Infidelity and Your Wife

After reading, perhaps it is best I remain single. Women know. They are always 3 steps ahead of men. They won't suddenly leave without an exit strategy.

Overall I think that we always assume that women are loyal and don't stray but we're deceiving ourselves. They are just better at hiding it. And when you think about it...who are the women that we are cheating with? Probably also married.

Slight edge to men. Slight.

Slight edge to men. Slight.

^^^^ Sorry in my rambling I forgot to mention the biggest point:

At least in my world, when it comes to marriages and affairs, the culprit has been the Female more than the Male in the relationships. I was shocked when I discovered that.

I've thought about this topic a lot. My guess is that women and men cheat on their spouses with about an equal percentage.

However men cheat for the pure animal thrill; women cheat for the emotional attachment. So if your wife is cheating, your marriage is far more likely to be over.

^^^^ that's a great point, I also think some women cheat for their own financial benefit. Trading up in the husband department so to speak.

Mrs S explained it to me, "Marriage for the 1st time is for love. Marriage for the 2nd time is for money."

always the woman for us.

No shailynn, the biggest point is your wife, is she f%cking and sucking someone else.

^^^^ Who knows????? Considering all the shit that I do, if she was, I'd have to give her a hall pass.

Thanks for honest answer

I don't know the percentages but in almost every case where the wife is mega-hot, it is the wife that ends up cheating. Just too many dudes pursuing them and too much temptation to move up. Would rather rent them than marry them.

"Thanks for honest answer "

Throwback - since you claim you're a psychology student, what's your take?

Apparently the infidelity rates for men and women are comparable. Women often seek emotional fulfilment and validation while men are more likely to just want to get off.

Put another way, women have affairs when they are unhappy, men have affairs when they are content but sexually unsatisfied.

Because we've somewhat opened our marriage, I would hope she'd tell me before having an affair.

My ex wife never would have had a sexual affair.

The reason for this is that she wanted to be Right. She wanted to make me wrong.

But she was still completely disloyal to me. Its just her infidelities were in her idolatrous relationship with money.

SJG

I believe women cheat as much or more than men.

I had girlfriends cheat on me and when I found out they would say we should start seeing other people...lol

The disparity of the double standard (slut v stud) may be eroding with time and women coming into their own with strength and being in control in their own lives, rather than being dependent on men.

My vote would be to go with the golden rule. He (or she) who has the gold makes the rules.

Leaving and/or cheating are two very different things. If hubby is loaded but un-attentive, wifey may cheat but probably not leave unless cheating partner is very well-off. Women rarely ever trade down. On the other hand, if she is breadwinner, she may cheat, leave or both.

I agree with Timex -- she will never leave without a solid exit strategy. Women don't leave for love unless they earn the coin,

Men are more horny than women and are more likely to cheat for passion or excitement.