then by god it has to be everyone's god.
I will also state, I did not see any of them working for very long.
I don't know if I ever ran into a dancer who would only dance for certain guys, but I've known a lot who wouldn't dance with certain guys. I think that's pretty common.
I remember one selective dancer who worked at the same club for about 3 years. This clean cut young guy was telling her that she had to dance for him because he was willing to pay her. She laughed and said she didn't have to dance for anyone if she didn't feel like it. He takes out a impressive roll of cash whereupon she says look there are plenty of nice dancers for you please go and make one of them happy. He gets more aggressive and she then throws herself at me (she didn't like me even a little when we first met years earlier). The young guy says you prefer that loser to me?! She says damn straight and you better be careful who you are calling a loser. He's very popular in this club. The young guy shoves his face into mine and I think it is great fun. I say boy, it ain't worth it, but if you need to see blood and pain you come to the right bar. He seemed to pick up on "right bar" and as if by magic he took a couple steps back. The selective dancer is now goading him. Saying what you afraid of a small old man? I had to tell her to pipe down and the kid to go buy a dance from one of the other dancers pronto. Actually, needed to get up and point him in the right direction. He complied, but I had to grab the damn dancer hard to keep her quiet. She was just so eager to see some blood. :( Says the boy needed to be taught some manners. :( I did finally talk some sense into her silly head.
This one dancer commented that she was surprised that I spent more on her than the guys buy Hennessy and other high ticket items. In her opinion it makes more sense to spend money on a real product like expensive drinks than waste it on a dancer. Sort of like buddies who believe in spending money on a fancy car to impress the ladies, but can't see dropping a $100 on a drop dead beautiful dancer. I've been asked this question it seems like a million times: Would you rather be spending this money on dancers or have a brand new truck/sports car/boat/some other garbage. Everytime the person is amazed that I'd rather have the women over some garbage made in Detroit or even something good from Japan. To me it is such an easy choice. I remember a lady friend saying wouldn't you rather have a new wardrobe? I answered even if I was wealthy I wouldn't have interest in fancy duds. It bores me. Then she says what about stocks? I say yes stocks are real cuddly and cute. :( One friend says but a woman is only good for 15 minutes! I said I didn't know that and explained that it is easy for me to spend hours at the club.
I've had strippers who happened to be with a customer or busy and couldn't dance for me, but never "no, you aren't part of the crowd I'll dance for.
That said, I have seen situations where a dancer simply doesn't like a guy and won't dance for him, but that's a bit different from the scenario you're suggesting.
As I say, that's more of a "courtesan" or escort mentality in my experience.
O.
In my experience the money doesn't usually change the game for the selective dancer. I was chatting with one a few days ago. A very pleasant person, but money just doesn't ring her bell. A gentleman was spending $20s like they were $1s and it didn't budge her. Contact didn't seem to bother her in the least. She seemed more interested in playing with the other dancers or the video games than anything else. Who knows when a customers starts spending $100s like they were $1s then that might get her bell ringing.
20 years ago it wasn't abnormal at all for me to meet people who just weren't go go go for money and that included dancers which shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone since they are people too. It almost seemed like an organized campaign that money had to be the number one criteria or goal. In fact laws were passed making it a crime not to view money first under some circumstances.
I've also seen some ethnocentric dancers who only seem to prefer their own race or nationality. On the other hand, I knew one black dancer who only danced for white guys (or at least non-black guys).
Over at Angels, ALL the dancers seem to have become selective when it comes to the drooler. He is probably the most pathetic customer I've ever seen. He loves all the dancers regardless of their looks. The fondling and grabbing would be fine, but the drooling all over the dancers has provoked hostility. Very open hostility. I watched security pleading with dancers to give him at least one dance. One of the dancers said to security if you want him to get a dance then you give it to him! Security replied but, I'm not a dancer. She shot back I'm not a dancer either when it comes to him. Let him drool on you and see how it feels. Security apologized to the customer and told him he'd have to wait for a new girl to show.
She was a self-admitted materialist, and said that she could be attracted to a rich enough man, even if he was a lot older than her. Her goal is to find a rich man to marry in the next couple of years, and retire from dancing.
She'll just have to wait for my class action lawsuit to finalize! :-)
I agree some dancers are not as interested in the money or not every night. I've had several experiences with different dancers who preferred to spend their time with me on different nights even though they knew I wasn't going to spend much money on them.
Once I noticed this guy who had been in the club for about an hour and no one stopped by to at least speak to him. He had a friggid look and came off as a shy, standoff-ish guy. He wasnt very attractive but he wasnt ugly either. He was just an average guy. I stopped by his table and sat down to talk to him and out of the blue he hands me a $100 just for taking the time to acknowledge him. I found out he was in the military, was leaving in three wks to go overseas, and his fam was pretty well off. After that night, he came in every night I worked, until he left, and spent a lot of $$ on me. He also brought in friends a few times before he left who still come into the club although he is overseas now. Similar things have happened with other guys who were just happy someone noticed them and made them have a good time.
I think some dancers forget the fact that one person can either start a buzz or keep people away from the club where you work. So as a way of maybe saying "hey you chose our club, have fun, and hopefully you will come back", I just try to make them feel comfy and welcomed. Just because they may not spend much that particular night doesnt mean they will not come back and spend. I have had many guys come back with friends because I was so nice that they figure most of the girls in our club were the same way and they would spend loads of $$. Afterall, you never know who enters a club and I'm a firm believer in not judging a book by its cover. (or maybe I'm just a happy go lucky person and I like to have happy people around me)