Nichole, if one approaches it that way, there will have to be a 10 year courtship and 10 years of counseling before there might be any sex. You sound like someone who is seeking celibacy.
Women who want there to be sex, they start off with sex. Then see about values compatibility later.
Nicole is right when it comes to finding something that's actually real. Its not made by sex, sex is something that comes of it naturally and stems from the feelings, trust and intimacy you have with each other. You don't put a timeline on something like that. Its just when it feels right.
I'm not against casual sex, I've had plenty of it but its not all that. Its just an empty physical thrill. When you make love, its a huge difference.
Sex is a physical act like walking on a tread mill. A lot of people overhype it. Governments make too many laws restricting it. It would be healthier for everyone if it wasn't considered so special. There aren't that many laws about where and with whom you can exercise with. Pay someone to exercise with you, no problem. Might even seem weird. Pay someone to have sex, you broke the law.
"Today, in ecclesiastical circles, sex is being damned with faint praise. People are saying: “After all, yes, sex was made by God and we should remember the Jewish point of view. And it is perhaps for something more than reproduction. To bring about the cementing of the marriage ties between husband and wive. But, still, in practise, it remains the frightening taboo.” On the other hand, the opposition to Christian prudery goes overboard and always moves in the direction of total license. You see, what’s going on is a contest between the people who want the skirts pulled down to the floor and the people who want them pulled up to the neck. And you know you ‘got to draw the line somewhere. But the play between these forces is: where are we gonna draw it? Well that’s very exciting, provide neither side wins. I mean, imagine what it would be like if the libertines won and they took over the Church. So that on Wednesday evenings, the young Presbyterian group would meet for prayer-through-sex. Every child would go to the school physician for a course in hygienics and they’d have classes and they’d have plastic models and all the children would do it in class in very clean hygienic circumstances, all sprayed with rubbing alcohol. Imagine how boring it would all become! So you see, the people who say “No, modesty is important!” have something right about them. But they mustn’t be allowed to get away with it. But they mustn’t be obliterated. See, life works that way." - Alan Watts
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Women who want there to be sex, they start off with sex. Then see about values compatibility later.
SJG
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I'm not against casual sex, I've had plenty of it but its not all that. Its just an empty physical thrill. When you make love, its a huge difference.
i don't think many on this forum get that.
SJG
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"Today, in ecclesiastical circles, sex is being damned with faint praise. People are saying: “After all, yes, sex was made by God and we should remember the Jewish point of view. And it is perhaps for something more than reproduction. To bring about the cementing of the marriage ties between husband and wive. But, still, in practise, it remains the frightening taboo.” On the other hand, the opposition to Christian prudery goes overboard and always moves in the direction of total license. You see, what’s going on is a contest between the people who want the skirts pulled down to the floor and the people who want them pulled up to the neck. And you know you ‘got to draw the line somewhere. But the play between these forces is: where are we gonna draw it? Well that’s very exciting, provide neither side wins. I mean, imagine what it would be like if the libertines won and they took over the Church. So that on Wednesday evenings, the young Presbyterian group would meet for prayer-through-sex. Every child would go to the school physician for a course in hygienics and they’d have classes and they’d have plastic models and all the children would do it in class in very clean hygienic circumstances, all sprayed with rubbing alcohol. Imagine how boring it would all become! So you see, the people who say “No, modesty is important!” have something right about them. But they mustn’t be allowed to get away with it. But they mustn’t be obliterated. See, life works that way." - Alan Watts