I’m curious as to whether most here enjoy the seek and chase element in finding a stripper that fulfills your reason for clubbing or whether you would rather go with the sure thing when available. In other words, assuming you end up with pretty much the same result, is a big part of the enjoyment finding and pursuing that stripper or is it not worth the time and effort to you don’t need to go that route? This question is for anyone based on what you want from clubbing.
The chase is exhilarating and fun up and through OTC sex, but then I prefer the OTC experience as long as its exciting over finding a new OTC....I start all over when its necessary due to relationship change or location.
When I visited London the first time I refused to get a tourist map. I wanted to explore and discover things on my own, not be told where to go for this or that.
I think I take the same approach to Strip clubbing (honestly to my detriment)
I do a little of both, depending on what mood I"m in. I will sometimes go to a particular club at a certain time because I know a certain girl will be working then. I might even text her and arrange a time to see her. But then there is the excitement of going into a club and finding a new piece of ass. I remember Charlie Sheen saying it in Two and a Half Men. " Nothing beats a new piece of Strange. "
I prefer the girl I know over the one I don't. It's nice to find someone new every now and then, but once I find one I like and know I'll get what I want,I tend to stick to them.
My money is precious and I don't want to waste it on the unknown.
I don’t see it as being much of a chase, I mean really you have money, they want money. I don’t ever remember it being very hard to walk up to a salesperson and get them to sell it to you.
^ What 25 said. There's more of a challenge in avoiding girls you don't want than there is in finding the ones you do want...and really, the former is settled with a respectful but affirmative decline.
I also agree with rh48hr: I'm not really interested in too much experimenting, especially if dances are $20-25 a pop.
25-->"I don’t see it as being much of a chase, I mean really you have money, they want money. I don’t ever remember it being very hard to walk up to a salesperson and get them to sell it to you."
25, I have to admit I still have trouble seeing this comparison as anything but vaguely comparable. I pretty much know what most sales people are selling. When I get to a club, if I don't already have an appointment with my CF, I don't know:
- Who is going to be there
- Whether I'll be attracted to any of them
- Whether I'll like the personality of any that I'm attracted to
- What kind of services the ones who I am attracted to and like, will offer
- What price they will accept for those services
- Whether I'll be able to agree to OTC
I realize that there's a by-rote "there's no chase, otherwise you're being over-romantic" reaction to this topic here, since we all want to appear too cool for school. But unless you guys somehow know all the things above in advance, I don't see how there can be an argument over whether it's a chase. Or maybe it's the word "chase" that's objectionable? If "chase" is triggering everyone, call it "investigation" or whatever.
There will certainly be more variation in non-extras clubs (where I've gotten everything from barely-any-contact lap dances to extras) than there will be in open extras club/brothels (where you won't have to guess what most girls will offer), so maybe it's the extras clubs guys who think there's no detective work going on?
max_starr-->"The [time spent finding the right girl] is exhilarating and fun up and through OTC sex, but then I prefer the OTC experience as long as its exciting over finding a new OTC"
I'm not about the chase - at this point in life I'm not interested in having a GF nor even dating IRL - thus what I like about SCing is the "ease of use"; basically just add water ($$$) and I generally get what I want.
I am not interested in the "jumping thru hoops" often associated with civilians; since I'm not interested in chasing civilians I'm also not interested in "chasing" dancers - i.e. I rather put in the least amount of effort; just sit back and let them come to me and provide what I need/want.
Not wanting a GF IRL means I don't go into the club looking for one either nor anything similar - I don't need to make a connection nor have a dancer talk to me for an entire visit and hanging on to my every word.
I also like variety - a "good visit" for me is there being 5 or more dancers that are "my type" vs finding that one girl to make my visit - "my type" being built the way I like (voluptuous) and providing good 2-way contact.
The most "chasing" I'll do is maybe tap her on the arm or hip as she walks by me to let her know my interest; and even-then 3/4 of the time I don't even wanna bother w/ doing that and I'm fine keeping my $$$ if a particular dancer(s) does not approach me - I have the flexibility to SC pretty-much any day I want; and have done so much SCing that these days there's rarely a dancer that I just have to have and "chase".
I can def see the merits of the one dancer/fave model; but I just get bored w/ that by the 2nd-visit - perhaps on a particular visit I could stick mostly w/ just one dancer, but by next visit I wanna try something new - i rather each every SC visit be a new-adventure/fresh-start, rather than the continuation of the previous visit (by being w/ the same chick and doing the same thing).
@Subraman Sorry I just don’t see it as a chase, or a hunt, I approach it from my own perspective, I know pretty much what’s available in the clubs I go to, and maybe I have been clubbing for too long, maybe I tend to overspend at times, but generally it’s just like ice cream, just depends on what flavor I’m in the mood for. Basically I’m my own breed of cat, I prefer OTC and if I want some cherry vanilla I’ll go to one club or if I want chocolate I’ll go to a different one. I have a few different favs, and generally I know what I’m getting before I get there. You aren’t really chasing any, yourself, you’ve written often about making appointments, so where is there a big chase involved, you aren’t hitting these clubs cold, and you like me are intelligent enough to have a backup plan if and when circumstances warrant.
Agree that with your M.O., Papi, there's little chasing, or investigating, or whatever else anyone wants to call it, going on. Same with variety guys for whom "will you take $x for y" is all that's going on
And as you can see Papi has his own perspective, he isn’t interested any more than I am in the chase, he can afford what he wants and gets pretty much what he wants. Sorry chasing is for civvie girls strippers are available to any loser with a few bucks in their pocket, don’t make it more than it is.
Like I said, I think "chase" has become a bit emotionally loaded here ... but, at least for me, it's not remotely more than what it is to say that there's no guarantee that I'll find a girl I like, who offers the services I want, at a price I'll pay... and on top of that, I'm guessing if a girl won't do what Papi asks for, he simply finds a new one, whereas I've always enjoyed working on them a bit and getting them to open up -- something that pretty much happens in most ATF type relationships, where it seems uncontroversial that at least at the beginning, services open up to you as you go along. I'm okay if "chase" is a trigger-word here -- but I enjoy this aspect of things.
It's not different with SA, where I never quite know what she'll look like when she shows up, how fast she'll want ot have sex, how much money she'll take for it ... if I didn't enjoy this part of it, I'd just stick with escorts, where it's a sure thing every time. I don't think it's making it more than it is to say the experience is significantly different -- I am NOT saying there's "game" involved, I am saying the lack of certainty is one of the things I enjoy about it
Perhaps coarsely speaking, the more specific type interaction one wants from their SCing, the more-effort they may have to put-in to sift through the chaff.
I go to the SC basically for some T&A - some guys from San Francisco SC as if they were looking for an S.O. :) - we all want/need/look-for different things and depending on what one is looking for it may require more effort/"chasing"
I think that some guys forget that not every place is like South Florida or Detroit or one of the other more open venues. Some of us club in places where p4p opportunities with any particular girl are far from certain. I'm pretty well wired in the clubs I frequent now, but when I try a new local club, or travel to a more buttoned down area, I know that finding OTC with a hot ass girl can get much more challenging. Hence the chase stories, which are as valid today as they were a decade ago.
If you're such a magnet to the opposite sex, why do you bother with strip clubs? Why not go to your local college campus, bars, or pick up on that cute barista? Unpaid. Seems to me you're a goofy guy with a prostitution habit bragging about paying for sex.
-->"I go to the SC basically for some T&A - some guys from San Francisco SC as if they were looking for an S.O. :) - we all want/need/look-for different things and depending on what one is looking for it may require more effort/"chasing"
WTF? Did Papi just hit me with a zinger??? lol ... agree completely with this statement though -- you and I are looking for entirely different experiences, and I agree that for you, there's little mystery involved ("will you take $75 and a redbull for a BBBJ? No? Okay bye!")... what I"m trying to figure out is why there's total disagreement with guys who ARE looking for similar experiences to me, and with whom I normally agree on most things. And, again, I think at least part of it is that the term "chase" is a trigger here; and I wonder if I say, "I enjoy the uncertainty of what I can get from a stripper, and whether I can talk her into something that she previously refused to offer -- and that actually is a small part of the reasons I enjoy SC over escorts, where there's far less uncertainty". It is, in fact, exactly why I'm on SA instead of pursuing escorts, too. No need to use the word "chase", suggest it's all about game, etc.
I loooooove the chase. It's primarily why I prefer SC's & AMP's over sure things like escorts.
But escorts have their place in my heart (and other places) too.
Once you find a dancer you like and get her attention, it's less of a chase and more of a negotiation (along with recognizing SS before you get taken).
I guess if you're dealing with a new stripper and trying to expand her offerings then that's more of a chase, but it's still really a negotiation. Just more difficult.
I get the impression that a lot of guys on here consider themselves to be 'big game hunters' who are 'on the chase', when what we're really doing is shooting ducks in a barrel (myself included).
When I find a dancer who provides the service I want - it’s great to do away with the pretense of the chase. I can then spend money to get what I want.
If I’m clubbing and I don’t see one of my faves at the club - then it is a bit of a chase. It’s not much of a fox hunt - as I choose clubs because of the prevalence of extras.
So - the chase might be a bit more expensive - but it’s not too bad.
It’s not the excitement of the chase as much as the excitement of a new hottie getting naked for me - and showing me her techniques. There’s something very arousing about it - like unwrapping a present on Christmas!
I agree that chase is a loaded term here and not really applicable (outside of dating). In the chase or when you chase you are trying to figure out what the other party is thinking.
Also seek and chase are two different things. I wasn’t sure if some were confusing the two. Once you stop her across the room, you’re not seeking anymore, you’re chasing, even if you decide not to approach her right then.
Hell no. As matter of fact nowadays i would avoid any stripper that requires "chasing". As those are likely to be the gps strippers. I will ask once if she wants to take my money and if not oh well. They are interchangeable and replaceable. I agree though there is no real "chasing" strippers except maybe the 9s. They are mostly available to anyone willing to pay them.
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I think I take the same approach to Strip clubbing (honestly to my detriment)
My money is precious and I don't want to waste it on the unknown.
I also agree with rh48hr: I'm not really interested in too much experimenting, especially if dances are $20-25 a pop.
25, I have to admit I still have trouble seeing this comparison as anything but vaguely comparable. I pretty much know what most sales people are selling. When I get to a club, if I don't already have an appointment with my CF, I don't know:
- Who is going to be there
- Whether I'll be attracted to any of them
- Whether I'll like the personality of any that I'm attracted to
- What kind of services the ones who I am attracted to and like, will offer
- What price they will accept for those services
- Whether I'll be able to agree to OTC
I realize that there's a by-rote "there's no chase, otherwise you're being over-romantic" reaction to this topic here, since we all want to appear too cool for school. But unless you guys somehow know all the things above in advance, I don't see how there can be an argument over whether it's a chase. Or maybe it's the word "chase" that's objectionable? If "chase" is triggering everyone, call it "investigation" or whatever.
There will certainly be more variation in non-extras clubs (where I've gotten everything from barely-any-contact lap dances to extras) than there will be in open extras club/brothels (where you won't have to guess what most girls will offer), so maybe it's the extras clubs guys who think there's no detective work going on?
max_starr-->"The [time spent finding the right girl] is exhilarating and fun up and through OTC sex, but then I prefer the OTC experience as long as its exciting over finding a new OTC"
Agree
I am not interested in the "jumping thru hoops" often associated with civilians; since I'm not interested in chasing civilians I'm also not interested in "chasing" dancers - i.e. I rather put in the least amount of effort; just sit back and let them come to me and provide what I need/want.
Not wanting a GF IRL means I don't go into the club looking for one either nor anything similar - I don't need to make a connection nor have a dancer talk to me for an entire visit and hanging on to my every word.
I also like variety - a "good visit" for me is there being 5 or more dancers that are "my type" vs finding that one girl to make my visit - "my type" being built the way I like (voluptuous) and providing good 2-way contact.
The most "chasing" I'll do is maybe tap her on the arm or hip as she walks by me to let her know my interest; and even-then 3/4 of the time I don't even wanna bother w/ doing that and I'm fine keeping my $$$ if a particular dancer(s) does not approach me - I have the flexibility to SC pretty-much any day I want; and have done so much SCing that these days there's rarely a dancer that I just have to have and "chase".
I can def see the merits of the one dancer/fave model; but I just get bored w/ that by the 2nd-visit - perhaps on a particular visit I could stick mostly w/ just one dancer, but by next visit I wanna try something new - i rather each every SC visit be a new-adventure/fresh-start, rather than the continuation of the previous visit (by being w/ the same chick and doing the same thing).
It's not different with SA, where I never quite know what she'll look like when she shows up, how fast she'll want ot have sex, how much money she'll take for it ... if I didn't enjoy this part of it, I'd just stick with escorts, where it's a sure thing every time. I don't think it's making it more than it is to say the experience is significantly different -- I am NOT saying there's "game" involved, I am saying the lack of certainty is one of the things I enjoy about it
I go to the SC basically for some T&A - some guys from San Francisco SC as if they were looking for an S.O. :) - we all want/need/look-for different things and depending on what one is looking for it may require more effort/"chasing"
If you're such a magnet to the opposite sex, why do you bother with strip clubs? Why not go to your local college campus, bars, or pick up on that cute barista? Unpaid. Seems to me you're a goofy guy with a prostitution habit bragging about paying for sex.
LOL!
WTF? Did Papi just hit me with a zinger??? lol ... agree completely with this statement though -- you and I are looking for entirely different experiences, and I agree that for you, there's little mystery involved ("will you take $75 and a redbull for a BBBJ? No? Okay bye!")... what I"m trying to figure out is why there's total disagreement with guys who ARE looking for similar experiences to me, and with whom I normally agree on most things. And, again, I think at least part of it is that the term "chase" is a trigger here; and I wonder if I say, "I enjoy the uncertainty of what I can get from a stripper, and whether I can talk her into something that she previously refused to offer -- and that actually is a small part of the reasons I enjoy SC over escorts, where there's far less uncertainty". It is, in fact, exactly why I'm on SA instead of pursuing escorts, too. No need to use the word "chase", suggest it's all about game, etc.
What are you talking about - I wouldn't offer her a redbull on top of the $75
But escorts have their place in my heart (and other places) too.
I guess if you're dealing with a new stripper and trying to expand her offerings then that's more of a chase, but it's still really a negotiation. Just more difficult.
I get the impression that a lot of guys on here consider themselves to be 'big game hunters' who are 'on the chase', when what we're really doing is shooting ducks in a barrel (myself included).
If I’m clubbing and I don’t see one of my faves at the club - then it is a bit of a chase. It’s not much of a fox hunt - as I choose clubs because of the prevalence of extras.
So - the chase might be a bit more expensive - but it’s not too bad.
It’s not the excitement of the chase as much as the excitement of a new hottie getting naked for me - and showing me her techniques. There’s something very arousing about it - like unwrapping a present on Christmas!
Also seek and chase are two different things. I wasn’t sure if some were confusing the two. Once you stop her across the room, you’re not seeking anymore, you’re chasing, even if you decide not to approach her right then.