OT crazy woman

Most women use sex to get love.
Many men offer love just to get sex.

In this case, it seems she mistook your one-night-stand as expressing a desire for a relationship. Venus and Mars, baby.

I'd say we've all experienced the stage five clinger phenomenon -- that's the allure of the SC lifestyle.

On a side note -- you must be charming -- that shit on a business trip has never happened to me.

Wow! What an oh shit experience!

There is a quite from the movie Forest Gump that popped into my mind as I read your post.....

Run Forest Run!

Just saying

She is crazy

Honestly, I was shocked when she said that because twice in her Room I told her it was a one night to kind of thing. And I offered to leave if she was uncomfortable with that. As far as charming, I think I'm friendly and I like to chat so that comes across whether I'm in a club or at a hotel bar. I almost always have fun visiting with people when I'm in a bar and make at least a few friends. I also know that I'm not the best looking guy so being friendly helps.

Yes, in my dating years, I met a number of girls who were a bit off center and a few who were downright nuts. One girl introduced me to her parents on a first time date right before we went to a hotel to fuck. Another one wanted me to tutor her son in math after a one night hookup. I'm sure I could remember others if I gave it some thought.

I've given up trying to figure out what goes on in women's minds years ago when it comes to relationships and sex. I've just realized my thought process and theirs is so different there is no sense in trying to comprehend.

Over the years I've had my share of one night stands, especially since I travel and if I am staying in at the hotel bar in a large city ( NYC, Philadelphia, DC, Baltimore, Dallas). Referencing the ones that come to my mind immediately.

Having lived through the early 80's I'm big on carrying and using protection but the majority of them didn't seem to care regardless if they had kids, where in a relationship or not.

Even the last SA girl I dated this past year for eight months first meet and greet ( not expecting anything) we end up in bed and she isn't interested in my using a condom........

I've also had them give me their home address and number......I live 500 miles away and I won't be back for months if ever......doesn't matter.......in case you are here is how your reach me........

And for the most part I don't feel I am an overachiever with the one exception that I listen to people and that seems to be in itself a lost art in today's world.

@rickduggan

Did you end up tutoring the son? Was it P4P?

I have no idea. I have had maybe 3 one night stands that were with beautiful coworkers who wanted to “fuck me for my brains”. All younger. All attached to some other. Just “fuck me and leave me”. Never had anyone want me to meet their kids! I have never had a one night stand with a random individual, other than a stripper ITC or an AMP inside the parlor.

Birches be crazy.lol

But in seriousness, you can't spend too much time trying to figure out what is going through a woman's mind. It's how they drive us crazy! Lol

DC. Swap? In general every woman I meet seems to want to be in a relationship not all, but in general. Maybe it's my age and when I am with age appropriate women they're thinking about marriage. Thank God strippers and escorts don't feel that way. Because I sure as hell am not ready for a relationship yet and probably never will be again. Honestly, I don't mind being friends or friends with benefits, but I have no desire to get married it's been 4 years since I lost my wife I am not ready although this one honestly is the 1st one near my age that made me consider dating seriously. That is until she said she wanted me to meet the kids. I was thinking could we have a couple dates before we move to that step.

"Thank God strippers and escorts don't feel that way"--we must be meeting strippers and escorts with a different mindset. Trust me they are out there. Not all of them, not most of them, but there are a few clingers I have met along the way.

Yeah, they're out here. I'm no longer seeing an escort out here on the East Coast because she got a little clingy. But I think that's more rare. As far as dancers I rarely do more than 2 0TC with a dancer 3 is probably Max.

I’ve had that sort of thing happen - and it’s scary. I won’t lead a woman on. I’m upfront that it’s no strings attached. So - if the woman ignores my words - and clings - I’m still not staying with her.

Guys are simple - and if a guy says he wants to fuck - that means he wants to fuck. He didn’t say anything about meeting any kids!

@DC maybe you just need some kind of “flow” with the females? For example, if they want to detach a little, then only take the initiative to contact them once a week and meet up once a week and be all sweet lovey dovey during that period.

And then after be silent. Do this and
have a rotation of three females once a week. From your angle, you get to be boyfriend-like three times a week and they only see you once.

If you could pull it off, then you will naturally fall into dealing with the cling and then demanding your attention more—which would likely be best to ignore at that point. And no promising to be exclusive or anything.

And throw in a sex worker or two in the mix for extra fun.
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And yeah, I think societal pressure to procreate and have a husband is more fierce on a female who is older. More so than wanting to take the time to decide if a man is actually suitable.

Oh well. That’s why I have customers I guess.

And I may be just a stripper who has problems focusing on most in life, but the hardcore societal pressure working on the respectable women (which clearly doesn’t work well since women initiate 70% of divorces) has amused me in a schadenfreude kind of way before. I’m *hoping* I can avoid that trap in the future.

^ Meeting with someone’s kids is a big thing when you get to a certain point in life, it totally changes the dynamic, even more so if the children are young, they need stability, you can’t make them understand why folks are in and out of their life, and it causes them anxiety when someone they like doesn’t come around anymore.

25, don’t mind DC, he’s just looking for any angle to argue whether it makes sense or not

The woman OP banged was smart. She was using reverse psychology to get rid of him for the night and ensure it was a one-off.

Leykis 101, stay away from single moms

Shoot, steeldog. It's crystal clear that you are just so charming and attractive that MILFs will climb all over each other to get to you.

Deal with it! ;-D

, she knew up front this was just a physical one night thing or maybe it would last a little longer if it worked out while we were both the town. Several times the night before we had dinner and also that night. It's comparable for you perhaps to meeting a stripper having an ITC experience and then as she's cleaning up asking her to go with you to meet your mother.

Cmon DC everyone with half a brain knows that, stop being such a little kid and stop looking for arguments just because you’re bored.

I used to travel a lot but I was never able to convert any social interaction into non paid sex. I wish I did though.
Closest thing happened to me was with a sugar baby. We started as a regular SB SD arrangement meeting once a week for dinner, drinks and sex. Slowly it turned into over nights at the hotels I stayed in with no change in allowance and at some point we were meeting 4 nights a week for dinner and fun. At one point she said she wasn't comfortable taking money for sex. I generally take her to nice places and different food and go to movies and bowling etc. Every night was a date night with a girl 10+ years than me. She knew I was married when we started the arrangement but somewhere during the 2 years arrangement (though I wasn't paying after first 4 months) I think I told her that I was separated though I was still married with kids.
After 2 years, twice within a same week I had nightmares in which the SB was pregnant. She was on pills though. I took that a wakeup call and cut her off. It was fun while it lasted, I think I had feelings for her because after I cut her off next month or so was not easy.