I went on a date and for the first time neither of us brought our cellphones.
It was so enjoyable not to be distracted by calls, texts, social media updates, etc.
I could tell she had a difficult time at first adjusting, as a few times she checked her purse looking for her phone to check her messages, we had a good chuckle.
While I know the forgotten cellphones is most likely a one time event, it was nice to be on a cellphoneless date.
Was this a civilian date?
I’m not addicted to my cell phone so it doesn’t bother me to have it on me. I do put it on silent mode.
To me, the cell phone is an indispensable safety tool, and I'm not going to be without it. But, just like I've brought my entire wallet to the strip club, for decades, and never went full retard and spent more than I intended... on a date, my phone stays in my pocket until my date or I go to the bathroom, then a surreptitious check
@bavarian
Yes, this was a civilian date.
I rarely check phone when I am out with someone but most women check their phones every 15-20 minutes, it can become pretty annoying.
It's an age thing. Women over the age of about 40 can do that. Girls in their 20's just cannot live without their phone for any length of time.
@warrior15
Plenty of 40+ women I know can not live without their cellphone.
The major difference I noticed is more mature (pilote) women will excuse themselves before answering and some will explain the call (mom, babysitter, etc).
My wife and I love when we go camping out of touch with cellphones and the holy shit world news they deliver.
It's like the 2nd best part of camping - after the increased canoodling.
@gsteph
Exactly, enjoying their company without the distractions.
I thought the best thing about camping was bears eating your food and scarring the shit out of you (I'm not a camping guy).
@subraman
I am not sure the cellphone is indispensable, though it is important.
We use to survive without them.
The convienence created by Google and apps have made them seemingly important but not indispensable, even for dating, mongering, and strip clubbing.
Whether on a date or not, many of us csn afford less cellphoning - many experts say one should consciously set aside time to not be constantly on the phone.
Particularly on a date, and/or when having dinner, one should try to focus their attention on the person and/or enjoying the meal.
Per what Subrs mentioned, I think they are important in the sense if one has kids or elderly parents/family-members one looks after
I think on avg women are more social/talkative, and have a larger-circle of friends or family members they keep in touch with.
Paps: exactly. Maybe there will be some weird situation where me calling out will help me. But more importantly, since I CAN be contacted by my kids or any other loved ones, I am available.
Cristobal, I realize, of course, that we used to survive without cellphones. We also used to not wear seatbelts; all of us here survived that, too. Obviously, cell phones are not quite like seatbelts -- hell, inappropriate cellphone use in the car actually costs lives. But, in the unlikely situation my kids need me right now, and I have a tool that can help them do that, I'm not going to leave that tool home. I won't be looking at it when my date is across from me ... although, it's not uncommon that people with younger kids explain "I need to leave my phone out in case of emergency with my kids", all parents understand that.
@subraman
Yes, it is true cellphones are necessary in case of an emergency; however, when in the company others how many times are people checking their social media, etc (non emergencies)?
Agree! Exactly my point: it is non negotiable for me not to have my phone on me. But I also don't check my phone at all, in the presence of my date... if she goes to the bathroom, though, it's fair game :) I often come back from the bathroom to see her putting her phone away, too.
@papi_chulo
I agree, women generally do keep on touch with more people, it was just nice to have a nice time without being constantly interupted by checking messages, etc.
@subraman
You have great discipline to wait for her to go yo the rest room.
I see people all the time checking their social media when in the company of others.
Especially on a date, I consider that a MAJOR faux pas. Although I have to say, on my "real" dates -- basically women 40s and up -- this basically never happens. The only time I'm on a date and a woman checks her phone, is when I'm on an OTC or arrangement date... those girls check their phones for sure.
When my kids were younger, I used to do the "My kids are home alone, I need to keep my phone out, and answer it if they call"; my dates were always understanding, and they were always in the same position. Now my kids are old enough that I don't have to do that, but if I go on a date with a woman in her lower 40s, sometimes she gives me the "kids are home" pitch, and I'm fine with it. But again, older women don't check their phones on dates. At least not hte initial dates; maybe when they get comfortable after date 3 LOL
Cristobal I get rejected on dates making this kind of thread. I’m on one right now. I just said “look bitch hold up I gotta post on this TUSCL thread, work with me” Up now she’s getting up, now she’s leaving.
Muddy: she at least have good craic?
@Subra na craic sucked on that. I’ll live.
@muddy9
While this thread is really important, I would have advised waiting to post until she went to restroom.
@subraman
I leave my phone in my pocket because I like to give all my attention to whoever o am with, plus I don't want her to see messages from other women.
@heaving
Solo mi dos centavos:
The issue might not be the phone.
-->"plus I don't want her to see messages from other women."
I think we both know you don't really have to worry about that 🤣🤣🤣
I think cell phones are a major impediment to intimacy and dating.
We need some sort of a screen box to lock them in.
So Cristobal, I gather that you asked your date to leave the phone home?
How long until she was back with her phone, a few hours or not until morning?
I think cell phones really change how people use their time. I think it is dumb. The phone is so small, so hard to use. If you are going to use it that way, might was well sit down at a bank of computers, like an air traffic controller, and monitor the entire world.
SJG
Chris Isaak - Wicked Game (Live) youtube.com
When I was married I feel that friends of my wife's really made our home unlivable. It was not just the cell phone, it was also the land line phone.
At some points I did insert myself in the middle of it and get tough with some of the people.
SJG
@subraman
Oh yes, it is a real concern.
@heaving
It's not you, it's them.
@san_jose_guy
It was completely by accident that we both forgot our cellphones.
^^^^ Maybe you told her you forgot your's, so she decided to make the evening nice by telling you that she forgot her's.
Still must have been nice.
:) :) :)
SJG
@san_jose_guy
No, I never mentioned about my cellphone until we were at the restaurant, she realized she left her phone charging.
Yes, it was nice to have a cellphoneless date.
I just learned that my iPhone tracks my usage. I’ve begun checking and learned that last week I picked up my phone an average of 34 times per day. Understandably my first use of the phone after each pickup was the phone, but the second was a word game I play on-line, Word Chums. I currently have 10 games going. I visited xnxx 8 times in 7 days for an average usage of 26 minutes. I only was on TUSCL for 2 hours and 58 minutes total last week. Most of my home made porn is kept on Google Drive and I visited that site 6 times but more than 3 hours. I was on Facebook way too much and even though I got a lot of email I didn’t spend too much time deleting most of it. I texted way too much. My ATF is in her final month before her wedding and she texts me several times a day for advice and reassurance. She’s worried as to whether her fiancé is going to be able to maintain decent employment ( she’s a stripper - she found her soulmate - an addict felon). So I’ve got to cut back on phone & iPad usage. I had no idea i was occupied so much with electronics. I guess I need a job.
@gawker
I would hate to see my phone useage, but I return back to work next week so my phone useage should go back to normal.
"she found her soul mate - an addict felon" sounds like a match made in heaven.
Subraman - "To me, the cell phone is an indispensable safety tool ...."
At first I was in awe where this statement would be taking us.
Imagine ! Our man Subraman in a strip club. Having his booze. Watching naked girls dancing. Minding his own business. A fatty, fugly dancer spots this handsome guy and starts barreling towards Subra. Big, wide smile, sweaty face and hips barely clearing spacing between tables. ... and gaining speed.
That's when Subra pulls out his phone, puts it on his left ear and uses other hand to cover his right ear .... to take that super important call. Afterall safety first.
@rogertex
Cellphone saves @subraman's mongering life, that stripper might have broke little @subraman
When I go on vacation I check my phone before dinner otherwise I leave it in my hotel or cabin safe