Are most dancers lesbians/bisexuals
In the past. I danced for alittle over a year and during this time i came to realize that i like girls better than men.
I would pay more attention/give eye contact to the girls more than the guy i was sitting with, to the point where countless of these men would end up asking me if i like girls. I didnt even realize this myself i started to really recognize these signs after being asked on numerous occasions. Mindyou i never came in with feeling for my own sex, at least it was never this intense. When i began to evaluate things i came to the conclusion that these things might have lead me to drift apart and had no feelings for my opposite sex:
On many occasion i had guys come up to me asking for extras ( sex). i would reply: No. It happened so many times that i was beginning to think that they were asking me hoping that one day i would give up and then say yes and follow through. This disgusted me everyday. Just them coming up to me asking if i do or assuming i do in the lapdance area. Ive even had guys that would try to take his d***k out and try to penetrate me inside the club. I was sick to my stomach of how they would behave. Maybe i was too sexy for them, they cant control their urges. It got to the point where i would only do table dances, which does not include grinding on their crutch, stage dances or i would only sit and talk solely to married men who i knew would not want to meet me outside the club or try anything slick inside.
I used to sit and contemplate;
Im selling an entertainment ( im very good at dancing, i was told this a million times). Probly the only reason strippers have to be half-naked is because we dont want accidents or injuries occuring on the stage. I know many poletricks and i can imaging if i had to perform some of my moves with jeans or t-shirt on, id be slipping and sliding all over the stage. By being up there half-naked i never told anyone i was available for sex for a price. Im selling an entertainment, to keep you amused and thats all it is. You might say i have no respect for myself to be half-naked showing my body to countless men, but i still have enough respect left for myself to not prostitute myself. For the more than a year that i have been dancing, i have never left the club with a guy nor had sex in the club and when i tell people this, they never believe me. They think that this is something dancers have to do, like its apart of their job, its not.
Ive had guyz spending cash on me then get to asking if i do extras. Id reply
I would pay more attention/give eye contact to the girls more than the guy i was sitting with, to the point where countless of these men would end up asking me if i like girls. I didnt even realize this myself i started to really recognize these signs after being asked on numerous occasions. Mindyou i never came in with feeling for my own sex, at least it was never this intense. When i began to evaluate things i came to the conclusion that these things might have lead me to drift apart and had no feelings for my opposite sex:
On many occasion i had guys come up to me asking for extras ( sex). i would reply: No. It happened so many times that i was beginning to think that they were asking me hoping that one day i would give up and then say yes and follow through. This disgusted me everyday. Just them coming up to me asking if i do or assuming i do in the lapdance area. Ive even had guys that would try to take his d***k out and try to penetrate me inside the club. I was sick to my stomach of how they would behave. Maybe i was too sexy for them, they cant control their urges. It got to the point where i would only do table dances, which does not include grinding on their crutch, stage dances or i would only sit and talk solely to married men who i knew would not want to meet me outside the club or try anything slick inside.
I used to sit and contemplate;
Im selling an entertainment ( im very good at dancing, i was told this a million times). Probly the only reason strippers have to be half-naked is because we dont want accidents or injuries occuring on the stage. I know many poletricks and i can imaging if i had to perform some of my moves with jeans or t-shirt on, id be slipping and sliding all over the stage. By being up there half-naked i never told anyone i was available for sex for a price. Im selling an entertainment, to keep you amused and thats all it is. You might say i have no respect for myself to be half-naked showing my body to countless men, but i still have enough respect left for myself to not prostitute myself. For the more than a year that i have been dancing, i have never left the club with a guy nor had sex in the club and when i tell people this, they never believe me. They think that this is something dancers have to do, like its apart of their job, its not.
Ive had guyz spending cash on me then get to asking if i do extras. Id reply
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In regards to your other observations, each dancer is different and each has their own perspective on what they can handle as part of the job. Each has her own boundaries and AA long as you so what's right for you you can still dance and be somewhat happy with it.
I'm a female customer and bonafide lesbian. In my vast experience I have encountered many, many bi and bi-curious dancers and a small amount of lesbian ones. I think that there are more lesbian dancers that will never come out at the club, even to a customer like me. It would hurt their business too much if the male customers knew it.
Its like competition or a challenge for them, and they love that.
But I gotta ask- are you sure that they don't think that you are bi? Then they would think that at least they have a chance with you sexually.
Interesting that you use the word dyke. It's not a word most actual lesbians seem to like. It's rather derogatory. Are you even a dancer, or are you a pissed off customer that just found out his ATF is gay?
Jamaica
It must be intolerable being gay and trying to be yourself in a very closeted and homophobic place like Jamaica. Or have they become more tolerant? I seem to remember some very ugly anti gay shit going down there a few years ago.
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Many live with girls but still like men.
I also know some dancers that like to dance because they are in charge, in control and have all the power over the men in the club!
I can imagine as a lesbian (?) Krystal would be put off being constantly propositioned for extras. But also have to say, surely it comes with the territory of dancing in a SC.
And to close, I just have to say, if you are a lesbian, well, I'd like to see that! I think it is very hot watching two beautiful women together.
Asking a healthy heterosexual man to not want/desire to have sex at the site of a beautiful nude woman dancing/moving in sexually suggestive ways is like asking a person not to sweat while standing out in 100-degree weather – biology is biology.
Many people want to have their cake and eat it too – i.e. many dancers want everything to be on their terms with the paying customer having no say – i.e. many dancers want to turn-on men and get them to give them all their $$$ but god forbid the guy gets in the mood for sex from the actions of the dancer – it’s just a part of the job – just like a doctor having to deal w/ sick people.
Suppose a man is walking on the sidewalk and he sees a woman thru an open-window getting dressed; most would say “look at that perv looking thru that open window at that woman getting dressed”.
Now let’s say it’s a woman walking on the sidewalk and she sees thru an open window a man getting dressed; many would say “look at that perv guy getting dressed with the window open”.
@Papi - I think you are mistaking a dancer being pissed off at a guy not accepting that a "no" is a "no" and being disrespectful with one that is happy doing dances per her terms, regardless of the gender of the patron. Not every dancer is ok with extras, and pushy customers demanding more from her than she's comfortable giving is not acceptable and can quickly turn a dancer off to whoever is doing that, male or female.
Sstrip-clubs are sexually charged atmospheres with naked women all-around thus probably leading to more temptation/curiosity than in most other environments.
Absolutely – I don’t like someone forcing me into something I don’t want (e.g. badgering me for dances or VIP when I’m not interested) – I think most of us are in agreement that no-one including dancers should be pushed into doing something they don’t want to do.
But when I hear from dancers about customers “always asking for sex”; I don’t necessarily take-it as the same custy constantly asking for sex; but that multiple customers ask for sex and just being asked once by multiple customers seems too much for some dancers to put up with especially for one that is not into men.
Dyke is derogatory but really only if you're using it to be mean or hateful I guess. At least that's the way we feel about it. i think it's more descriptive than anything. Mrs sea was getting her eyes checked today and apparently the 2 women working there were unattractive lesbians. They kept pouring compliments on her but she didn't like either of them. I wasn't there and have no clue what they looked like but when she texted me that both the dykes at the eye place were saying this and that to her (how gorgeous she was, beautiful her eyes were, how great her hair looked, etc, etc...) I immediately had an image in my head. I guess it's derogatory AND descriptive at the same time. When we hear dyke we think manly and are simply using it to be descriptive.
I do think a large chunk have some bisexual experience. I'm not counting just drunken make-out sessions, I'm saying there has to be at least clit rubbing or pussy licking by one party. If I recall something like 10-20% of young women have a serious bisexual experience at least once, and I bet strippers are way higher than that. Still probably less than 50%.
LUGs are just playing hard to get with men. They ruin it for actual LGBT people.