How can they be broke?
jayhawk123
Arizona
It amazes me how dancers always say they are so broke that bills aren't paid, late on rent, even cell phone shut off because she couldn't make the payment. I would think the phone would be one of the first things paid for considering they can't call or text their regulars to come see them at the club if their phone is shut off. They make anywhere from $10-$30 per dance and get paid cash so no taxes. So do you think they really are broke? Spent all money on drugs and alcohol? Or just S.S? With all the reality shows we have on tv today I can't believe there isn't a stripper reality show. Now that would be entertaining
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I've often wondered the same jayhawk, but some are better hustlers than others and show up on time or whatever makes them a winner.
I see a similarity with professional athletes, many of whom earn millions of dollars and end up in bankruptcy. Like athletes, strippers are mostly:
1. Not well educated
2. Not very smart
3. Impulsive
4. Attracted to drugs and alcohol
5. Surrounded by people who sponge off them
And like athletes, strippers have the best earning years when they are young. By the time they have matured and gained a little sense, they have lost some attractiveness and don't have dollars flowing over them.
Yes, I've run into dancers whose cell phone was turned off.
Dancers caught up in the "lifestyle" ..drugs, alcohol, etc always have cash on hand or the ability to go earn it. You or me or anyone else not on commission can only earn "X" dollars per paycheck period. For most of them paying the bills on time is not a priority. Very few of them deal with banks or could even qualify to open an account. So they pay bills with money orders, western unions, and cash. This takes extra effort. The ones I have known that do have the cash, still routinely pay the rent, electric and phone late even though they have the money and bank account.
I do not understand risking that especially if they have kids. So with the ability to take vacations routinely, have cash burning holes in their pockets, and the ability to just show up at most clubs and work to make more money..maybe this might give some insight
She couldn't understand it either.. She made 600 for that night. Except she didn't. She made 580. House fees and tip outs brought her to under 500. But she still thought she made 600.
She has her own place at 1500 a month. She pays utilities. She has two cars. One is an accord. It is paid for and she uses it for work. She did not consider the insurance, maintenance or registration fees because it is paid for so it must be free. She leases a BMW for when she goes out. She was planning on buying a new 2000+ hand bag. Her late fees and interest were staggering.
By the end of the conversation, I realized she never considers her bills under 100 or the bills that hit once or twice a year.
She rounds up her income, doesn't subtract the expenses incurred to earn that income, has no idea how much she really pays out to live and prioritizes luxury items before anything else. She has no savings account so she cannot take from last month's surplus.
She never learned to budget because any time she was short, she called a PL or two and they bailed her out with a "loan" , a gift, extra dances or payment for extras.
Her problem could be solved with a piece of paper, a pencil and simple arithmetic.
Definitely not all, but I've seen it often. Very short sighted.
It's why they duck old and fat men
I think beyond the obvious, that have been mentioned over and over -- poor decision making, poor judgement, lack of planning, impulsiveness, drug addiction, etc. -- you shouldn't underestimate the huge impact of:
- lack of good parenting or mentorship. If your parents were shit, and everyone around you was a fuck-up, are you sure you wouldn't be a fuck-up too, since that's the only thing you know?
- Emotional damage. SW seems to go crazy over this, as if it's an unfair myth, but the fact is, easily 90% of the strippers I've gotten to know well, have truly tragic stories to tell about sexual abuse, emotional abuse, etc.
- Perhaps not quite as pervasive, but with a huge number of girls, there's an innate lack of respect for authority that gets manifested in self-destructive behavior
Add that all up, it's less of a mystery... what's surprising to me is the few girls who actually save, invest, stay focused on an exit plan to civilian life, and execute it
One stripper I know travels in from out of town, two hours away, add in extra costs for meals, gas and hotel, and it's even more for her. She also drinks and does drugs. Has told me many times that she has finished the night with nothing.
Since she was close to my age she was cool to talk to. Yes, she had a drug habit but she was an extravagant spender. She had a bunch of kids. So she had like seven TV's. With all the premium channels and extras. I think she paid over $500 a month for cable TV. And she bought cell phones for her whole family. That was like 700 per month. Her baby daddy didn't work. But yet she bought him a Mercedes.
There you go.
Motorhead and K both have totally accurate descriptions and explain a lot. I might as well pile on and add my experience.
I knew a stripper who would travel to Vegas on the weekends from a neighboring state. She had wrecked her car and couldn't afford to fix it (she pulled out in front of someone driving her kid to school, I asked "how did you manage to wreck?" and her excuse was "she was tired that morning."
When she had enough money she would fly, a last minute ticket each way was usually under $90 and if she bought a week in advance it was $60, a few weeks in advance could be $45. If I were her, when I got some cash I would book my tickets for the next 4 months straight, but she never thought that far ahead. Tough times had her taking a bus to Vegas.
A weekend in Vegas could have her walking out with $5,000 after all fees and expenses. But at times the next 3 tips sometimes she would even lose money let along make anything. $5,000 a month clear and free isn't too bad of a take right? (those were her worst months btw). But she rented a big house which was $2,200 a month, house was all electric and she lived somewhere cold, had expenses for her kids, and spent probably $300 or more a month at the hair salon, and other beauty expenses such as spray tans, nails, etc.
I had to laugh her nails and hair were impeccable but she would wear clothes when dressed casual that should have been used to wear while doing yard work. I just couldn't believe why she was paying $2,000 a month for a 4 bedroom 4 1/2 bath house when she only had 2 kids and nobody else. Nice house but no furniture and empty fridge. She never "got it."
Most of us (if we were strippers) would work all or most of the shift (I understand it is a physically demanding job) and take home as much money as I could. This is what i see. The girl needs to make $350 that day. Maybe I pay her $100 and that brings her to $400 net for the day after only 3 hours. SHE STOPS WORKING! The girl will then sit at the bar or with a regular and drink the rest of the shift or will go home.
I think this is a generational thing. 20somethings, especially those not career-minded, see a job as how they make the money they need to support their life. You work hard or long enough to to pay your bills and have enough to go have fun, and that's it. No savings. No getting ahead.
A friend recently told me he has trouble getting his waitresses to work extra shifts because they think they don't need the money from the extra shift. They make enough to get buy with the hours they already have and that's all they want to work.
Also teach money management and how to make a budget. I think we would all be better off if more people saved something.
Strippers may have an income problem if the club hires as many dancers as want to work if the money isn't available in the club. I.e., not enough people with money. I remember reading about a dancer law suit against platinum plus claiming they were not even leaving with minimum wages. If that's the case, they should have quit but the club kept hiring every girl who wanted to work. The club was making money off of fees etc the girl had to pay. I've have heard about some dancers not having enough money to pay all the fees. I remember a couple of times, dancers snuck out the fire alarm door never to return.
Cars and homes. A lot of strippers rent their own places. Many drive brand new cars as soon as the money starts coming in.
Debts: student loans or debts from before stripping.
Family obligations: either baby(s) or deadbeat family members/boyfriends/husbands.
1) "Easy come easy go"
2) "it's not how much you make but how much you keep"
Most of us get paid bi-weekly so we can more easily adjust our spending - stripping can be feast or famine and many dancers seem to adjust their lifestyle in accordance to their peak earning which Is not consistent - also; for many/most; dancing can be very taxing psychologically and emotionally and often times they either take long breaks or just work minimal shifts - plus many are young thus inexperienced in life and finaces and not exactly class valedictorians - thus a combo of youth and inexperience along w/ no sound financial basis and $$$ windfall means a lot of it goes down the toilet.
Why did it get cut off in the first place - probably poor money management and thus they are broke - but yeah; strippers will also invent "financial emergencies" and cry wolf to take advantage of well-meaning PLs but them being broke is very common.
they buy purebread dogs, usually pitbulls, which makes it impossible to find a place to live because of pet fees and dog breed restrictions.
they drive drunk and will often get a dui. so a lot of their money will be spend on court costs, probation, and a new car.
they like to find places to stay that are easily 40 or 50 miles away, so the commute costs them a fortune.
they have a boyfriend in jail, either because of domestic violence, drug sales, or any number of valid charges. so even more money goes to lawyer fees, probation, or child support the boyfriend's other baby-mama.
i've even heard of situations where the boyfriend will come into work with her, wait until she makes some money, and then take her money to buy dances from other girls.
But other times it is just because they don't work regularly and because they squander their money.
SJG
Damn - that is cold and douchey - but not totally surprised what shit many of these girls are willing to put up with.