Couples night out

There's as many variations in acceptance of female guests in strip clubs as there are dancers who work in them.

My ATF used to *love* women in the club, but her co-workers were at best lukewarm. She would go after those women, pulling all the stops out. She said her secret to success was in paying virtually no attention to the male companion at all until the woman signaled that it was OK, and even then would still pay far more attention to the girl.

She claimed it worked on two fronts. One, making it all about the female made the women more comfortable with being there, and less defensive. Two, once the female started enjoying herself, the male was much more likely to spend butt loads of money.

Couples have become much more common in strip clubs, and I'm glad to hear you enjoy going together. I don't have experience visiting clubs with a woman except for taking favorite strippers to other clubs--and that probably doesn't count.

Where is seaboardrr when you need him? He is part of a couple who visits clubs regularly and would no doubt offer you some great tips. Maybe you can PM him.

Like jackslash said couples are becoming more common in clubs and just like with all customers some dancers will approach them and some won't. But as a couple it pays to be proactive and ask for a dancer that catches your eye.

There used to be a couple at Follies that were regulars. They lived out of town but rented an apartment nearby. Whenever they came into the club their table was filled with dancers all day long 5 or 6 at a time and a lot of them were some of the hottest girls in the club. They must have had some money. I heard that they posted bail for one dancer and they spent a lot of money buying drinks and getting dances. I even personally know of one dancer that lived in their apartment and did 3 somes with them.

I found out the secret to their success. Cocaine.

Couples got in free at club Lust last night. it got crowded. I thought for a second one girl wanted to dance for me. She might have years ago. I can't remember everyone.

Some dancers are apprehensive when it comes to female customers because they don't know if they are there of their own free will or there for other reasons. Aka, to see what their SO is doing at the club or just showed up to appease their SO but is mad the whole time.

If you ever make it to Atlanta check out Mardi Gras on weekend nights. The couples outnumber the single guys there! One thing, it attracts a younger crowd and the customer girls dress super hot. This may intimidate your wife.

I would assume couples would have better success in the more upscale clubs where there is usually better customer-service (and why IME it's more common to see couples in the more upscale clubs than the more divey ones).

Found the following thread by doing a "couples advice" search on the TUSCL search box - have not read thru it:

https://www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=1…

I'm seeing more couples coming into the clubs I frequent during the afternoon, which was a time that I would never normally see couples in the clubs. True they are often ostracized by dancers, but once the dancers see that the female part of the couple is enjoying herself and the couple is spending money they will usually warm up to them.

Since I club alone I rarely have trouble getting attention, but have talked with dancers about couples in the club. Some love them and some completely avoid them. Many will dance for couples only if they do the approaching, which kind of sucks if you like to be approached. But it's not really a big deal if it gets you what you want. Asking a waitress to fetch a particular dancer for you (with a tip, of course) can go a long way and can make a big difference in making it a successful visit.

Depends on the couple. When the woman is visibly uncomfortable, mad or jealous it sucks. If she's having a good time they are just like anyone else in the club. I've never gone to a club with a woman who wasn't a dancer so my experience is mostly as an observer.

Our best ever couples experience was at the Inner Room Cabaret which is about as upscale as McDonalds. Takes a certain type of confident woman.

One of my most memorable club experiences was going to the club as a couple with my former ATF (shopping for CFs only in the near future). Tag teaming dancers on stage, watching her tip in a sensual way, that was fkn hot!

Thank you all for your comments. We have noticed that many of the dancers that approach us are a ton of fun. Many times my wife will approach a dancer we like, as well I am very fortunate to have a confident partner (as opposed to a bag full of cocaine). We will continue our adventures in the future. Thanks again!

Sorry for the absence. We had a surgery a few months ago and are still healing. We’ve been super busy working as well and between work and healing haven’t been able to get out to any SC’s or other type parties since February. Mrs sea is going stir crazy not getting to play with some T&A but we’re hoping within the next couple of months we’ll be back better than ever.

Mr microdong pretty much covered it. It’s all about the female. The link papi posted to mootpoints post from several years ago covered the topic very well also. This may get convoluted but there is a TON of info to answer your question. I’ll try not to ramble but I’ll apologize in advance if I do because I probably will.

Yes, finding SC’s you like for the first time can be scary and you’ll be nervous. Even when you become somewhat of a veteran you’ll still get nervous trying out a new club you’ve never been to before. That’s just human nature plus you’re coupling that with going somewhere that still has a social stigma attached to it. On top of all that you’re going with your wife. While attitudes have changed somewhat there’s still a stigma of a woman going to see other naked women. When mrs sea decided she wanted to go to SC’s we were very nervous and I know we looked like deer in headlights. She thought it’d be sleazy and we wouldn’t fit in but we did it and haven’t looked back.

The best thing you can do is just take that big step inside, grab a table together and order a drink. Once you’ve done that the hardest part is over. Well, the hardest part next to actually approaching the tip rail and interacting with a stripper in the middle of a crowded room but that gets easier with time. People are always worried others are watching what they do. You just have to remember that if anyone who knows you sees you there you just have to remember that THEY are at the same place doing exactly what you’re doing .

We’ve been in a couple seedy SC’s but we did it just to say we went. What better way to decide if you like a place or not than by actually going. No matter how many reviews you read it’s the best way to make your own judgement. Pay the cover, grab a drink and hang out for an hour. Try a slow time and then a late Saturday night when the place SHOULD be packed and hopping. Once you do that you can make a very informed decision on whether y’all want to go back or not. Some places will just slap you in the face immediately with how anti-couple the dancers are. Basically, we can try out a new SC for $20. Cheaper than a movie.

If you find a place you really like the next thing you need to do is become regulars. Once a month or even every other month is enough. When you have a family, work, normal life plus other parties you attend you can’t just hit up a SC every week. Just not enough time. We were trying to go at least once a month and sometimes we’d stop by every couple of weeks. You don’t have to drop a ton of money. Budget a couple hundred, get some drinks, stage tip and a few dances. After a while the employees will recognize you and will realize that the two of you are there to have fun and will spend some money. Once the waitresses and dancers see that the female half is really there to enjoy the show and hasn’t been “forced” there to appease her husband they’ll really warm up to you. You’ll still have to deal with the strippers who just don’t know how to handle couples. You’re correct about rookie and veteran strippers too. It’s been our experience that the younger, less experienced strippers just don’t know what to do. They think they can simply charge double and do air dances while we sit there not getting much action. The more veteran ones who like couples really get it and will bend/break the rules when there’s another female involved. You also have to watch out for the strippers who get really frisky with your wife during LD's because they know the more involved she gets with your wife you'll just say to keep going when the next song starts. This can get expensive fast. We let this happen to us once and sitting at Ihop at 6am we were kicking ourselves for how stupid we were. For that amount of money we could've gone to a weekend hotel takeover or simply hired an escort.

I guess the first big question is WHY are the two of you going? Is it just to have a fun night out to add a little spice? Does your wife think it’ll make you happy if she “allows” you to see other naked women? Or, does your wife think she’s bi or bi-curious at least and actually wants to play with other women with you? If your wife doesn’t have an attraction to women I don’t know if I’d be taking her because that could eventually start some jealous feelings. You say y’all don’t swing but if your wife is bi then I’d suggest making SC’s a simple fun night out and save most of your $$$ for swingers parties. There are hotel parties everywhere as well as clubs. There are various forms of swinging. It’s not just some big wife swap orgy like I guess most people think it is. I guess I’m just confused on that point based on the info you’ve given.

I know you’re probably tired of reading this at this point (if you were even able to make it through this far) so I’ll conclude with this. Unless your wife specifically asks you to do something take a step back and just let her be the one in charge. Whether it be SC’s or swinger’s parties it’s the woman’s world and us men are really just along for the ride. Let her pick the strippers, let her do the talking, let her make the moves. With us luckily we like pretty much the same women 95% of the time but then she also says I’m a whore so I’d fuck a tree if it had tits. A joke we have is that I’m the stunt dick. My job is to drive, carry the cash, watch how much she drinks, keep her hydrated and keep her safe so she can let it all hang out and let her freak flag fly with no worries. If I’m doing my job then she’s having a blast and we BOTH have fun together. IMO that is basically the job of the man when it comes to couples going out. Just get out there to places you haven’t been before and see what it’s like. If you don’t like a place cross it off the list and move on to the next place. Don’t limit yourselves to just SC’s either.

Again, I apologize for the ridiculous length of my post.

Thanks seaboardrr for your extensive comments. Much appreciated! We are taking your suggestions to heart and are going to try some more clubs on typically quieter nights, just to test them out. Try an appetizer, decide whether to order the meal. I get it. I am fortunate to have a wife who has a keen awareness of her surroundings. She typically gets carried away, but under her terms. We are very apprehensive to go to swingers parties, as the stereotypical lifestyle does not suit us. Then again, i never thought we would be going to the SC together, either.
Thanks again!