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The Kempton-Wace Letters

Feb 4, 2019, 2:59 PM

I have been going out over the last three months with an extremely hot 24 year old woman. You may have noticed I have been posting alot less on here. I would guess most guys would classify her in the 9 to 10 range. Personally, I thought she was too beautiful for an average guy like me. I also learned after the fact that she is an Instagram model by tracing back pictures she texted me back to her Instagram account. (Not sharing the link as I am seeing/banging her.) She posts sexy pictures of herself a few times a week and get all kinds of compliments from random dudes on the internet telling her how hot she is. It is the most beta thing ever, and I'm sure she gets a high off all of the validation and attention. I think I was only able to date her and eventually bang her because I never complimented her on her looks or kissed her ass. I never put hot women on a pedestal like 99% of other guys do. If you come across as thirsty, these type of women will automatically categorize you as below them.

Now, I love going out in public with this girl. She always dresses sexy, and it is an ego boost for me when all kinds of men are checking her out and also noticing I'm the "guy with the girl". I love having sex with a beautiful woman that works out and has a pornstar body.

But here is the downside. This Barbie is empty inside and has alot of issues. She has only a high school education, and only decent income in the present because she is hot. She is constantly offered to be a "social influencer" by various companies because people pay attention to hot girls. Face it, sex sells. She took up a job with one of the largest entertainment companies in the United States as a basically an social influencer/model/intern. She makes okay money in the present, but I think as she ages and gets to her later 20's, she will get dropped for someone younger and hotter. Lets face it: most women hit their prime in their mid-twenties. She doesn't have any real hobbies other than instagram, make-up, texting, and shopping. Conversation is high school level and gets boring for me when we go out for dinner. Dates are better spent at loud nightclubs where I can't hear her talk and just have her grind on my pork sword. She hasn't saved a cent and can't manage money to save her life. The 24 year old is telling me she is in love with me and is pushing for a much more serious relationship. This would be a disaster for me to get involved with a woman like this. She has all kinds of problems that would prevent me from ever getting into a serious relationship with her (daddy issues, credit card debt, heavy drinker, recreational drug use, etc.) I like banging her and going out with her, but that is the extent of it. I'm sure some idiot desperate to marry a hot chick will get involved with her and ruin his life, but it won't be me.

At the same time, I have also been seeing a 25 year old who is very similar, so I will not run through all the details again, many which are the same. She is also an Instagram "model" and has alot of issues that would keep me from ever wanting a serious relationship with her. But the sex is great, and she is insanely gorgeous and fun to party with. The attention she gets in public rubs off on me and makes me feel like I'm the pimp of the city.

So I am with two women who I would have never dreamed I would have been with, much less be banging the shit out of, yet I am unhappy and feel like I am wasting my time and money because these Barbies are never the type of women I could ever be in a real meaningful relationship with or marry or have kids with. Why is it that the hottest women that we desire the most are also the most fucked up as well? It is like a linear x-y scale: the hotter they are, the more problems they have. Why can't there be a 10 that also has a career, goals, education, good credit and finances, is drug-free, has hobbies, can do well at trivia night, comes from a good family, etc? I think I would be much happier in a relationship with a nerdy chick that is a 6.5 to 7.5 in looks, going places in life, can keep me intellectually intrigued, and give me healthy progeny.

I think this all goes back to what Jack London wrote in the The Kempton-Wace Letters. The type of woman you fuck the shit out of is not the same type of woman that you wife up. You need two women in your life: a stable woman for friendship and love and a hot piece of ass for sex and emotion. For whatever reason, it is nearly impossible to find both rolled into one.

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Papi_Chulo6 years ago

Nice write-up, it would have made a good TUSCL article

sinclair6 years ago

Not article worthy. Just some thoughts flowing through my mind on dating, love, and sex.

Papi_Chulo6 years ago

"... personally, I thought she was too beautiful for an average guy like me ..."

Average? Nah man - you're sinclair

"... I think I was only able to date her and eventually bang her because I never complimented her on her looks or kissed her ass ..."

I personally don't have much game w/ women (but for w/e reason do surprisingly well w/ strippers I'm paying) - anyway the one thing that has worked out well for me in the past when I bothered w/ civvies was acting indifferent, for w/e reason I seemed to get more attention that way - although I couldn't always keep it cool and not go into dweeb-mode of kissing her ass.

"... Dates are better spent at loud nightclubs where I can't hear her talk and just have her grind on my pork sword ..."

That's some romantic shit right there man - I can see how these chicks dig you

"... The 24 year old is telling me she is in love with me and is pushing for a much more serious relationship. This would be a disaster for me to get involved with a woman like this. She has all kinds of problems that would prevent me from ever getting into a serious relationship with her ..."

That's part of the reason I decided to stop messing w/ civvies - not trying to say that I had to be beating civvies off w/ a stick, but I would get involved w/ civvies, whether consciously or subconsciously, mostly for the physical, and then had to go thru the painful process (for me) of having to break up w/ them once the "new ho smell wore off" - and having to break-up with them was especially hard (for me) b/c they really had not done anything wrong, I'd just had enough after the physical stuff wore off.

"... Why is it that the hottest women that we desire the most are also the most fucked up as well? It is like a linear x-y scale: the hotter they are, the more problems they have. Why can't there be a 10 that also has a career, goals, education, good credit and finances, is drug-free, has hobbies, can do well at trivia night, comes from a good family ..."

Are you not familiar with the "hot/crazy matrix"?

And yes, there are "10s" that have their shit quite together - but that's just on the surface b/c according to the hot/crazy matrix those actually turn out to be trannies (not that there's anything wrong with that):

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"... You need two women in your life: a stable woman for friendship and love and a hot piece of ass for send emotion ..."

I guess that is why we have so many married TUSCLers

Papi_Chulo6 years ago

I guess that is why I found strip-clubs such a good fit - one can get w/ crazy/hot chicks and don't have to deal w/ their craziness (unless you become a RIL)

Muddy6 years ago

Interesting write up Sinclair. I wonder if those 10’s with great personality just get taken off the market super quick.

I go back and forth with this constantly but I feel that the 10 with no personality is much rarer than the good personality 8. So at this stage of my life I would just go for the hottest thing available. I would love to be wrong about that though. But I think I’m to shallow at this point.

CJKent (Banned)6 years ago

@Sinclair

To answer your questions;

Why is it that the hottest women that we desire the most are also the most fucked up as well?

Because our culture makes that an easy choice; a culture that actually reward girls for looks rather than brains, intellect, education, knowledge, being kind, noble, etc.

Why can't there be a 10 that also has a career, goals, education, good credit and finances, is drug-free, has hobbies, can do well at trivia night, comes from a good family, etc?

There are woman like that in our country, but are very few, because of the same answer as to your other question. There are more women like that in other countries where their culture have no yet been so influenced by our American culture with the help of Hollywood movies and international propaganda saying that we are the best and most beautiful etc.

Cultures and societies that value knowledge and value humility and community, and focus on family and society rather than our own individual desires.

We often times impose unrealistic demands on our friends, acquaintances, lovers, the world around us, because we have developed a superiority complex and a sense of entitlement.

We have to learn that other people don’t merely exist to serve our needs and wants.

And we have been raised to be unhappy no matter how much we have.

We need to accept life as it is without imposing our beliefs, ideals or unrealistic expectations on others and life.

You should be happy you are the envy of many as you said, because you are having great sex with two beautiful women, yet you are not happy, because you have unrealistic expectations, remember that nobody is perfect and remember the culture and society we live in.

Concentrate on developing a sense of compassion and empathy for your girls. Asking “how does she feel right now, is she OK?”, “how would I feel if I was her?” helps to broaden the mind, and open it to new, and beneficial, ways of thinking.

This includes practicing forgiveness and allowing people to be the way they are naturally, accepting them as they are and if possible helping them to be better for their own benefit.

Remember watch Dirty Harry said: “A man’s got to know his limitations.”

Serenity and patience to accept the things he can’t change. Strength to change the things he can change. Wisdom to know the difference.

“There is a special magic and holiness about women they are the bringers of life to the people and the teacher of children”

I prefer Jack London’s essay were he relates the formative experiences of his working life because of has some hope...this an small example.

“What Life Means to Me”

“I look forward to a time when man shall progress upon something worthier and higher than his stomach, when there will be a finer incentive to impel men to action than the incentive of to-day, which is the incentive of the stomach. I retain my belief in the nobility and excellence of the human. I believe that spiritual sweetness and unselfishness will conquer the gross gluttony of to-day.”

nicespice6 years ago

As a female who is more classy and intelligent than average (that average being compared to other strippers), I think those qualities are overrated.

Salty.Nutz6 years ago

A truly hot girl will never know if she is really interesting, meaning she will have plenty of suitors. her intelegience or income are irrelevant in the marriage or dating market place.

im not trying to hate gawker but maybe the attention youre getting is due to your age difference. Hot girls know their worth, and most dont even try in a relationship. the average guys (me included) will label her behavior as shitty, but its because she doent give a fuck and isnt trying to make it work.

-me6 years ago

I feel the op's pain. I've been seeing a dancer in and out of the club for a while now. Super hot, and has issues. I think she's probably fading and won't amount to much. But I love going out and otherwise spending time with her. Also pretty sure I could be with her full time if I was willing to get divorced. I think about it sometimes though, trying to make a civvie housewife or something out of her.