Don't miss it.

Hey buddy you will never be a deplorable as far as I am concerned. And yes it does seem harder and less worth it to get away lately.

Clubber - You just need Hillary to cum down and give you a blow job. Take care.

sc and 25,

Thanks, "friends"! :)

Another, I think larger reason is the most common dancers these days. Either difficult or impossible to find one to talk with or she is a Papi dancer.

December approaches, I'm with you, Clubber. Life takes it's hits on us, somehow there are bright lights ahead.

I tend to lose my zest for SCing when I got things weighing me down mentally/emotionally - but often times in life one has no choice but to make lemonade out of lemons - hope you can get thru whatever rough-patch you may be going thru - all the best !

Papi, Thanks.

You need a companion dog Clubber. Worth more than a club of strippers

I just realized something else. Of all the really good male friends I've had in my life (I would count them at five) there is a problem. Two have died. The last just over a year ago. And of the others, two have moved away and the last, well he got married and that sort of ended it somehow. Then he had a stroke and just no longer himself. Difficult to accept what a stoke cam do to someone.

That said, maybe a part of this whole thing is a lack of male bonding. I guess that exists. So many of my SC visits were with the guys from work. Just a thought.

At this point I have eliminated about 80% of the stripper expenditures that I used to make. I do miss it in a limited way but not as much as I thought I would. The reason is obvious -- I've got a DC who meets all of my needs.

Clubber, my guess is that you'll feel like returning to the clubs eventually. In the meantime, enjoy the monetary savings as I am.

Clubber, burying friends hurts! It doesn't matter whether they get buried because they died, or you must bury the friendship because they are no longer there (moved, married, medical), it all hurts. I am sorry for your pain.

A while ago I lost in-laws (both her parents), my Mom, two friends and a dog - all in less than 9 months. It was not my best year. I didn't find anything particularly interesting, and everything I did was more difficult than before. I didn't "get over it," but over time I did get used to living with several pieces missing.

I don't have any "well intended" advise or "sure thing" answers. I will offer the probability that one day you will look around the house and think to yourself, "I need some fine Asian tits in my face and tight, shaved poon in my hand."

As an older guy whom had health issues once told me, "life is for living"

"Now I wonder why I don't miss going" - a big part of my enjoyment in going is getting away from the stress of work. if you are retired, you may not need it any more.

Unsolicited advice from someone that doesn't know you....

As for finding the time to go. Get a part time job. Ages ago a colleague retired and found he just could not come up with excuses to get out for a beer or a cup of coffee or whatever. So he got a part time job working security at a local concert venue. He could say no to the shifts as long as he did not abuse it. the hours were variable enough that he could slip away for a couple of hours at the end or beginning of his shift. There was no issue with stopping for a drink on the way home. Most wives expect it.

i don't know if this is true now but then he could earn a decent amount of money without impacting his SS benefits. His wife thought he was nuts. He told her he was bored, felt useless and was going nuts. A part time job helped him enjoy their leisure activities and gave him a sense of purpose. Or so he told her

Yeah - at least find a hobby or hit the gym regularly for some moderate exercising and perhaps swimming if you are able to - need to find some kind of routine and something to fill the time.

It sounds like you are temporarily in one of those valleys on a roller coaster ride. It's nice to see that support can be found on this site to help you get back on the upswing.

Here's to hoping you get through this and come out a better man for it.

Some good advice, but I think some missed that I can't just leave home as I wish or be gone for an extended period of time.

Perhaps dallas said it best, "I need some fine Asian tits in my face and tight, shaved poon in my hand."

My bottom line is that I think since I started school at 6 (61 years ago) I've pretty much always had a "structured" life. Things that had to get done, school, social events, whatever. When I retired at 55 I lasted about 4 years before I went back to work.

Now, however, I don't see an end to what's going on, at least not something even close to pleasant. I guess this is just a part of getting older and perhaps starting to get a glimpse at the end of this adventure.

Who would have "thunk" back 16 years ago when I found TUSCL that guys here would have become friends (very happy I've met many) to replace those I've lost in real life. Thanks guys!

Clubber, if we can help in any way, count us to be your friend.

Hope things work out well for you clubber and everyone else. I'm hoping strip clubs improve in my area as well. If you can't touch for the most part, they might as well open up some nude byob clubs like there used to be here in South Carolina.

Clubber, I know exactly what you are going through. Since my ATF retired, going to the club has lost a lot of its allure for me as well, and I have also been contemplating a retirement from clubbing, or at least a long hiatus. Like you, there are a lot of factors - my wife retired, different places to spend my clubbing money and, frankly, some reflections on faithfulness and fidelity. No unfaithfulness to this point, but I can feel myself being sucked down the rabbit hole

Fuck, this is a sad thread. I'm not sure that I'd call what I'm doing right now a hiatus, cause I'm still going to clubs a tiny little bit. And I might see a stripper for some alone time very occasionally. But for the most part, I'm saving a fortune cause I found a DC.

Yes, JohnSmith69, this is a sad topic. I know Clubber personally, we've clubbed, we've been friends for a long time. He has to deal with something very difficult, and I know he will persevere. I'm going to SoFlo in December, I've talked with other TUSCL people down there. I'm posting a thread now inviting all to come on down and club with us.

ATAC,

Your comment about faithfulness hits home.

Js69,

Perhaps it is since it is sad to me that so much has changed.

vm,

I am so looking forward to you coming down and seeing Papi, 25, and whoever else makes it. I hope I can get enough free time to do so.