How to avoid getting Herpes?

I was questioning a partner about STD history one time and she failed to mention herpes. I asked her if she had it and her response was, “Doesn’t everyone?”

I've brought up the same topic several times and probably worry the most about herpes HSV1 and HPV throat cancer. Condoms do a poor job of protecting against genital herpes, so getting the antibody test is a good idea.

First off, StdCheck.com offers HSV1 and HSV2 antibody testing and the testing is very fast and efficient. You can pull up your test results on your phone to share with your partner. I always decline the HSV2 testing since about 80% of my generation is carrying HSV2 from non-sexual childhood contact. I've never been tested for HSV2 -- and even though I've never had mouth cold sores it's theoretically possible to shed HSV2 mouth-to-genitals via DATY. Even if I did test positive for HSV2, I wouldn't know what to do with the information. All HSV1 tests have been negative.

There's no test for HPV in men and only a small handful of HPV strains cause throat cancer and exposure to the "bad" strain doesn't mean it will develop into throat cancer.

I take it that genital HSV1 isn't the end of the world, but divulging to your partner is necessary IMO. The stigma is worse than the symptoms. So I think the standard 10-test panel is the best bet, minus HSV2.

I'm writing from the perspective of having one or two SBs per year. If you're the kind of guy who fucks several strippers per month, you'll probably end up with genital herpes whether you use condoms or not.

@randommember - Are you sure you aren't getting 1 and 2 reversed? 1 is oral and 2 is genital. Also good to hear you have never had cold sores. It seems odd to me that if 80% of the population has is but I rarely ever see someone with an outbreak.

Yeah, you're right @Paul, I got HSV1 and HSV2 reversed. HSV1 usually (not always) lives in the mouth.

Some CDC stats on the prevalence of herpes:

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databr…

HIV is pretty much 100 percent preventable with condoms. You can still enjoy BBBJ.

I find that asking a potential sex partners to get tested for STDs before you touch them will kill the romance.

Jackslash - more power to you if you find romance in a strip club. Finding sex is a good trip for me.

Should HK lovers worry about this? Those ladies service a lot of men so the odds are greater of catching something. The typical American stripper outside of Detroit has not been around the block that much. At least that’s what I want to believe.

Honestly always wear a cover for vaginal sex with a sex worker or even a civilian slut.

BBBJ is pretty low risk for the person getting blown.

With a condom the only big risks are HPV and one of the HSV. If you've been around the block, you have had HPV in your life, often symptomless.

I have had fever blisters and canker sores ever since I was a young child. so I have the virus in me. when I was a teenager my mother did some research and found that taking the amino acid 'lysine' is a huge help. you can buy it at target, Walmart, drug stores and grocery stores and it's relatively cheap. it's pretty much inevitable you're going to get it if you don't have it already. and if you don't have it simply don't have sex or contact with anybody else.

The best way to avoid herpes is to ask your perspective partner if she has herpes before any contact.

Just think positive and you won't catch anything

Just use listermint as a body wash it kills all infectious bacteria.

Or you can opt for max protection:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wVxSUz-F…

Not to sound sketchy, but be extra careful with black chicks going the extras route as around half or more of them have genital herpes; it could be much higher with sex workers. If you include cold sores, it might be just about all of them (and yes, transmitting HSV-1, cold sores, to the genitals is actually getting much more common now that kids are not as exposed to it early in life anymore)...