Diminishing returns

The longer i partake in this hobby, the more i find myself set in the specific type of experience i'm seeking. To make an oft used analogy, closer to the beginning of this hobby, i could compare SCing to eating out. You would and could eat out anywhere, fine dining or fast food or chain restaurant. I mean each type of place served their purpose. You kind of got what you paid for. After doing this long enough, you knew what to expect. But this is where the analogy ends. After decades of eating out, i still don't really limit myself to one particular type of restaurant (value) or one type of cuisine/flavor or one type of experience.

But as far as SCing goes, i just have certain standards that have to be met. If it's an SC i've never been to before, i usually apply such standards. Those usually being quality of the girls working and general mileage offered (and other criteria too but i won't go into those here). If either one is even mediocre or worse, i probably never bother with the club again. Before i might have let one of the criteria slide a bit as long as the other one made up for it. But not anymore. Life is too short and money too limited to waste on unsatisfactory SCing experiences (and the thing was, not all that long ago, these particular experiences weren't always unsatisfying). The same thing applies with new dancers regardless of the club. And even familiar/regular dancers.

Now for some unfortunate PLs, they can only take what's available and it might not be much at all. So their ignorance might be their bliss. I'm not saying that my personal experiences are awesome or anything. No, actually i'm more sensitive these days to changes in the varying levels of enjoyment of my SC visits. If a particular visit seemed subpar, i tend to be quite circumspect of the reasons why and make whatever possible adjustments going forward.

TL; DR basically, i'm just much more pickier now about which SCs i visit and who i spend my money on and how i spend it. This isn't some sudden change; actually it was fairly gradual, but the transition is definitely complete and i don't think it's ever going to change. Also, i know that according to economic theory, the correct term is diminishing marginal utility, but diminishing returns just sounds a lot better...

13 comments

  • georgmicrodong
    6 years ago
    Agreed.
  • steeldog65
    6 years ago
    Dead on
  • CJKent (Banned)
    6 years ago
    We all, hopefully. learn a thing or two, as we get older; we might not change all that much, but if we are paying attention we might at least get to know ourselves a bit better.
    We realize that no matter how hard we try, we are never going to be or do all those things we wanted to be or do or achieve the things we dream about doing since we were kids, or in the case of this hobby get to a club and find it full of 10’s like in the movies or find the strippers with the heart of gold.

    We do get set on our way and preferences and get into what is important and what is not for ourselves. We found our type of girl and the type of experience we like and hopefully learn to invest our time, money and efforts on obtaining that experience more efficiently.

    I like to think that I will be able to follow the following quote:
    “At this stage of my life;
    If something doesn’t makes me happy;
    If something doesn’t make me better;
    And if something doesn’t make me money;
    I shouldn’t make time for that something”

    Many people on TUSCL have said that for the most part we don’t regret having spent all the money we spent on the experiences we had with the girls, however we wish we would have spent the money more efficiently.

    Hopefully we will be better at it next year so we all can have a
    HAPPY NEW YEAR!
  • Papi_Chulo
    6 years ago
    I guess the more you do something one kinda becomes pickier - e.g. a person that eats out a lot will probably be more choosie w.r.t. where they eat - a person that travels a lot may be more choosie w.r.t. what hotels they stay in, etc
  • steeldog65
    6 years ago
    I also think there's a level of been there done that starts to creep into your appreciation of experiences. Sometime is the dancer that's a bit exotic in appearance or dances to a type of music away you haven't seen or wears a different outfit will pique your interest
  • Icey
    6 years ago
    why would anyone spend their money on something they don't like? people who are dumb enough don't deserve to complain.
  • TFP
    6 years ago
    Spot on post, Dirk.

    CJKent nice comment also. Agree 100%.
  • SuperDude
    6 years ago
    SC standards have declined rapidly over the past five years. Once a haven for entertainment, now most clubs are hiring dancers with little skills and no manners, charging more fees than the airlines, backing dancers when they rip off customers and doing little to make clubbing an enjoyable experience.
  • Cristobal
    6 years ago
    I'm relatively new at SCing and I'm enjoying every experience, either by learning from it or because it was so good.

    That said, I can see your point as to expectations and not wasting too much time or money.

    Which is why I appreciate this site and members willing to share their experiences for the benefit of the community.

    Thanks TUSCLers.
  • theDirkDiggler
    6 years ago
    @CJKent
    True, i'm not a regretful person in general and at the time, i did enjoy the experiences, probably just as much as i do now or close to it. But if i were to have those same experiences at the same places now, i would absolutely feel that i wasted my money and i would not continue on. I'm not just talking about 10+ years ago, or way pre-TUSCL, but even in the last few years when i thought i was much more "efficient" or less wasteful.

    @Papi
    That's why i made the analogy, but the thing is i'm not quite that picky in general in other areas. The main thing i noticed with regard to SCing is that for me there is no going back to an inferior experience. And certainly at the same price point, which is definitely another important criteria. Once i've reached a certain level of satisfaction with a particular club/dancer, i find that anything noticeable worse is largely unacceptable to me. But back to that price point, where i find that i can still make exceptions. For instance, if i spend $50 at a largely eye candy club (stage dominated) or $100 at a "value" dance ($10-20 compared to the usual $20-30) but moderate mileage club, i can accept that (kind of like your fast food and chain restaurant options). But even with that understanding, now i tend to feel i would have rather just left it than taken it. That i didn't really save potentially hundreds of dollars but felt more like i had wasted $50-100 despite having a fairly enjoyable time and definitely a different type of experience. And if i had spent even more at the respective places, i definitely would have felt more in the waste column. There's a lot more clarity of the situation for me right now.
  • Muddy
    6 years ago
    I feel this way too. In many experiences checking new clubs. I often just bounce if I don’t like it immediately. I have COUNTLESS ways to spend my money. I’ll just save it for a better opportunity. I fucking up and leave. Not “Awww come on we are here” no, I’m looking for a fucking awesome time, that’s why I am PAYING. And I’m glad to do it but I got get what I want out of it.
  • san_jose_guy
    6 years ago
    If you want something specific, find suitable girls and see them outside.

    SJG
  • rickdugan
    6 years ago
    I have become much pickier as well. There is no going back to the days where I was happy with, for example, a CBJ in some shitty bargain dive club. I've had much better for so long, both ITC and OTC, that I cannot go back to rushed or mediocre experiences.

    But over these years I have also learned to be patient and let a night play out a bit before cutting my losses. Sometimes I think that some guys here get a bit impatient. To me every night out holds the possibility of a new adventure. If it turns into something really fun, then my patience is rewarded. If a club visit ends up being nothing more than a bar trip with titties, then so be it. The only thing that really bothers me is a night where I blow a lot of money for a shitty overall experience.

    One of numerous examples of patience rewarded happened just a couple of weeks ago. A hott ass girl who I had previously written off sat down and, after a bit of chit chat, offered me very modest price for an OTC trip. Just one week earlier, after hoursiand some tipping invested, she quoted me $2,000 - basically her "I won't do that" quote. She ended up being one of the best OTC adventures I've had for some time, which I'd have missed if I had bagged out too early.
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