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It seems that there have been almost as many threads about Sugar Arrangements as Strip Clubbing lately. I don't know much about that hobby.
There was a recent complaint be a SB that she was treated like a hooker.
Many PLs talk of strippers as hookers, but I've always thought Sugar Babies were more similar to the stereotypical hooker.
Am I understanding this wrong?
There was a recent complaint be a SB that she was treated like a hooker.
Many PLs talk of strippers as hookers, but I've always thought Sugar Babies were more similar to the stereotypical hooker.
Am I understanding this wrong?
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I’m guessing that SB’s find it insulting because they might think of themselves as not being sex workers. Strippers work in clubs - and they are actual sex workers. SB’s like to think they are above it (even though they aren’t).
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Two years ago you would get flamed mercilessly for bringing the subject up here. Now it's become mainstream.
If you're paying for sex, it's sex work (escort, SB, stripper). Who cares?
Are you referring to how SBs rationalize it, or are you saying that is why it isn't sex for pay for real.
Am I understanding this wrong?"
You're missing a really key point, how each of those groups think of themselves. Escorts and strippers all know they're in the sex industry. And, of course, the escorts who are on SA, realize that SA is an extension of their business. But there's a huge number of women on SA who are in a grayer area -- deep down, they may realize they're part of the sex industry, but they would NOT be part of the sex industry if not for SA. Or, in other words, just like it may be the case that for some SC customers, psychologically they're more comfortable with OTC than with escorts, because it allows them to pretend they're not having sex with a prostitute. I"m making believe there's two distinct separate groups, but in reality, there's this sliding scale between "approach her like a low-end BP whore" and "approach her like a fancy sugarbaby".
Going a step further, the high volume escorts on SA are perfectly fine with a first contact message of, "$350 for everything? Free at 7pm tonight?", and then welcome straightforward talk on what might be expected and exchanged. Whereas to that second group -- the large population of women on SA who need to have a more arrangement-ish interaction -- that is "treating them like a hooker". Hell, even lower-volume escorts on SA won't tolerate the "$350 for everything, 3:00 this afternoon" approach.
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...yet it doesn't stop you from blathering on about the subject.
I guess, maybe. I'm explaining how I perceived it and am simply asking if I'm misunderstanding.
Maybe you can provide a way for me to get fellow PL opinions about my questions without asking the questions.
Think of it like an arrangement between consenting adults. She’ll be there when it’s conv for you but you can’t always be counted on to help her. Example maybe she gets a flat tire in the middle of the night what are you going to do to help her, and that’s a valid point.
Many go for volume but some are OTC monogamous.
I mean really she’s prolly young and pretty right now doesn’t mean she will remain that way, and when you’ve tired of her where does she go ?
That might be true of the other married guys, but I've been told I'm a "Hottie".
Escort - have sex multiple times before she's willing to go on a date with you
Stripper - one or the other or neither (will only see you ITC and won't have sex or go on dates no matter how much you spend)
While Seeking Arrangements was created to facilitate traditional sugar relationships (and has recently been cracking down on enforcement of policies related to that, including a big increase in the fee for Premium membership which allows you to message with the girls), there are all types of Arrangements to be found there.
The traditional SB wanna be's are pissed that they have to deal with the guys searching for the "350 for everything? Free at 7pm" girls reducing time to find next "true SD" who is going to give them a $5k monthly allowance for 1 or 2 visits per week. (Whales vs. bargain shoppers in SC parlance)
ALL the SD wanna be's are pissed at all the fake SB profiles trying to rip you off, or the "platonic only" SBs who have been hooked by SA's advertising that suggests they can make thousands per month, no sex involved. (ROBs and air dances in SC parlance.)