Which is better, and why?
JohnSmith69
layin low but staying high
1. Complete freedom and independence. No wife, gf, etc, nobody to answer to. Do whatever you can afford whenever and however you want. Shop for a new DS every night. Fuck strippers galore if you want. No limits but time and funds. But you have no genuine romantic relationship with a woman.
2. You have a wife or girlfriend who is very satisfying to you sexually and whom you love but you can't possibly give up strippers on the side. So at least once or twice a week you have to lie to her to coverup your activities. You do all the usual crap that guys talk about on here to hide strip clubbing.
The wife/gf is not paranoid or overly suspicious, but she's not stupid either.
There are no other choices
Sorry Lopaw, SJGay, and the guy who gives handjobs, I'm too high to figure out how to word the two options to cover people who are gay.
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I would not be fucking strippers on the side. So it's not really an option for me.
I feel like if you commit to someone, you shouldn't be doing those other activities on the side. I think you should be loyal to the person and that person only
However, I think I would choose option # 2 if it were possible, especially if I were a young man. I would need to have plenty of money in this scenario (let's give me inherited wealth) so I could afford both a wife/SO and strippers. I enjoy having a woman around for companionship and family fun. The strippers on the side would provide sexual variety. This is a dream scenario that could not work in reality. The wife or SO would eventually catch you.
There is no perfect situation in any walk of life unfortunately.
I am unsure if I will return to civilian dating given all of the frustration and heartache
I have experienced in the past. I wasted a good portion of my youth chasing a total bitch.
So, the convenience of clubbing just works for me. I want sex. Going to a club and paying for it is just
easier. In the end, we all pay for it.
"There are only 2 options in life for men. You're either married and miserable, or single and lonely."
I am a number 2. If something happened and I got divorced, I can guarantee I would wind up having another girlfriend and maybe even get married again. I could see myself being and wanting to try to stay a number 1, but eventually a hot female would suck me in to becoming a number 2 again, I just know it!!!
However, I'm greedy and clubbing gives me the variety I need. I'm keep the frequency and money spent fairly undectable and keep things safe. It could of course very well bite me in the ass in the end, but scenario 1 is the only one I've ever known when it comes to clubbing.
If something happens to my marriage, I'd probably prefer to play the singles field with non-professionals than keep up this hobby.
As for my handies, don't knock them till you've tried them.
What I want is group of people, including women who will be my sex partners. And all of these people are committed to a broader set of political goals.
Without this, we are always negotiating normative standards and built in gender conflicts.
SJG
If that's the standard, then we've got a shit load of selfish disrespectful people on tuscl.
I think if one is married a long-time it's a different bag of chips - I think most people that get married get married w/ the ideal it will be forever and that will be the only person for the rest of their lives - but as they say in France "shit happens" :)
For those of us not currently married or in a relationship; choosing b/w 1 or 2 is a clear choice; for those in particular that have been married for a good while the question and answer is a bit more complicated, IMO.
I'm actually shocked there are men who don't understand why men seek out strange.
Totally expect that some guys would choose NOT to do that, if they're happy with their partner ... just shocked they don't easily understand why others would