why i decided to strip..not even for a single night which is what i wanted to do
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i've gotten asking messages why i don't strip..some ppl think it is bc i might be shy. I'd just like to clarify something:
-I CAN be sexual as hell..as well as seductive as hell
-I definitely don't have an issue with making the customer feel special/welcomed/excited emotionally or mentally given that i am queen at making friends AND conversation AND flirting lol. I'd be the type of dancer who would want to spend some time getting to know the customer, what he is looking for, and establishing a mutual connection before asking for anything. Otherwise the interaction would feel forced.
-It isn't the strip club environment that compels a girl to be confident, sexy, flirty, and amicable which bothers me, as it is this very partial job description of a stripper that got me thinking about doing it for a night just for fun. INSTEAD, what turns me off and therefore constitutes as a cost which exceeds the benefits(factors drew me into which I just mentioned) is the fact that my body would be a commodity to someone whom I would prefer not to have my body sold to for a few mins in order to enjoy myself. Like, if I'm going to let you touch me, I have to like you, which doesn't involve physical attraction, but rather I'd want to be approached in a way that would instill within me the desire to provide services to you. although this can be done as a stripper may be able to selectively chose her customers, a fact which I do not ignore, the truth is that the genre of customers a dancer may want to cater herself to may be limited compared to the other men available. Consequently, this would impose a burden on me. Also, I need to ensure the dude is not a misogynist before allowing him to touch me. This would not only take time, but be a very awkward thing to screen for as a stripper..not worth it.
-Yes, people may argue that we "sell our lives to corporate america" which is why i am not arguing against stripping as a profession, but displaying why I don't want to purse it anymore.
-firstly, I've never had to really sell myself in a job. Right now I'm involved in academics and extracurriculars to a significant degree in ORDER to get the long term job I want upon graduation so that I will not "sell myself". Even though this requires obtaining internships /part time work etc, I feel less burdened in having to "put up with shit" and therefore do not feel as compelled to "sell myself" compared to if I was a stripper in which case the majority of the customers would be unappealing to me.
-Basically, i could totally strip sober bc thats what i was thinking of doing when i was thinking of doing it just for a night. HOWEVER, a mood killer for me which prevents me from being the seductress and fun and flirtatious girl that i can be is if the man is a misogynist or douche to others. because both these things are awkward to "screen for " as a dancer as doing so almost defeats the purpose of being a dancer, I aint about dat lyfe..
Nicole out
-I CAN be sexual as hell..as well as seductive as hell
-I definitely don't have an issue with making the customer feel special/welcomed/excited emotionally or mentally given that i am queen at making friends AND conversation AND flirting lol. I'd be the type of dancer who would want to spend some time getting to know the customer, what he is looking for, and establishing a mutual connection before asking for anything. Otherwise the interaction would feel forced.
-It isn't the strip club environment that compels a girl to be confident, sexy, flirty, and amicable which bothers me, as it is this very partial job description of a stripper that got me thinking about doing it for a night just for fun. INSTEAD, what turns me off and therefore constitutes as a cost which exceeds the benefits(factors drew me into which I just mentioned) is the fact that my body would be a commodity to someone whom I would prefer not to have my body sold to for a few mins in order to enjoy myself. Like, if I'm going to let you touch me, I have to like you, which doesn't involve physical attraction, but rather I'd want to be approached in a way that would instill within me the desire to provide services to you. although this can be done as a stripper may be able to selectively chose her customers, a fact which I do not ignore, the truth is that the genre of customers a dancer may want to cater herself to may be limited compared to the other men available. Consequently, this would impose a burden on me. Also, I need to ensure the dude is not a misogynist before allowing him to touch me. This would not only take time, but be a very awkward thing to screen for as a stripper..not worth it.
-Yes, people may argue that we "sell our lives to corporate america" which is why i am not arguing against stripping as a profession, but displaying why I don't want to purse it anymore.
-firstly, I've never had to really sell myself in a job. Right now I'm involved in academics and extracurriculars to a significant degree in ORDER to get the long term job I want upon graduation so that I will not "sell myself". Even though this requires obtaining internships /part time work etc, I feel less burdened in having to "put up with shit" and therefore do not feel as compelled to "sell myself" compared to if I was a stripper in which case the majority of the customers would be unappealing to me.
-Basically, i could totally strip sober bc thats what i was thinking of doing when i was thinking of doing it just for a night. HOWEVER, a mood killer for me which prevents me from being the seductress and fun and flirtatious girl that i can be is if the man is a misogynist or douche to others. because both these things are awkward to "screen for " as a dancer as doing so almost defeats the purpose of being a dancer, I aint about dat lyfe..
Nicole out
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You don't want to be a stripper? No shit. Golly gee, you've only been saying that since the dawn of your tuscl presence. So why are you here? Does this mean you're leaving? Was this your official troll-goodbye post, or are you just coked up and bored?
You've never had to "sell yourself" in a job because all you've done is (supposedly) academics and extracurriculars. How are those internships working out for you? Let us know. Let us know when you've had to wake up at 5am because you had court somewhere that's almost three hours away, had to go to various municipal buildings filing or obtaining legal documents all day (in heels), driven a five hour round trip in the heat on the day your car's A/C decides to stop working because you had to get money from a client who is trying to retain your legal services only to find out when you get there that he doesn't even have the cash and is using PayPal instead (given your Skype knowledge, good luck with that), sat hours taking notes, in depositions, or literally all morning and all day in court waiting for the judge, prosecutor, witnesses (etc) all to show up only for it to get adjourned so you can wake up at the crack of dawn a different day for the same damn thing, stay up all night typing various motions and briefs, spend hours emailing or talking on the phone gathering info from a client who wants to retain your services for a divorce, proceed with all the filings just to find out she doesn't want to get divorced and you just lost a client, etc etc. All while having to look or sound professional and presentable if you are interacting with a human. THAT is selling yourself. People don't buy your product or use your services unless you "sell yourself" to convince them to do so. If I don't trust my car salesman, I'm not buying the car. If I don't trust my attorney, I'm not retaining him/her. If I don't trust my doctor, I am getting a new one. You do have to sell yourself. And if you don't think misogyny exists in whatever career path you choose, then you don't think. You are going to have to deal with misogyny in almost any field you choose, whether you're a damn telemarketer or an OB/GYN or a fucking Women's Studies professor. It still exists, and in the real world (which you seem to be detached from), there's no such thing as a free lunch.
Oh, and all the hypothetical situations I just mentioned have happened to me in the past WEEK, besides a deposition.
You are either a dedicated troll, or the most deluded and naive "23 year old" ever. Are you aware that planet Earth exists?
(B) 'lol' isn't punctuation.
1) refer to OP for this premise to be invalidated-i explained how selling myself at a regular job would be to a far lesser extent than a strip club. i am going straight into grad school ..so although work experience is desired, it isn't necessary nor would it diminish one's competitiveness given my conversations with students who have gone to the best schools as well as my own research. And if you disagree, then idk what to tell you lmao . So the first legitimate job i'd get i plan to get it while in/after grad school which would be very much related to the research i would conduct as a grad student if i get into the top program i want given the opportunities afforded to their students. Consequently, the job would entail work very related to what I want to do, or OBVIOUSLY to a greater extent than stripping would..
hence they are different situations, which i have already hinted. stop comparing them. have a a very nice day
Id like to know what claims/statements of mine have made me appeared that way if you so wish to further elaborate.
And your transition from naïf to nabob is all over the place. Ex: I’m a full time student I don’t have time for this, yet I’ll bet over the last few weeks you have commented constantly over 50 discussions and close to 500 comments, yet you are soooo busy.
Dude . I never said nor implied you called me names, who i responded to specifically had nothing to do with what i said
However, here you go, like the others i mentioned in my previous comment, making claims which have nothing to do with the content of my message. Im sorry that i spend 2 hrs getting to places on campus and back to my place in a bus/by walk. For thr most psry i feel busy..and if you perceive me feeling that way as me trying to assert myself above anyone, i mean im.not.sorry you cant get that and feel as if u know my schedule?
And if that was not what you were trying to say by pointing out how ive been busy, then your comment was irrelevant.
Ive also not responded to a lot of comments bc im busy and bc it takes too much energy to respond to them.sorry i had to remind u abt those.
Lol OK. Good luck getting a high-paying, or even decent-paying job in a competitive, saturated field upon obtaining your grad degree with zero actual work experience in the field.
I'm glad STRIPPING has helped me network and find great attorneys to build a professional relationship with so my résumé looks nice. You can put on your résumé, "I didn't work, but I spent a lot of time researching strip clubs." That'll look great, naive idiot with no skills.
the thing is ...yes grad and law markets are saturated..so your comment would only be applicable if i was talking about going into the market in general as opposed to a very specific kind of market, which you seem to have missed. while these markets are saturated, students from the top 14 or so ranked programs do not face the dismal job market prospects which the majority of students do, and you can check for yourself. the employment rate with a good salary for students coming out of these schools is very high, at least 93 % or so..check the stats if you don't know. also since you are interested in law, you obviously should now that coming from a top 14 is nowhere close to saying "i come from an average law school" .so for these schools, the statistics show you are incorrect. even just making it above the top half at these schools guarantees decent prospects. And it is this market that i am preparing to get into, as opposed to the general job market for this field.
have fun stripping, im happy you are happy with that. i will have fun continuing to prepare myself for a career that will afford me stability , an internationally renowned legal network, as well as a purpose.
....so maybe in a few years after i graduate and hence when we would find out if i have gotten in or rejected into the schools that I want, . will your comment bear any relevance.. good riddance to you
@zoe: girl ive been 3 times which is a decent number for someone who has had this account for two months and just started going... and i plan on going again after my summer course ends in about a week.
What are your networking connections? Do you already know people via your family and thus don’t care?
@Nina: I am very curious how exactly you network with your customers. I like to give customers the impression I’m a drug loving party girl. But I do have future vanilla career aspirations in an industry a lot of customers are already in and wondering if it would be worth it to be more honest about that.
Nicespice - I have a lawyer who worked for my former club's agent who has already offered me a job upon graduating from law school and passion the bar. It helped that my agent put in a good word for me, that I was serious about it and not some cokehead in a fairytale land like Nicole1994 is. He used to come to the club just to meet with the agent and have dinner, we chatted a few times and he ended up offering me an internship and then the job as I stated. I ended up interning with someone else though.
You'll find a lot of clients with money who are in lucrative fields and high positions will provide good networking opportunities, even if it's not a job, something to get your foot in the door of whatever you are going into. This usually requires them to "know you," ie spend time with them at the club and talk about your aspirations and experiences to them in length so that they know you're not bullshitting, ya know? There are some powerful club patrons that do have the ability to help you with your career if there is mutual trust. Especially if they know the manager, agent, (etc) so you can verify their credentials. I am planning on starting real estate soon as a side hustle, so I have sales experience to put on my résumé and in case I end up living somewhere where real property law is lucrative, and I've networked with a couple people who are in the real estate field as well. I'm not saying I'll end up working for them or with them, but it's always good to have an expert to help you through a field you're just getting started in.
“ is the fact that my body would be a commodity to someone whom I would prefer not to have my body sold to”
I suppose I have to thank the many wonderful customers who give me my body back after I keep selling it. I get to enjoy my vacation in the beautiful outdoors instead shoved in the back of some closet.
But seriously though. Dancing is not “giving your body” nor is full service sex work. It is at most giving your time and your emotional labor. The customers (as a whole) are not nearly as misogynistic as you think. I mean no more than the general population.
I think the patriarchy might be subconsciously affecting you more than you think.
That is very interesting. I’ve always felt compelled to bullshit my background when talking with customers. I figure it’s best just to keep them from knowing personal information that could out me down the line. But you have given me a lot to think about.
.sucks an undergrad had to school you..haha.
And lmao I wish I would graduate from the top percentile in a T14 school and only be making 70K (sarcasm). I can make that working two nights a week stripping, and make over 100K stripping 3-4 nights per week. I'll be making a lot more than a little 70K upon graduation. Then again, I will have plenty of legal experience as I am already a paralegal right now while you're just some bum cokehead troll who fantasizes about being a stripper and probably just fantasizes about ever getting admitted to a decent law school, let alone graduating and becoming a lawyer.
-i didnt say that i would get a legal job without experience.that experience i would get when in a top 14, and to get into a top 14 does not require work experience if you have good enough grades, etc and decent (not substantial work expereince/internship experience )which can also be obtained through extra curroxulars per the testimonly of admissions counselors .
Again, go.back to.school and learn how to read, as well as bout law school admissions.
And you're a sophomore in undergrad? Yeah you really know where your life is going. Why don't you get a job, bum. And once you take the LSAT, we can compare scores. Mine will make you choke.
Yes, i stated the 93% stat. however, i never said nor implied that the stat included students without expereince, as i assumed you were at least minimally educated in law school admissions to understand that a statistic refelective of its sample population(law school.students) cannot logically consist of a chracteristic unreflective of that population(zero work experience).
Moreover, the only reason you assumed when i meant that a t14 student could become a lawyer was bc right b4 i provided that 93% stat, i talked.about how i did need not a job in undergrad to get into top14 which i dont per the testimony of admissions officers from.various top schools which you shouldnt need to obtain if you know admossions game well. Although, u can ask the admissions officers this question lol..everything they told me when i asked them for confirmation purposes exactly matched with what i knew and predicted about the admissions game. Anyway, it is not my fault that you conflated undergrad and law school together by assuming that by "no work experience" i meant that i would not get a job in law school instead of what i really meant which was undergrad. If youre serious about a good legal career, i.shouldnt have had to clarify that for you because then you would know that getting into a top law school and getting a law job from a top law school are 2 fundamentally different games, let alone sharing the same requirements.
Also if youre serious about making it u should know that undergrad is better spent prscticing for a top lsat.score than getting a job unless one needs the money, since work experience in undergrad can be substituted for something less demanding to get into a top law school and can be something gained in a top law school before becoming a lawyer once a person actually gets in .
Given the fact that you conflate "me changing what i said " with you putting words in my mouth by assuming what i said rather than me even implying such an assumption , let alone typing it out , if your lsat score makes me choke as much as your stupidity and compromised reading comprenhension , now that would only be to your advantage wouldn't it?:)
^^^Your EXACT words.
@cash nba finals is more interesting.
Like i said, if ur lsat score will make me choke as much as the extent of your reading inabilities & your current preference for making unsubstantiated assumptions , that would not to.be to my detriment, but would rather be to your benefit.
But i do not mind resolving this post in a few days once summer school.is over!
Sorry, it's hard switching back and forth between my person account and Nicole1994's incoherent style. Even while using two phones, I sometimes forget to get into character for the Nicole1994 account.
Nicole1994 - this account is almost certainly a troll, while harmless it can be pretty annoying
MackTruck - although this account is likely a troll they seem to are fairly harmless
ToyChaser - this account posts tend to be extremely sadistic and misogynist and should not always be taken seriously, it is also worth noting that most tuscl members find the stated opinions of this troll highly offensive