There are a lot of places where dancers set out to make it happen. "It" is a customer finishing in their pants without any skin to skin contact. If you don't want to, better tell them before it's too late.
There are some hang ups on this board about people wanting to come across as iron men who are too good to let nature take its course as a hot chick grabs you through the pants, sucks you through the pants, or puts you in exactly the right spot to get things moving. Hell, you get the right (wrong?) chick and the right pair of pants and shit you didn't think was possible happens during a lapdance. Some of you call that extras, some of us call that a grown ass lapdance in clubs that don't suck.
That's not even accounting for a smoking hot dancer who knows how to put on a show that gets into your head and hits you right in the fantasy. I'm personally done with the fantasy angle, but remember when it was fun. If that's not your thing, good for you. Unless your cock doesn't work quite right (no judging there), there's plenty of dancers I can think of who could get you done a lot faster than you think. On top of that, you'd be happy about it. Clearly this topic never gets old because it gets discussed all. the. time. but it's really just a matter of the location, the dancers, the timing, and what the customer is interested in.
Some of you should ask yourselves how much easier it would be to deal with strippers and strip clubs if you didn't worry about what people thought about you. Just you walking in the door has you on the wrong side of perception. As for forums like these, you can absolutely disregard what a bunch of Internet people say.