Infidelity and Your Wife
shailynn
Weird this topic came up twice in days for me, but my buddies and I were talking about it, and Mrs S and I were talking about it too.
1. What percentage would you put the likelihood of a married woman having an affair when compared to a married man?
2. What's the likelihood of your wife having an affair on you?
Here's my reasoning. I have a tight knit group of 4 guys. All were/are married.
1 divorced guy - wife had an affair with much more successful and older man and left my buddy. This has been going on 7 years and I still don't think he's recovered.
2. Married guy - it's assumed wife constsly cheats on him, but he claims (at least to us) that he hasn't caught her yet. As far as I know, he has remained faithful since getting married but hasn't even been married for 2 years yet. When they were dating he cheated all the time.
3. Married guy - married over 10 years just started recently having an affair and creeping. Fights a lot with his wife (the breadwinner in the relationship) and I wouldn't be surprised if she eventually had or is having an affair. She used to be very quiet but when she became successful she has become very arrogantand jealous of others.
4. Married guy - creeps on his hot wife, she seems happy in relationship and oblivious to what he does.
#2 3 and 4 all have hot wives. If they weren't my buddies friends I'd sleep with them all. #4s wife used to be an NFL cheerleader.
Now to Mrs S., her friends and running at an about 50% divorce rate over the years and all marriages were broken up from affairs. Shocking to me, the girls had the affairs more than the boys.
1. What percentage would you put the likelihood of a married woman having an affair when compared to a married man?
2. What's the likelihood of your wife having an affair on you?
Here's my reasoning. I have a tight knit group of 4 guys. All were/are married.
1 divorced guy - wife had an affair with much more successful and older man and left my buddy. This has been going on 7 years and I still don't think he's recovered.
2. Married guy - it's assumed wife constsly cheats on him, but he claims (at least to us) that he hasn't caught her yet. As far as I know, he has remained faithful since getting married but hasn't even been married for 2 years yet. When they were dating he cheated all the time.
3. Married guy - married over 10 years just started recently having an affair and creeping. Fights a lot with his wife (the breadwinner in the relationship) and I wouldn't be surprised if she eventually had or is having an affair. She used to be very quiet but when she became successful she has become very arrogantand jealous of others.
4. Married guy - creeps on his hot wife, she seems happy in relationship and oblivious to what he does.
#2 3 and 4 all have hot wives. If they weren't my buddies friends I'd sleep with them all. #4s wife used to be an NFL cheerleader.
Now to Mrs S., her friends and running at an about 50% divorce rate over the years and all marriages were broken up from affairs. Shocking to me, the girls had the affairs more than the boys.
Comments
last commentAnd when you think about it...who are the women that we are cheating with? Probably also married.
At least in my world, when it comes to marriages and affairs, the culprit has been the Female more than the Male in the relationships. I was shocked when I discovered that.
However men cheat for the pure animal thrill; women cheat for the emotional attachment. So if your wife is cheating, your marriage is far more likely to be over.
Mrs S explained it to me, "Marriage for the 1st time is for love. Marriage for the 2nd time is for money."
Throwback - since you claim you're a psychology student, what's your take?
Put another way, women have affairs when they are unhappy, men have affairs when they are content but sexually unsatisfied.
Because we've somewhat opened our marriage, I would hope she'd tell me before having an affair.
The reason for this is that she wanted to be Right. She wanted to make me wrong.
But she was still completely disloyal to me. Its just her infidelities were in her idolatrous relationship with money.
SJG
Leaving and/or cheating are two very different things. If hubby is loaded but un-attentive, wifey may cheat but probably not leave unless cheating partner is very well-off. Women rarely ever trade down. On the other hand, if she is breadwinner, she may cheat, leave or both.
I agree with Timex -- she will never leave without a solid exit strategy. Women don't leave for love unless they earn the coin,
Men are more horny than women and are more likely to cheat for passion or excitement.