Multiple favs at the same club at the same time
larryfisherman
California
I might be in the minority, but when I go to the club, I just like hanging with one girl for the whole time I'm there. It complicates things when I have a few favs there at the same time. Of course they're gonna all want dances, and it makes them jealous when they see me spend money and buy dances from other girls. They know most of the time I like to spend money, so they generally don't leave my side. When a fav who is sitting me has to go on stage, another of my favs swoops in five seconds later and sits with me. When the other girl gets off the stage she gives the girl sitting with me a dirty look. What a mess.
You guys ever face this dilemma?
Do you like multiple favs there at the same time or do you like just chilling with one of your favs there for the whole time you're there?
You guys ever face this dilemma?
Do you like multiple favs there at the same time or do you like just chilling with one of your favs there for the whole time you're there?
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Obviously enough, I'm a "hang out with exactly one fave for my entire trip" guy, as documented in excruciating detail over the last couple of years :) My solution to multiple faves is the same as my solution to most "problems" when it comes to stripper politics, which is: rock-solid confidence and transparency.
By which I mean, this scene has played out for me countless times:
Wednesday: Text CF #1, set up appointment with her for my trip Friday.
Friday: CF #2 approaches, I greet her warmly, tell her "I have an appointment with CF #1 today, but hope to see you next time!" CF #2: "Okay, have fun! You have to see me next time!"
That's it. I think problems occur when the guys act like little bitches, sneaking around because they're scared, and the girls get confused about what's going on, worried that they've lost a regular, furious that they think another girl stole you away. If you're transparent and matter-of-fact, all the jealousy and bad feelings melt away. Obviously, there's always exceptions: some strippers are batshit crazy and there's no way to win no matter what you do, which is a good trigger to give them their walking papers. But I've had a fairly drama free SC life for quite a while using this approach, even though some of my CFs have been known as "jealous" girls
If I wanna see X today and Y comes up I say "I came to see X today." Haven't had a problem yet.
Don't let girls sit w you while the girl you are talking to is onstage. They might stop by to say hi, but tell them you'll catch up w them later and then get up and tip the girl who has been sitting w you. Girls know better ab stuff like this, but play dumb to customers. If you are sitting w an extablished alpha girl, you will notice that girls behave differently than if she is a young new girl.
Some girls really don't know how to share bc they are insecure brats. I tend to avoid the customers of girls like this unless they really make it worth the trouble. It's your money, so spend it on the girls who give you the experience you want.
@vikings- I think the difference that these other girls are also my favs, I've spent lots of money on them and gotten plenty of dances from them in the past. I'm pretty sure they're not gonna ask me what kind of girls and then bring them over to me lol.
As a general rule I don't think the girls get jealous, but as bj99 said, they'll "manipulate you with jealousy", particularly if they think you're susceptible, or sometimes if they're just irritated
Jealous? No
Resentful? Sometimes
On very rare occasion, a dancer cops an attitude. If so, I cross her off my list. On one occasion, it got bad enough that I had to stop going to that club for a few months just to avoid another confrontation with her. I had stumbled onto a psycho stripper. It's just part of the hobby.
I find it nice to have a CF and a few stanbys. I need someone ready to step up when CF either gets complacent or quits the biz or moves or just doesn't show up.
As mentioned above, you just have to be honest and let them know where they fall in the pecking order. They never start at the CF level so as long as their expectations are managed there USUALLY isn't a problem.
I am also clear with CF that whIle spending time with her is important to me I also have others that I enjoy
the company of and that I also like me a little strange.
My typical visit to my regular club is about:
1/2 with CF followed by
1/2 with other members of the flock, just lounging/scoping, and giving tryouts to prospects.
I am the absolute opposite of a "monogamous" clubber, and probably have 10-15 regulars at my main club at any given time. With one exception about 15 years ago, never had a jealous dancer or a cross word spoken to me about "why am I dancing with so-and-so" and not her. The only problem I have is when I have too many "closers" on a shift and one stops my table early in the visit, takes me to VIP and KMSO, then I have to decide if I want to stay and do a double pop, or roll out and miss a few dancers I would have liked to have lapped.
When I am faced with the too many dancers dilemma, I'll make a snap decision on which one(s) I take to VIP, and which one(s) I'll simply do multiple laps tableside. It's your money. Have the onions to tell a dancer your also here to see "x" dancer. She'll understand, and if she doesn't, time to move on.
CP
Many expert womanizers are business travelers, hotels paid for by untaxed funds, and able to control it by keeping the women separate, and always having the circuit breaker available of leaving town a bit early to diffuse problems.
SJG
SJG
There's some girls I won't even bother asking because I know the answer, and most girls who I've been around enough to consider favorites know my MO, so they won't come by and try to stake a claim. They'll come over and say hello, maybe something like "we have to hang out next time" or "I can't wait to spend time with you when you're free" or whatever. Occasionally they'll ask if I'm free or whatever.
Its never been an issue, I suspect because like Subra said, I'm up front about it and take control of the situation rather than relying on them to.
:)
KMSO = Knock My Shit Out. Z-bone euphemism for a happy ending. As opposed to KMSI, which is Keep My Shit In, which is when you're trying to swim against the tide of a very hands-on and goal oriented dancer.
CP
There can only be one boss, you or her/the-strippers - you are the one w/ the dough so you should be the boss and set the rules of engagement.
I currently have 2 CF's and its a possibility that they both may be at the SC next week when I go.
I told CF #2 that Ill contact her early next week to see what days shes working but if CF#1 shows up too then I may be fucked, especially if its a slow night Lol
Then again they both probably don't t give a damn.
I always thought Nina was the dancer who thinks she's just too pretty, smart, and confident. But supposedly she makes more $$$ than anyone.
Without question, while it might not be romantic jealousy, there are various real feelings involved, which on myriad occasions I've seen lead to a stripper kerfuffle and even fisticuffs. These feelings span everything from just general anger that her Wallet Support Unit has gone, to humiliation that the other girl "won", to fury that the other girl "stole" her Wallet Support Unit.
Stories! Stories are always fun. My CF would stay with me for many hours at a time... well past my usual 3-4 hour trips, sometimes. A few times per shift she'd go hunting for other customers, and I'd do lapdances with some of the other girls. One day I did a dance with CF's stripper arch-nemesis, April. CF comes back to me and says, "I don't care if you get dances with other girls, or if you get dances with April when I'm not here. But would you mind not getting dancers with her when I'm here? After she gets a dance from you, she always comes in the back and smiles at me. She got my regular to get a dance with her, so that means she won."
Another story: really hot stripper at the club, but even during her hustle you can tell she's horrible. Completely mechanical, uninterested feel, she'd totally drop the act and make it clear she hates you when you turn her down, etc. Total Beyoch. One day my new CF tells me that that particular girl, Ms Beyoch, *hates* her because one of Ms Beyoch's good regulars got one look at CF and switched over. Funny thing happens: once Ms Beyoch notices I"m CF's regular, she's a completely different person: all smiles, warm, flirty. Every time CF wanders away, Beyoch is turning on the sexy afterburners. It's crystal clear what's happening: CF "Stole" Beyoch's regular, so right now CF is "winning"; Beyoch can even the score with me. All of this has nothing to do with me, of course, I'm the hapless idiot the girls are using to do mean girl things to each other
IDK, by a little bit of competition might be a good thing if it gets you higher mileage.
And Dougster avoids all such problems by staying in his appartment and watching the Bloomberg financial program. To him women are at best just cum receptacles.
SJG
Lol!
Hard to deal with it, they are making you put up or shut up.
SJG
Lopaw +5
The stuff I was talking about was when I was married and could not move on girls and make it happen, like in my own bed. So I was a PL flirting with them in their workplaces, strip clubs and Viet Coffee.
Now, it is different.
Larry should not be spending lots of time courting girls in strip clubs, nor should he be talking to them like they do sex for money. Civilian and respectful approach, and he may very well find himself waking up the next morning with the girl.
SJG
I learned this in my very first strip club visits, decades ago.
I treat women like civilians, and in all situations. But this can mean that girls really go for me.
When I was married, I could not deliver. So I had to cool it. I could not express myself freely with girls, strip club dancers or otherwise.
So, if you want to get along with a strip club girl, you have to relate to her as any other girl. But if you do this, then it will be easy to hurt her feelings.
So best is just to asap get her out of the club and into your own bed. Then fter that stay away from her club.
SJG
Pursuits on camera! Great for TV!!
SJG