Trying to understand these strippers
larryfisherman
California
So I'm in the strip club last night, and this girl comes over and talks to me. She is ok looking (she's white, Native American, and Asian) maybe a 7.25. Her ass is what I really like, very juicy. She mentions her waist is 25 inches, and her hips are 44 inches! Wow, that might be my first girl in the 40 inch club lol.
Anyways, back to the point. I had got dances with her on one other occasion before, so it's not like I was her regular or anything, but I'm always at this club, and I see her in there a lot, and we've talked a few times, so we know each other a little bit. She is giving me a nice massage (not the strip club handshake lol) while talking to me. Eventually I suggest we get dances, so we head over to the lap dance area.
During the dances, she mentions she doesn't have a boyfriend, and she only has sex like twice a year. She says she's not interested in a boyfriend right now, because she doesn't want to feel like she's sharing herself with her boyfriend and customers in the strip club. While she's saying all this, she mentions I'm cute, and that my dick has her curious lol. At this point I'm pretty sure it's all SS, but I ask for her number for the hell of it.
She pauses and thinks about it for a minute. She says guys in the strip club ask for her number all the time, and she tells them no. She says she'll take my number down, and that gives her the option to contact me if she wants to. She says if she didn't like me, she would have just told me no. She says her phone is charging, so she writes down my number on a piece of paper. She said she'll probably text me in a couple of days. Yeah right. She'll probably throw that paper away in the nearest garbage lol.
So she initiates all the talk, but then she takes down my number on a piece of paper, and doesn't give me hers. These strippers lol. I would have respected it more if she would have just said no.
A couple questions:
Has a stripper ever contacted you after she takes down your number, but doesn't give you hers?
Have you ever met a stripper that has sex as infrequently as twice a year?
Anyways, back to the point. I had got dances with her on one other occasion before, so it's not like I was her regular or anything, but I'm always at this club, and I see her in there a lot, and we've talked a few times, so we know each other a little bit. She is giving me a nice massage (not the strip club handshake lol) while talking to me. Eventually I suggest we get dances, so we head over to the lap dance area.
During the dances, she mentions she doesn't have a boyfriend, and she only has sex like twice a year. She says she's not interested in a boyfriend right now, because she doesn't want to feel like she's sharing herself with her boyfriend and customers in the strip club. While she's saying all this, she mentions I'm cute, and that my dick has her curious lol. At this point I'm pretty sure it's all SS, but I ask for her number for the hell of it.
She pauses and thinks about it for a minute. She says guys in the strip club ask for her number all the time, and she tells them no. She says she'll take my number down, and that gives her the option to contact me if she wants to. She says if she didn't like me, she would have just told me no. She says her phone is charging, so she writes down my number on a piece of paper. She said she'll probably text me in a couple of days. Yeah right. She'll probably throw that paper away in the nearest garbage lol.
So she initiates all the talk, but then she takes down my number on a piece of paper, and doesn't give me hers. These strippers lol. I would have respected it more if she would have just said no.
A couple questions:
Has a stripper ever contacted you after she takes down your number, but doesn't give you hers?
Have you ever met a stripper that has sex as infrequently as twice a year?
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Yes, if she has a girlfriend and is only counting sex with dudes. Yes, I have been the beneficiary and in one case accidentally met the girlfriend. Yes, the girlfriend was jealous and it was awkward. No, I don't make a habit of it.
No. in my experience, it's SS. Doesn't mean she won't, but I've never had one do it.
Have you ever met a stripper that has sex as infrequently as twice a year?
Yes. Maybe it was SS, but she had been pretty honest with me (with verifiable info) the whole time I got dances with her. But she hadn't had sex (FS) in three years.
I got bj's from her and got to play with all parts of her body. Eventually she got comfortable enough with me that I got to break her out of her sex slump. Lol
Agree completely. And the fact that you're confused at all means it worked :) Her entire play was cringeworthy, it was so transparent. And no, no stripper who has taken my number has EVER called me.
25-->"You need to back down on asking for digits man and wait till they ask you for yours"
That one I don't agree with, deuce-five. The number of times I've gotten shot down in asking for phone numbers, in the past 5 years or so, is I think maybe once. Maybe. These days, the vast majority of girls have a google line as part of their business model. The thing is, I do NOT approach this as "hey shawtie, you finna gimme your digits?". As soon as I realize I'm having a nice time and want to see her again, I say, "Can I get your phone number so I can coordinate schedules to see you next time I come?" The answer is always yes. I can't imagine why she'd say no ... maybe the only reason is if she's done a boyfriend hustle and worries you'll be a needy texter (ala the original story).
My guildelines are:
1. NEVER wait until she offers her number. Get hers the moment you know you want to see her again, and you've spent enough on her that you think she'll want to retain you as a customer, even if it's your first trip. Do it now -- you don't know if she'll switch clubs next week and you'll never see her again, you don't know if she'll go to the bathroom and run into her whale 10 minutes from now. Get her number now.
2. You're not "getting her digits", you're asking for her number, explicitly for the purpose of seeing her again at work and spending more money on her. If she's too dumb to want that, I move on (my SCing is mostly appointment-based, so I move on from girls who don't set appointments)
I guess we are in the Olympic season where the judges deduct a tenth of a point
Anyway, don't waste any more time, just get her into your own bed.
I like ones with big hips too. They are a primordial turn on.
SJG
She said she would text me in a couple of days. While I don't think it's gonna happen, I would give it a 25% chance.
The next day, without me knowing her #, she texts me, with bright and cheery language, all the photos I asked for last night by text. I text back thanks, ask her for her IG (she showed it to me slyly but I never finished entering it in my phone that night) and never contacted her since. She is banned due to way less DFK this time than 1st visit, and also overcounting songs, I only went with colombian because my CF at that SC wasnt there that night. The colombian's IG, she is a professional hot chick or high priced escort/sugar baby. Photos of her all over the planet with her sister in the last couple months. Looks like a "model" on IG but isn't one. No hint of her being a stripper on IG, she has no tats either. Has 9K followers. God damn it. I DFKed an rich bitch IG whore with no obvious source of income.
If she says no, chances are you stop spending right there. That's actually the BEST case ... you might also get angry at her for lying to you about how cute you are, etc. Once she's committed to boyfriend hustle you, the one response she can't give is "no". The smartest response is for her to get a google voice number and give you that instead, but taking your number is the next best thing, as far as reducing her risk for conflict. Of course, it's also short-sighted, since now you're irritated and probably won't return to her ...
Or will you? She'll have some story for you about how she got soooo drunk and lost your #, and then she thinks you'll be right back to spending on her (and, for most customers, she's probably right).
Girls whose business is based more on regulars can't operate this way, but with strippers who don't have regulars, it probably doesn't bite them too often
In the black dives I visit someone who spends even moderately is sorta a big fish and in these cases I have had a fair # of them call me (no doubt b/c they are interested in a donation "for their campaign").
Of course a dancer contacting us can always be just busine$$ related on her end; so no need to think that it's gonna be a non-P4P hook-up but w/ Larry being in his 20s he *does* have a better chance of hooking-up but still not guaranteed she's not just angling for "donation$".
But like others have said, when the *dancer* is the one asking for your number, and not giving you hers, she's hustling you more likely than not.
Anyway, in regards to your second question, I can only assume this stripper seldomly had sex. I say so, because when I tried to finger her on several occasions I couldn't really get my finger in it. I'd always tell her she had a tight pussy. Like I said I assume, because when we became Facebook friends I found out she was married and her man was in jail. Guess she was semi holding it down for him why he was locked up.
Have you ever met a stripper that has sex as infrequently as twice a year? Lol hell no.
But you rate her "ok looking" and a 7.25? In many places a 7.25 would be the standout in an otherwise ogre infested club. Just sayin.
Another one gave me her AOL handle (like I said, long time ago). I emailed her and then got a reply saying that her husband had read the email and was upset about it. WTF!
Bear in mind that I realize that this tactic doesn't actually *make* me non-threatening, it only makes me *appear* that way to some. :)
As far as knowing strippers who infrequently have sex, I don't know. Many have made such claims, but its impossible for me to verify and seems unlikely than a young, attractive girl would have sex any less frequently than she desired.
The need to take different approaches is a much more complex topic.
Second Problem: Asking a bunch of perverts who don't care enough to bother anymore.
Solution: assume you know enough and enjoy the ride but don't fall in love. Being callous works great for me, because she can talk sweet nothing all night and I get a couple girls all over my johnson & johnson for no extra effort. If any girl is serious about trying to get personal with you. She'd give you her number without you asking.
My first serious experience in a strip club was at the Sunnyvale Brass Rail when I tried chat up one of their dancers. I got her to sit down and have a drink with me, as is the custom. I suggested that maybe we could go out sometime.
"*I* don't go out with customers."
It wouldn't actually be until years later that I fully understood her meaning. And this was long before cell phones and caller id, so women were more careful with phone numbers. But I still did feel that the honorability of my intentions was had been tarnished. So I just talked to her matter of factly, about myself, my career, my biography, all the things girls want to know about but learn that if they want to make money that they should not ask about.
Then I wrote down my complete name and home telephone number on a napkin and presented it to her.
Now standing, she held it down at arms length and said, "Well okay. You don't understand, I get hit on by fifty guys a night."
Again I felt my honor being tarnished. And actually, it would be some years before I really did understand, and I was already in way over my head.
So I decided to quite while I was still ahead and politely excused myself. I slept, worked the next day, and I forgot about the matter.
But when I came home and played back the message on my old fashioned answering machine, there it was, her voice.
And this would be only the first of stripper call backs I would receive. And what I would later come to understand is that the reason I would get these call backs was that I was one of a small minority who did not treat them like prostitutes.
SJG
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