Different approach

35 comments

• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  Wearing a suit does help. But not good for back room mileage. Sometimes you do have to ask girls to come sit with you. If you sit at their stage and tip, it helps a lot. SJG
• Papi_Chulo

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  8 years ago

  Try ut and see - but I think a suit may be overkill for a young guy and you may not be able to pull off the look - if it doesn't work you can try business casual (nice slacks w/ nice buttoned down shirt)
• georgmicrodong

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  8 years ago

  If you're going to clubs where you've spent money, they already know you spend money. You could wear a raggedy t-shirt, torn jeans and sneakers, and they'd still come up to you expecting you to spend money. If you're you're going to new clubs, a suit might help, but it might also backfire. Many of the girls around here assume a guy is one of two things. One, a guy on his way home from work who won't spend much, and two, a poser who wants them to think he has money. :)
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  Girl's respond positively to guys in suits. Lots of guys in strip clubs don't really have a job. They like guys when they know they have a job. They aren't just motivated by ITC proceeds. They are still just like other girls. SJG
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  But know, one should not dress in a manner which they don't feel comfortable. Some people need to wear suits for their work. SJG
• larryfisherman

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  8 years ago

  @SJG- If I ask a girl to come sit with me, that doesn't mean 100% I'm gonna do dances with her, I want to feel her out a little bit first. If I ask her, and she comes, and then I decline her dance offer, I'll feel like I wasted her time. If she comes and sits down with me on her own doing, then that's a little different, if you get what I mean. Papi-yeah in the back of my mind I'm thinking the suit might be overkill for a young guy.
• larryfisherman

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  8 years ago

  @GMD- good points
• JimGassagain

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  8 years ago

  Have you tried the approach to show them how much you've saved into your bank accounts, retirement accounts, and Home mortgage. Of course not, that would intimidate them too much as a responsible human being; the last thing they are looking for. Bizarro world these girls live in, so I assume you are trying to fulfill their fantasy as much as getting them to full fill yours?
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  " If I ask a girl to come sit with me, that doesn't mean 100% I'm gonna do dances with her, I want to feel her out a little bit first. If I ask her, and she comes, and then I decline her dance offer, I'll feel like I wasted her time." Understood. Some make it a practice of giving her $20 in such cases of declining to go further. In Sunnyvale Brass Rail the custom is to buy her a drink. Most guys give out some cash too. But some also set up OTC. Best is in a club where you can turn on some charm and get the girl sitting on your lap and continue to get to know her verbally and physically. ANd in the most extreme of clubs, the girls do it this way, and they don't give you much chance to refuse. :) If you look the girls over carefully and watch how they interact with other people, and sit at their stage and tip, you should be able to decide who you want to put time and money into, and likely take home with you. SJG
• larryfisherman

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  8 years ago

  Does "The System" actually work?? :)
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  YES, it does. The idea is to not have to use online escort ads. Always better to talk with the girl and build rapport. A suit does get you special OTC oriented attention. THe suit is the guy the girls go for first. But, the down side of the system is that you are not partaking of ITC mileage, and not getting any front room GFE. SJG
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  Front room GFE is what Justme62 employed here. Where ever possible you want that. [view link] SJG
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  Front room GFE is how you make the back room sublime. Softens the girl up. SJG
• skibum609

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  8 years ago

  Wearing a suit makes more dancers come over to you. Every once in a great while I go directly to a club in my business clothes, which is a suit and tie. A lot of t he dancers don't even recognize me. More come over. More are friendly. More believe you have money. The funniest thing? I spend little when wearing a suit because a woman grinding on a hard dick in a fine merino wool suit puts a wear spot in the suit in 3 dances.
• sclvr5005

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  8 years ago

  Mostfof the seasoned dancers know that a guy in a suitsis usually a waste of time. But you might attract the attention of the newbie dancers.
• larryfisherman

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  8 years ago

  @skibum- if I was getting dances, I would take the suit off during the dances.
• shailynn

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  8 years ago

  Extremely painful reading a conversation between larry and SJG. I'm not wearing my fucking Hickey Freemans to a club to get stripper glitter all over them. I'm also confident enough in myself and my wallet to not need a fucking suit to get the attention of a stripper.
• flagooner

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  8 years ago

  You would probably be better off borrowing a letterman's jacket unless you are trying to pull off an Alex Keaton look.
• JohnSmith69

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  8 years ago

  I have been to strip clubs thousands of times, I've had almost unimaginable levels of fun on many of those visits, and I have never once found it necessary or even appropriate to wear a suit. Most of the time I wear shorts, a golf shirt, and flip flops. Your clothes are irrelevant. They are a crutch for those who lack the self confidence to effectively pay hookers for sex.
• lopaw

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  8 years ago

  I once wore a very nicely tailored business suit to a stripclub, and the girlies were all over me. I think the skirt helped alot :) I didn't plan on clubbing that day due to a very important customer meeting, but it broke up early so I headed to a club before heading home for the day. I don't know if you're up for wearing a skirt, larry. C'mon - YOLO!!!!!!!
• shailynn

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  8 years ago

  ^^^^ You closed on another house didn't you!!!!
• larryfisherman

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  8 years ago

  Lolol Lopaw.
• crazyjoe

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  8 years ago

  This has to be a Rickdugan troll
• shailynn

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  8 years ago

  Or SJG has a new friend living in his mom's basement with him.
• MrDeuce

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  8 years ago

  Like JS69, in over a thousand SC visits I have *never* worn a suit. My preferred garb is a nice golf shirt and either sweat pants and sneakers (when it's cool) or sweat shorts and sandals (when it's hot). I never have trouble getting lappers, extras (where available), and even OTC offers in recent years. I see no correlation whatsoever between my clothing and my strip club success.
• shailynn

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  8 years ago

  ^^^ exactly, it's not the labels on your clothing that matter, but the thickness of your wallet.
• ellocohombre

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  8 years ago

  Just go and be yourself. Why try to be someone your not. Be natural and just have a good time. Spend too much time thinking about this and that how are you going relax and enjoy yourself.
• GACA

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  8 years ago

  Young Black man wearing a suit in the club definitely changes the attention. Because we usually don't, si wearing a shirt and tie automatically means you are a different type of black man and that you are more likely to spend some cash. But thats only when you are establishing yourself. After a few trips put some swag back into your wardrop...you don't need to be a Carlton acting ass nigga in there
• larryfisherman

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  8 years ago

  Carlton acting ass nigga lol. Should I do the Carlton dance in the club? Lol.
• Clubber

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  8 years ago

  larry, Over the years, myself and a couple of friends actually "investigated" "reasons". Dress does play a part. I get a totally different reaction (positive) if I come in biker mode rather than civilian. Might be they see me then as a loser BF possibility. :) One thing that was always proven correct was the drink of choice. When the three of us would sit, one of the guys would get a drink and myself and the third, beer. The "drink" man got the most attention. We changed that up and the results always followed the "drink" man. The two above examples tended to contradict each other with regards to money. Biker less money, more attention. Drink man more money, more attention. Bottom line, strippers don't have "rules"! :)
• merlin05

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  8 years ago

  I personally avoid going to a SC in anything that requires dry cleaning to get the glitter or that SC smell out of it.
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  Larry, The System (tm) is intended for business travelers, away from home, coming right from some kind of a meeting, and walking into a new strip club for the first time. That is, you don't want to be a poser, and suits are impractical in many ways. Coming from home and going to a place where you are known, you shouldn't have to use it. If you like a girl, just approach her. You shouldn't have to depend on girls approaching you. Suits are good in AMPs because often it is coming right from work, because they expect you to fully undress and they have hooks to hang your stuff on, and because Asian culture is more conservative. Another part of The System (tm) is that you are declining dance offers and have no interest in front room physical friendliness. This way is not usually the best strategy if you are in a looser strip club. I have found that it works in the Sunnyvale Brass Rail, but that is strictly no touching, and it was coming right from work, and a kind of work where a suit was advisable. Girls were targeting me for OTC. I've experienced this there many times. They would go for me, and if I didn't jump, they would go for the guy in the sport coat and slacks. And that later is more practical too. On the other hand, girls have been lying on the Hip Hugger ( no defunct ) bar, and in total defiance of the rules giving me intense DFKing, to try and set up OTC. I was not dressed nice at all, but some girls just like doing it that way, and they want results. So if you approach a girl, they can read in you what you are about. I think you just need to dress in a way that you are comfortable with and that feels right for you. You want to think it through. If you are dressing just to impress women, then you are starting to become like women. That is not a good way to go. You should always dress as you feel comfortable. I worked in situations where I needed to wear a suit, and I did get used to it, and to getting certain kinds of female attention because of it. But overall it panders to certain tendencies in women which I find distasteful. You're going to have to decide for yourself. I think there should be ways to dress nice, that are still more practical than suits. Girls do have radar for whether or not a guy is employed. But spending money compensates for that. They also like business cards. You had posted before that there were some girls you wanted to take home with you. Why not just go after them, and then they should be more than enough to keep you busy. SJG
• jestrite50

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  8 years ago

  My take on this whole thing: #1. I never wear a suit into a club. That's not me. I wear a golf shirt/sport shirt and dress slacks. That's what I wear for work and it doesn't look like you're trying to be someone you are not. #2. I do not waste a girl's time. If I allow her to sit with me and I make conversation with her I will at a minimum buy her a drink and give her $20 for her time. #3. I am not a tight wad. Girls don't like a cheap ass. If you aren't spending money it doesn't matter how much money you brought in to the club it ain't gonna matter. #4. Making it rain: This is a cultural thing with many AA men. I would never ever do it. Most guys that make it rain don't buy dances in my observation.
• s88

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  8 years ago

  I could never get strippers to make out/FIV/OTC before I started wearing suits to SCs. Once I get VHM from them ITC the suit doesnt matter, but it does for the "1st time". I've found suit jackets are good, fashionable, discrete replacement for fanny packs/handbags/backpacks. I can store a ton of stuff in the suit jacket inner packets, take off the jacket, so my pants pockets are empty for a more enjoyable LD. Some SCs make you check a backpack, but not a suit jacket, so I save $3-$5 by wearing the suit jacket.
• flagooner

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  8 years ago

  And then pay $10 to have it dry cleaned