Dancers as wives.
vincemichaels
Detroit
I know that the majority of members here would counsel us DON'T DO IT !! And theyr'e right. Dancers are flakier than Kellog's Corn Flakes. Do any of you know of any of your buddies, yourself, or others married a dancer. How did it work out?
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She *is* a somewhat strong willed woman, so that might have something to do with how well things have worked. :)
However, I would never marry a stripper.
20 years from now if I'm divorced and snipped, I wouldn't rule it out. Especially if she was game for an open marriage. She'd have to be in the top 10% of strippers in terms of intelligence and reliability.
We talk about their husbands and boyfriends like they are just some casual acquaintance. None are aware that their wife/girlfriends are prostitutes. And you wonder why we wouldn't want to be married to a stripper?
Even if a stripper doesn't do OTC or extras, she has been sexually intimate with hundreds if not thousands of men. A good lap dance is after all just having sex with the guy wearing pants. In the short run, this experience makes strippers a great sexual companion. In the long term, however, it can't help but mess with their heads. Their views of men and sex are distorted, and eventually this is going to come out in a bad way during a marriage.
There is also the widespread drug use that often goes beyond merely alcohol and weed, and there is the habit that many striopers develop of being extremely deceptive and easily dismissing men.
All of this would give me huge concerns in considering marriage to a current or former stripper. Sure it might work out great. But marriage is hard enough under the best circumstances, and when you add a stripping background that just adds a lot more ways for things to go wrong. I've also heard ten stories about bad marriages to strippers for every one story where it works out.
I hope this doesn't piss off out dancers. Strip clubs have screwed me up just as bad as it does the strippers, just in different ways.
Another revelation for this newbie
"she has been sexually intimate with hundreds if not thousands of men. A good lap dance is after all just having sex with the guy wearing pants."
Guess my little sweetie isnt as special as I thought.
My old boss was married - and fucking her on the side. I knew he was a big talker - but I didn't doubt his stories. However - one night - we are in his office and he starts showing me the photos he took while fucking her. She looked better than I expected - on her back.
She's become incredibly self centered - since she's been single (and not in a committed relationship) for many years. She's got a great job and a nice salary too. Not sure if she saved any of her dancing money - but I'd probably get hard just seeing the balances in her investment accounts!
The reason I would never marry a stripper is simple. There is too much drama in a strip club. Just about (read into that - not all but just about) all strippers I have become involved with fall to something inside the club: club drama, having sex with customers, drugs, prescription drugs, alcohol, money issues, loser boyfriends.
Again not all girls are like this, I would say in all my stripper relationships over the years, I had only messed with 3 that were completely normal, and them stripper would be no different than them working another more socially accepted job. Some have fooled me, where for a long time I thought they were normal, then eventually the drugs, or alcohol abuse is exposed.
I can think of a couple girls who will make awesome wives to someone when they hang up their heels and g-strings. But I also know those girls give a nice grind on a guy's hard dick, and that would be tough for any boyfriend to deal with.
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I would consider dating a stripper once, to try it out. If I felt I could trust her, I might even trust her for a while. My concern would be that once the relationship got a little rocky, and they all get a little rocky eventually, it would be too easy for her to cry on another guy's shoulder and eventually stray. I'm sure it would drive me batshit crazy, but it might be worth the ride.
For one I think the logistics make it unpalatable, she's working nights and weekends when I'm off? She's going to bed a few hours before I wake up?
Secondly I'm not sure my ego would take it. Wondering what she's out there doing with whom... This would be compounded by how much I've partaken in this hobby.
Lastly it wouldn't fly with a good portion of my social set.
Those latter two are probably not the most admirable reasons but they're the truth.
I could see amateur guys saying - "Hell yes! It would be incredible having a hot dancer as a wife - great sex - hot body - woo hoo!"
For a FORMER stripper, I think the key question for me is: the personality traits that LED HER to become a stripper, and the personality traits that grew in her WHILE she was a stripper. I have kept in touch with a number of strippers, years after they've finished stripping. The partygirl tendencies do tend to reduce drastically with maturity, but a lot of the other personality traits -- entitlement, inability to keep promises, lack of willingness to accept responsibility, low self esteem, poor decision making, casual lying, manipulative -- just become more subtle, but are lurking under the surface, and consistently eventually become problems in future relationships. Very foolish to assume those personality traits are gone. IF I felt I truly knew her well enough that I knew those characteristics were gone -- or at least, not more manifest than in any other person -- then the fact that she'd been a stripper wouldn't bother me at all.
One of my mom's best friends, who she danced with, has also been married twice. She was married to an anesthesiologist ($$$) then divorced and remarried another guy in the medical field. She herself is an RN.