Dancers who say they're OTC but never meet
OraCLE1
Ohio
I had to dancers from two different clubs say they were OTC but failed to show up. Both instances, numbets/texts were exchange at the club. Further text exchange after the club but the day of the actual meet...both were no-shows and no more text replies!!!!!??????
Can anyone explain this????
I'm legit and not trying to waste anyone's time.
One of the dancers actually initiated the OTC meet but fail to show or reply back.
Can anyone explain this????
I'm legit and not trying to waste anyone's time.
One of the dancers actually initiated the OTC meet but fail to show or reply back.
29 comments
Maybe they don't really do OTC. Maybe they were thinking about it. Maybe they just figured that saying all that would get them more ITC money.
For myself, I never talk to women like they are anything other than civilians. So there never could have been the sorts of communications which you are describing.
Before talk about any outside meeting would have occurred we would have known each other very well. Money would never have been talked about if she introduced the idea.
SJG
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Personally, I’d give them each one more shot and then move on.
Often times it takes being a regular and establishing a "relationship" for them to follow-thru but even then don't hold your breath - but if it was a first-time meet at the club, even less-likely.
The exception would be if ITC we had been able to have a front room makeout session and then backroom FS. In that case, okay to move faster going to OTC.
SJG
And suddenly she went quiet for days. By the time she contacted me I was long gone from the area. Since then I have received a text or two from her but I've been cordial but that has been it.
One of my pet peeves is when someone waste my time. I don't hold any ill will and we are all adults and understand the risk and I was lucky in the sense that I was to meet her at a place that was not out of my way and I was able to meet up with some friends that night and had a good time without her but she not only could have been straight with me but she should have been straight.
Don't take it personal.
""I'm so sorry, I missed our appointment because I got cold feet, and was afraid to text and disappoint you", you'd probably understand "--subraman
The seasoned PLs would, but the newbie not so much. Some guys, esp the true PLs are prone to throwing just as much a bitchy fit for w/e reason as the stripper he's trying to meet. In her eyes, how can she tell the difference?? And instead of starting more drama, she avoids it completely. (and what stripper has ever written something that nice btw :) the best I've ever gotten was "can't make it, sorry")
Now it she's known you for a bit and you've made it clear to her what you expect, it becomes a different story.
My first ever sex OTC was her being a no show 4 previous times. Three were her just not following through as seems what happened with you. The one where I couldn't just understand was we were in my truck getting close, but her stripper friends were in the IHOP. So she was trying to find a way not to seem like a whore and tell her friends I'd take her home. Well, she goes back in the restaurant and after a patient wait, unreturned texts, she's been gone for who knows how long. Well, of course I'm upset, but guess what, some days thereafter, I send her a text near closing time and she wants to OTC. I pick her up from the club and finally we get some OTC action in.
In regards to other OTCs I've had, he'll the second, fourth, sixth time could be a no show, but the first went off without any issues. Hang in there until you can't deal with there bullshit, or it becomes clear she's just stringing you along.
I saw her 2 months later at the club and she asked "Are you still pissed at me?" I said "what do you think after the shit you pulled on me?" Her reply was "I had issues". She doesn't even bother to ask me for dances anymore.
My current ATATF sometimes disappears for a couple of days, but it's a several day long hissy fit where she doesn't leave the house and doesn't want to talk or text with anyone ... assuming fits of depression
Strippers can be flaky. Otc strippers can be flakier.
It used to get me all messed up, wondering how they thought this was an adequate way to function. Now I don't give a shit. I just assume no reply and move on to another, maybe try again next week, depending how much (or little) I wanna see them again.
The no reply or flake can be for any number of reasons, or no reason. It's not worthwhile to even speculate.
If you still wanna try again, give it a few days or week, then try again. Or just pass, it's up to you.
Advice: Assume no reply, and try not to get worked up at all when they act like flaking is normal or whatever, you'll drive yourself insane if you care in the slightest about getting common courtesy from these girls.
Granted, strippers are a different breed, but the last time I checked they are still part of the human race and common sense and courtesy is something I expect. Like I mentioned I don't get upset about it ( makes no sense to whine or act like a jerk) but it takes all of 1 minute to send a text or call.