Okay... the big Valentines Day is coming soon, and for us PL's, that's typically a day to buy something for our faves and/or ATFs. That brings up several questions...
What to buy?
Flowers? I don't want to send flowers because it seems like a waste; they just die anyhow, right? Plus, EVERYbody does flowers, right?
Balloons? I've done balloons for birthday (and cookie, too), so I don't want to repeat that.
Candy? well, seems like an un-original idea.
Teddy-Gram (from Vermont Teddy Bear)... that seems like a decent idea, and I'm kind'a leaning towards it, but she DOES have an SO, so what would she possibly do with a teddy bear? She COULD give it to her small daughter, I guess, but then I'd have to be careful not to send a bear that obviously was from a guy (ie Loverboy Bear, or Gangsta of Love Bear), right?
Another question. Have any of you other PLs out there ever sent something to a club for one of your faves / ATFs? If I sent a bear or flowers or whatever, doesn't it seem like 20 other PLs are going to be sending something to the same club? If so, then I think it underlines, bold faces, and italicizes my name as being a true PL, amongst the other PLs.
What's a PL to do?
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The only thing I've ever given my ATF at a club is a card and maybe a little extra in her tip. If she wants a gift she has to go with me and pick it out.
I haven't given her anything yet for either Christmas or her birthday. We'll go shopping when next I visit, which will be pretty soon. I discovered long ago that she'd rather pick out what she wants. And fortunately she doesn't have expensive tastes.
I've never done anything for Valentine's Day for a favorite dancer. For an SO, I usually send flowers and chocolates and maybe take her to an expensive restaurant. It's a tradition because it's what many women like. And flowers are cherished because they die. Originality isn't the point of rituals like this IMO.
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