Tipping, in general and strip clubs in particular

Well - from what I've heard tipping is pretty-much non-existent in Europe (and maybe most of the world?) - I guess in the US the business community is responsible for passing the tipping costs unto consumers.

I only tip for lapdances that are above average. The better the dance the more the tip and anything that I would consider average or below doesn't get a tip. That's how I handle tipping most places outside of the club as well. If the waitress gives above average service I generally tip around 15%, if she gives great service that really stands out I will tip 25%.

For stage shows I will generally tip at least $2-4 per song if she is worth me sitting at the rail because she is giving me something of value with no cost other than a tip. If I don't think she is worth at least that much for a close up view of her naked body I will leave the rail when she starts or if her dance is subpar I will leave after a small tip before the end of the first song. I also do this for others that provide a service free of charge like when I take my mother to chemo once a week and use the "free" valet parking that the hospital provides I will always give the valet at least $5 unless the service is terrible.

I generally don't tip for having a girl sit with me and talk because that isn't really a service in my mind and I rarely sit with a girl for more than 10-15 without getting dances. If I am into her I will buy her a drink while we talk before going for a dance or VIP, but other than that I just consider it part of her marketing to sell dances/VIPs.

Years ago, my uncle who lived in a different city, was in my city for a convention. He offered to take my wife and I to dinner. He wanted Chinese so I selected the best Chinese restaurant in Houston at the time. He insisted that he pay since it was kind of our wedding gift. I did not see the bill but I'm guessing it was over $100 as this was nice place. As I'm getting up to leave, I look down at the amount my uncle was leaving as a tip and I saw three bills on table and at least one of them was a single. Didn't see the other two bills. As we were walking to our car in the parking lot, out comes the waiter. Throwing fortune cookies at us and yelling in Mandarin. My uncle admitted later that he probably didn't tip enough.

I tip every song at the stage. I rarely sit at stage though.

I tip for lap or VIP dances only for extraordinary service. Girls who ask for tips get a friendly, direct, polite "no".

If a stripper comes by to talk, and I subsequently decide not to do a dance with her:

• If I invited her over, I'll tip her commensurate to how long she stayed after the first few songs
• If she invited herself over but I did not shoo her away within the first few songs, I'll tip her for how long she stayed after first few songs
• If she invited herself over, I shoo'ed her away but she didn't go, but I'm enjoying her company anyway -- believe it or not, this seems to happen somewhat often -- I'll include her in our drink rounds. I may or may not tip her, but often not.

I tip the bartender and waitress every time

I usually don't tip the bouncer or manager unless they did me a serious solid... which sometimes they do. I sometimes buy them shots to do with us, though

My ritual is similar to subraman with couples of differences. Although I tip almost every stage song regardless of their skills or how much skin they show on the stage, I generally skip the girls that acted like they are entitled for a tip on the stage. That's a big turn off for me.

Plus, I generally tip the bouncer/ VIP area security while entering that area so that they don't bother me.

I completely agree with the OP’s comments on the heightened expectations for tipping. It’s bullshit.

That said, I don’t blame the servers and such for the tipping debacle in the US. I blame Congress and the IRS; they’re the ones that enable restaurants and such to get away with that shit. I’m of the opinion that everyone should be paying the same minimum wage.

Actually, I’m of the opinion that the minimum wage is a fascist piece of shit legislation that should be abolished, but that’s another discussion.

-->"Although I tip almost every stage song regardless of their skills or how much skin they show on the stage, I generally skip the girls that acted like they are entitled for a tip on the stage. That's a big turn off for me. "

If for any reason I don't feel like tipping a girl on stage, I leave the stage. I feel like if you sit at the stage, there's an unspoken agreement, you'll tip. So just leave the stage if you don't want to tip.

-->"Plus, I generally tip the bouncer/ VIP area security while entering that area so that they don't bother me."

I'm aware there are clubs where this is an expected ritual, and if I were a random customer at such a club, I'd do as the natives do and tip the bouncer. As it is, though, I'm a regular at most of the clubs I go to, I almost always have done some bonding with the managers and bouncers over months and years, and they already 1. don't charge me entrance fee, 2. don't bother me during dances, 3. put girls on the schedule when I request they be put on (managers only). Tipping them is only needed if you don't already have the system wired up :)

Do bartenders get paid at least minimum wage? I assume they do but not sure - it seems waitresses don't get paid min wage but bartenders do and both seem to get tipped the same.

Papi, it varies state to state. In FL bartenders are paid like wait staff/servers and must earn the bulk from tips.

Tbh I like the tipping culture as it provides additional incentive for good service. This is especially true in a strip club, where tipping can be used tactically to achieve desired outcomes. For example, in my favorite clubs, the bartenders are very good to me and girls are often happy to sit with me despite the fact that I rarely see the inside of a LD room. I also don't mind tipping bathroom trolls who provide a clean restroom, especially when I have to use a toilet.

To each his own though.

I never give dancers a tip. I give them the whole thing.

If waitresses were paid a higher hourly wage, the price of the meal would go up to compensate. At least with tipping there is better pay for better performance

Lol jackslash.

I try to keep it to the bare minimum when come to tipping. Every beer $1 goes to the bartender. I don’t want to open up pandora’s Box and start tipping others, then they are gonna expect that shit

If sitting at the stage, I tip every dancer. Amount differs by how interested I am.

Bartender or waitress.... every round.

LD or VIP. Only if above avg service

I tip well above average. Why, those that I tip do a job I would never want to do. That, and at most all places we go, we are "regulars". They do treat us extremely well. Our watering hole bartender does the best of all those I tip. He is important!

Bring your loonies and toonies like FarmerArt used to. And make it hail

I don't tip dancers, but I'm okay with paying at or above the regular rate.

On the flip side, I ALWAYS tip bouncers, door guys, waitresses, bartenders, etc. even if the service is bad but if is bad I make a mental note to avoid that person. Other workers usually notice that I get the play and once in a while managers get it that someone is slacking or they too busy and they need to help out or hire more folks.

My experience is similar to Icey Loco for the most part. I tend to avoid sitting at the bar that are directly adjacent to the stage, as that's known at Tip Row. I'll selectively tip 1's to entertainers who don't act entitled and will at least engage in some witty banter while collecting their tips, but that's a rare occasion. Subraman is correct about the an unspoken agreement if one decides to sit near a stage. That's why I sit at tables and chairs FAR AWAY from the stage.

I've never tipped bouncers or management. I've done a few lap dances and never tipped as well.

Yeah sitting at or near the stage and looking without ever tipping is rude.

I don't really hustle dance tips here. Don't think they take well to that and supposedly illegal to demand tips here idk it is a grey line. I dont feel the need to be greedy. Prices and level of contact where I'm at dont make me feel compelled to demand more. Now the stupid fucking shit girls put up with in states like tx or fl for $20/$25 ya I'd ask for tips left and right fuck that in my respectful opinion.

We make our prices where I am at and our rules as funny as it sounds. But I love it and it works well for me.

Also no stupid 2 for 1 bullshit or specials f that

I see it like girls ask for tips when their $$$ for something is just not enough for wht they put up with or maybe cuts are horrible like on vip rooms. Like if the girl sells like a 600 hr keeps 240 ya she gonna demand huge tips. Lot of factors involved