I don't think this is so suspicious actually and I did something very similar. Basically the discussions here are open for everyone to see so I was lurking here and was sort of like, "Holy shit, I need that with my boring ass sex life (married for a long time)." I just spent $100 or whatever on a lifetime VIP membership so I could check out all the local clubs prior to visiting and I'm damn glad I did as I was able to land a nice CBJ on my first outing since I knew the club I was going to was an extras club and was able to understand a respond appropriatly to the VIP menu when it was presented. Had I not read up, I may not have actually understood exactly what was being offered.
To the OP, the main thing I can offer is just to repeat the advise to read all the reviews. If you are in the type of club where they basically just come out and offer extras (although sometimes in a subtle way), you'll know by the reviews and can respond appropriatly. Short of that kind of club, I agree with everyone else to just go and have a good time until you get comfortable with the scene. I've been to 1-2 clubs in RI actually years ago for a buddies batchelor party and had a hell of a good time and suspect you'll be able to find an extras club up there pretty easy.
Dude, every day of life is about calculating risk, not whether or not to take them.
Buying life insurance, a risk.
Not buying life insurance, a risk.
Starting a business, a risk.
Keeping your same shitty job, a risk.
Etc., etc., etc.
It isn't about whether or not to take them, it is about knowing how to calculate them so you can benefit from them more often than not.
Oops, what I meant to say was...
I'm pretty new to this but I agree that sex with 6 or lower seems pretty easy in a lot of dive clubs. Meanwhile, finding any 7 or better in these same clubs can be tough and if you do, they are often "top dog" and much less eager to please. However, a bj from a 6 can be way better than angry looks from your 8 wife.
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