What non-sexual act of a dancer makes you wanna spend more with her? What non-sexual act of a dancer makes you say "no more"?
... I expect wide variety is responses. Including "nothing"
I specifically took out "sexual" because there it is usually "more money = more honey". Here - looking for what melts or freezes the heart.
A few things off the top of my head...I might spend more on her if she:
None of these things even remotely compare to the sexual or sensual interactions we have. But if I'm having fun talking to her, we're getting drunk together, and she's taking care of my buddies also, I'm very happy and tend to spend more
"- Keeps up with me as far as pounding down shots of tequila "
... ha ha
I guess I need s clarification of "non-sexual".
Is kissing, blowing in the ear, back rubs, sexual or non-sexual?
Those things turn me on - but if they are sexual, then nothing.
BTW, I don't consider them sexual since Willy Junior does not come into play
Agree with ya Motor. All non sexual.
Oh... I'd have considered those all sexual, or at least sensual... every one is something that that raises some sexual arousal to some extent. But if we include those things, then yes, of course, anything flirty and touchy is the obvious answer. What about dirty talk? That's non-sexual since "Willy Junior" doesn't come out to play, right? If so, throw that in also. To me, these are all clearly activities meant to increase sexual arousal, though.
lemme think .... I'd say anything that can also be done a non sexual manner (so kiss on the cheek, blowing in ears or hand rubs)
Sitting in/on my lap
Complaining about other dancers. Asking for tips. Smoking. Talking about money problems. Making fun of other custies.
All are big turn ons
I'm a competitive guy, so the main thing is when a dancer who I am familiar with leaves the guy she is with to come hang out with me as soon as a walk on. The ego boost it gives me makes me spend my money on her that much more.
Past that, I agree with the previous two that kissing, handholding and sitting on my lap put my wallet guard down (if those are not considered sexual).
Front room gfe
Rogertx - your initial description has worked for me several times. I've come into the club - and I've had a girl basically "light up" when she recognized me - rush over and give a big hug - and then sit and chat with me. It's an easy way to loosen up my wallet.
When I tell a dancer that I find her sexy and I'd like to get some dances - and she basically ignores me when she does her rounds. That does the opposite - and I'll think twice before spending anything if she thinks I'm a sure thing and that its ok to make me sit and wait.
I have a new favorite at one club who:
These things win my heart -- and my wallet!
When she sucks my fingers.
Just saying hi, and no comeons for a dance.
Love the nice back and shoulder rub.
Taking my hand an giving me a hand massage can win me over for some reason. Also girls that just fall into your arms and want to cuddle. I remember one girl that did not want to dance for me, but just take breaks in my arms and talk. Qualifies because it made me WANT to spend money on her, even if she didn't want it.
Sitting on my lap, kissing on my neck. And just good conversation.
My new CF comes over and cuddles up with me. She will put her leg over mine. She will offer to give a neck, back rub. Will do a few dances then just sit and talk for awhile. Last time I saw her she spent 3 hours hanging with me.
Hand massage followed by finger sucking. I've had a couple do that lately. Young women these days are so incredibly slutty.
Seconding ButterMan about good conversation. And she really listens to what I have to say.
Yeah - the little things - the extra-attention - i.e. treating you as if you were her man/BF instead of a john/PL/wallet.
I'm a glass-half-empty, perhaps cynical, PL - but that shit of a dancer running up to me as if I was the-greatest-thing-since-sliced-bread/her-long-lost-love, comes across as too fake for my liking and I tend not to like it nor think it's genuine in any way other than I have candy that she wants (sorta like a circus animal that does tricks b/c it's gonna get a reward/treat; not b/c it wants-to or is its nature).
For me it's if we click.
A lot of times a girl will come over and start chatting that I'm not even attracted to. My first thought it (would you please just go the fuck away) but then we start chatting and hit it off. I will get dances just based on personality as a courtesy for a dancer spending some of her time with me.
Now, if she's hot and I AM attracted to her - watch out!
Honestly, when she's just an absolute sweetheart. After doing a 1 hour VIP with a dancer last time, a dancer said that as far as she was concerned I was hers for the rest of the night. That completely did me in. We ended up sitting by the stage, as I continually handed her more cash, and periodically broke off for single dances and 15 minute sessions.
I guess to a degree it's when they do anything that sort gives the feeling of breaking away from the idea of it all being about the money. I'm under no illusions, I understand that it is business, but when a dancer makes me feel like they are truly enjoying their time with me more than with other patrons, it adds to the whole experience.
A genuine smile.
just joining us is a plus.
I know telling me about new rules on top of already wearing pasties is such a big turn off, I decided to just stay home. If you can't hardly touch at all, then it's not worth getting lap dances. If I don't buy dances, then it's not worth visiting the club unless there is a lot of hot eye candy. If I know there won't be a lot of hot eye candy and even if there is, she will be wearing pasties, then I can see more online, then it's a total turnoff. So I guess doing all the opposite things the local clubs in Greenville SC are doing.
Smile, make conversation, laugh at my jokes, don't act like I'm a creepy old fat guy.
DFK , Hugging, Kissing, Rubbing my back, whispering sweet things in my ear
^^^^ everything above
The bitches at SW need to read this thread. Hell, this should be the entrance exam to work at a SC. The "job complete" of a stripper is to make a customer not feel like a customer, but like a BF/man. I DO NOT want to be reminded that I am buying fake love. Never try to upsell me. Once I buy your time, never ask me again to open my wallet. Actually, never ask me to open my wallet, if I like you, I will do it on my own. If you never say a word about $, you will get a tip of what I think you should get, plus a bit of my personal financial state at the time. If you mention $, the fantasy you were supposed to create, and johnny, will be gone in 10 seconds. If I want an escort or a BP girl, I'd get them.
If a stripper hugs you the right way, it is a discrete standing up LD. Just a really tight hug, with a tiny bit of a rocking motion, and smelling the scent of her skin or sweat from her hair or next, and johnny will be hard in 15 seconds and pressing against her. When we let go, I know I will want her on my next visit to the SC.
DFK , hugging, kissing, back rubs, breathing hard, those are all sexual in my book.
Nothing cause EVERYTHING is sexual in a SC!
I'm going the opposite and list turn-offs:
Lacks class Too loud Talks too much Always with a shot glass shoved down her throat Always walking around the club in circles like a zombie Dancing everywhere except on stage When on stage, looks completely disinterested and like she wants to kill someone for dare looking at her IN A STRIP CLUB! Spends more time talking to bouncers, waitresses, and bartenders than customers
I'll go first:
I enter a club. Dancer drops everything and runs over to me and gives a warm and tight hug. If she is petite, I lift her and she wraps her legs around my waist. That's gonna empty my wallet on that visit.
A dancer sings lots of praises when I'm getting dances. Then I see her in the lobby when she is leaving - and no bye, total avoid of eye-contact. Of course the dancer is signaling - "ITC that's a fantasy. OTC - I don't know you". But that is where it ends for me. No more on her in future visits.