Getting involved with a stripper/escort?
larryfisherman
California
When I say stripper/escort I mean she's a stripper, but she escorts on the side sometimes.
I'm a major PL, but the past few weeks I've been getting close with this stripper/escort at my local club. If you remember I was trying to save-a-ho with her, and she didn't like it, but she's forgiven me now. She's one of the hottest strippers I have ever seen. Very nice and friendly. She's getting back into school (or so she says). I have major major lust for her. I'm hoping that with her starting school and a couple other changes she's made, that escorting is in her rear view mirror. We've hit the movies a couple of times, and she's coming over to my place on Sunday.
Few questions:
Is there likely to be a pimp in the background being that she escorts?
Am I crazy for wanting to date her?
What should I prepare myself for (as far as all the stuff that comes with dating her)?
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Yes, but it might not be a pimp but just a drug dealer she hangs (just friends or fucking/sucking) with to get free drugs from.
Am I crazy for wanting to date her?
No.
What should I prepare myself for (as far as all the stuff that comes with dating her)?
Dont discuss your other sexual partners, dont ask her about her partners. If she asks you, answer honestly, and then ask her. Its best if both sides remain unaware of what happens when you say bye for the night. Even if you suspect she would fuck a homeless bum for a rock, you dont want to admit to yourself and you dont want to convince your heart/dick that she actually does that. You will loose your feelings for her if you know she gives up the same experience to anybody. Just never ask about other partners but assume they are there in the back of your head, but you need to pretend they dont exist.
Not necessarily. But she will have boyfriends as well as customers.
Am I crazy for wanting to date her?
Yes.
What should I prepare myself for (as far as all the stuff that comes with dating her)?
Drama. Drugs. Wild times. Heartbreak if you really like her.
My experiences mirror Jackslash's:
-->"What should I prepare myself for (as far as all the stuff that comes with dating her)?
Drama. Drugs. Wild times. Heartbreak if you really like her."
I have a great cautionary tale to tell you, but I'll skip to the ending: the next morning, the ex-stripper with whom I'd become friends-with-benefits with, sat naked on my bed and called her (wealthy) fiance, and assured him she had just stayed in last night and slept over her parents house. The End.
Of course, there ARE stories of this working out. I'd proceed with extreme caution though.
I heard Estafador dated a hooker once, I wonder how it went for him?
Great insight guys, I appreciate it.
"I have a great cautionary tale to tell you, but I'll skip to the ending: the next morning, the ex-stripper with whom I'd become friends-with-benefits with, sat naked on my bed and called her (wealthy) fiance, and assured him she had just stayed in last night and slept over her parents house. The End."
Yep. If you date a stripper, you are asking for drama that only 14 and 15 year old girls can cook up. Your story sounds like a teenage girl and her parents. Since most strippers are damaged goods, remember you are just another boy toy in her harem, and just the way you (I assume) thrive of having a harem of girls/strippers for the ego boost, she has a harem of men/customers for her ego boost.
There may not be a pimp - depending on how much escorting vs dancing (and OTC) she does.
You should find out if she has a drug habit. I'd highly recommend finding out before she comes to your place. If she has a habit - think twice - and meet out somewhere.
It's never happened to me - because I haven't brought dancers home. But a buddy experienced a home invasion - and was tied up while two dirt bags ransacked his home - only two days after he entertained a dancer in his home.
So you should assume that this girl will continue to do escorting if you date her. Either you can live with that or you can't. I see no reason to think that she must have a pimp. None of my girls have pimps to the best of my knowledge.
I've been all over and in some weird relationships, but the closest I've come is:
1. There was an escort that I would visit when I was in town. She would spend the night with me (no charge) we would usually go out to eat, sometimes party and always have sex. We would sometimes have breakfast the next morning then she would leave. Eventually she found a much older guy and she didn't have to work any job (at all) after getting with him. That would be my guess on the ONLY reason she quit escorting. My only guess on how I was so lucky was I was younger than her and she loved sex, and just wanted to fuck someone her age instead of all the old guys she hooked for.
For on account of a prostitute one is reduced to a piece of bread [to be eaten up], And the immoral woman hunts [with a hook] the precious life [of a man].
First of all you can't be the jealous type. She probably has many guy friends. The other issue is you mentioned she smokes every day. That's a problem. She's likely lazy and as long as she's smoking she'll never hold a decent job. The other problem with her habit is the weed man. They're going to flirt. And at some point she'll have a new weed man and another.
Do not get emotionally attached to these girls. I learned that years ago and life's been better ever since.
Which is a pretty big spin -- it's not that these girls are "real people", I think we all know they are, it's that we find out that their hustle personal is covering the fact that they're horrible people, or more often, people who have some wonderful things about them but also damage and bad things about them on a level most guys would never have run into when civilian dating. This, really, is the crux of the problem ... it's not easy to tell how much they're covering up that damaged parts that lead to drama, infidelity, manipulation, heartbreak...